I'm going through a lot with my father right now. I don't know if it's because I'm facing a monumental moment (to me, anyway) of turning 60 this summer, or due to the fact that he needs guidance at his age. I've never been a daddy's girl (my parents divorced before it became a thing) and lived with family before going into foster homes. Right now, I feel as if I should be guiding my father but he's always valued his current friend's ideals and, most importantly, how good they make him feel. The more attention you give him concerning how great a guy he was, "back in the day", the better. Because I know him and what really happened, I can't "make pretend" he's a great guy. What I'm getting at is sometimes they won't care when you die (my younger sister passed away a couple years ago and it was like he thought they were there to see HIM. Just to let you know, sometimes it's just not about you but about his deficiencies. I was hoping this would help but atleast shows me that I'm not alone.