Violent relationship

My name is alisha im 23. i was with my ex fiance for 2 years and a month. he beat me and called me cruel names. disrespected me in ways that your could not imagine. he wanted me to give up my career and move with him to new york,NY. he tried to segragte me from my family because they werent part of his "american dream". i ened the realtionship and started online chatting. in one room i met a lil girl age 16 i met her in the room along with a man named mike. for a while things were great but they my lil friends (16y/o) got in the way and managed to make mike hate me my ex got in the picture and is asking for my forgivness. i have no clue wat to do. do i really want to risk everything again?

I say..NO WAY..
You shouldn't have to do what he tells you to do just because he has a dream. tell him you have you have dreams and he isn't part of them unless you really like this guy and want to get back with. and if you do then sit with him tell him how you feel about him and tell him that unless your willing to change for me then think about giving him another chance!!!
But thats just my opinon. you should listen to your heart!!!
GOOD LUCK!! with what ever you decide!!!!
Fillie

The first time anyone disrespects you, hurts you, degrades you, or tells you what you haft to do that is enforced by punishment is absolutely the worst person to know. dont risk trying it again, im getting sick of mothers friend who is i suppose addicted to a guy who is abusive. she seriously cant stop going back. dont become like her, make your own life dont live the one someones else wants

First off.
Your making no Sense Woman.
If you don't take risks there is No lesson to learn.
Don't look back and say "I would have had it so much Better."
Go with the Obvious choice that doesn't hurt you Physically.
If this online guy hates you, so what?
Don't give your bastard Boyfriend another chance.
You know you'll just get Abused again.
Woman, you need some SERIOUS counciling to get your life back on the right Track.

Theres more to my life than that. if u want to knwo y i want to hold on to him so much u have to look back when iw as 7 and my parents divorce when i was 11 my dads and alcoholic and my mom is addicted to meth. see he showed me he can love me but the hits meant nothign cuz i knew deep down he was someone else

The hits mean nothing until he gets so mad he kills you. If you want an abusive relationship, go with your ex, if you want a real, healthy relationship you already know what to do. It is sad how women or men for that fact (because it does happen the other way around) defend their abuser and make excuses for them. I hope it is not the kind of enviroment you would ever bring a child into. If you want to destroy yourself that's one thing.

No!! dont take do it!

once an abusive person, always an abusive person. unless he went to therapy for his abusiveness (is that a word? lol) then he isn't going to change! you need to get out while you are still ahead before it just starts all over again.

I ToTaLly caN reLate wit Ur ProbLemz boUt beIng aLoNe,a BroKen FamiLy and dat is the main reason why we tend to stick to that one person who showed us importance...trust me gurl..i know xactLy hOw iT feeLs...But im tellng you, if you go back to him, you totally are destroying your self, your life and everything bout u...i know its difficult to face the world without that one person whom u loved and loved u dearly...but things are different now..hes not treating u right...look around, you deserve sum1 definitely 100 times better than him...if he trully loves you, u wudnt be here posting all these...and let say he really does, then he needs sum help or sum counselling or sumthin...for he cannot love sum1 until unless he has sum self respect or self love..