This really speaks to me as I am going through something similar. The image and feeling of being reduced to ashes after everything is so true. Maybe you should tie an image into each stanza after you talk about each time there was an "incident". sort of showing the reducing of yourself to ashes. great poem. great feelings.

I loved this poem!!! That is one of the worse things to go through is someone cheating and it does kinda make you feel like you are turned to ashes. i thought this was deep and thought it was written very well. And if a guy did that to you even once, he isn't worth the emotion and effort cause you are a sweet girl. But it is the bad things we've been through that makes the best poetry, so nicely done. :)