I really like how reflective this piece is and the emphasis on what defines "elegance".... is it in the way we appear, the way we act or hold ourselves? It could be flattery or it could mean, like you wrote, that we carry life in a certain way. We are classic, simple in our most basic design. I also like how you give examples of how you might be elegant, yet you're still brainstorming, not fully buying the idea this person has said. The last stanza is beautiful, you don't go into much detail but it leaves it open for the reader... we all have "warm/soft" spots where we may be seen as sophisticated perhaps, yet this person holds this perspective of you, and their mind is where elegance begins.

Thanks for sharing; have a good day!