Loving this!

I can so relate to this, and I really like your layout short and choppy, it works well for the theme of the poem.

I can picture this as a relationship between two people and yet the main thing in the relationship seems to be silence, insecurity and perhaps arguments stemming from such things.

I totally agree with this part:

and distort where
our focus
should be?

I thought this was greatly worded to produce that point.

I like your title choice for the poem too, I think it really does show that place of real insecurity and lack of trust, the ability of defence in where we push everything around us away, just to feel that safety.

Very deep write for a short little piece. I enjoyed it.