Lady's Challenge

Hi Mr. Larry,

thanks for participating in that contest.

Here is my comment:

First, I noticed how you wrote "boy friend" rather than "boyfriend." So this guy is a friend that is a boy. He is not a lover. Is she seeing him as a potential lover and wants to change him? The title is thought provoking.

Lady's challenge. . .

hmmm, some girls tend to want to change their "boyfriends" but also their friends. It's sad. It's a huge mistake in my opinion. I believe a change starts within ourselves. And when one tries to change someone, there won't be a change unless we give them their time to change own their own... plus one shouldn't expect anyone to meet our expectations ...

Though what I think about this poem is that is ambiguous.

One, the title on its own makes me think that this particular lady's challenge is to be his girlfriend. She wants to analyze (learn how he is, learn how his thinking works per se) to later find his weakest point ( per se) to slowly entered into his life ( deconstruct him) and rebuild him - help him grow...

There was a quote that goes something like " in order to construct one must destroy." I have always associated that quote to nature. We humans tend to destroy nature in order to construct our homes, buildings, etc.

So this girl is trying to do something similar. The difference is that she is not destroying but actually just deconstructing: analyzing him, to dismantle him to make him shake to his knees and finally fall for her, and later rebuild him to match her expectations. I wonder what her expectations are? She could expect that if she gets in a more intimate phase with him, he would become her boyfriend?

I'm probably overthinking too much, but your poem gives me room to do that which I like.

The second interpretation, it's just that she probably wants to change him to take advantage of him. She comes off as a manipulative girl.

So all in all, I'm trying to look at the intention behind the expectations and trying to think as to what type of expectations she has. I like the word "deconstruct" to "dismantle"
it's sounds less harmful than the word "destroy."

Well written Mr. Larry.

There is so much to like about this poem. First of all the title. There are so many things your thoughts go to. Then when you read the whole poem It's like ah-ha! It totally fits! The technical form of the poem I really love because there is no punctuation needed at all until the end. It flows so very smoothly and tells a great story in the world of relationships today. We all want to changesomeone into someone thatwe want instead of loving them for who they are. Anyways. This is a another clever poem that is true for this society we live in.