When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you haven't done want I asked. When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldnt feel this way, you are crushing me and my feelings. When I ask you to listen to me and you think you have to do something to solve my problems, you have failed me, strange as that may seem, LISTEN, all I asked is that you listen to me. Don't talk or lecture me just hear me. I can do stuff for myself, im not helpless. When you do stuff for me that I need to do for myself you contribute to all of my fears. When you accept a simple fact, that I feel what I feel, no matter how crazy or unimaginable, then I can stop trying to convince you and just get about whats behind these feelings and once thats clear the answers are obvious and I wont need advice. Feelings make sense when you know whats behind them. Just listen, please just hear me. If you need to talk wait a minute for your turn--and then I will listen to you!
