Why does everyone have to judge cutters and depressed people?

There are all these topics on the discussion boards about how your not really depressed, or that your just seeking attention. Well some people really need to vent, and sometimes the best way to do it is through somebody you don't know. So, maybe. While your sitting there smirking as you think of something witty to say to the cutters, why do you actually think of the pain somebody might be in. Its fine your lifes so great, I happy for you. But don't judge the people who may not be that happy.

Cutters:Some do it because thats the only way to know they are alive. It become an addiction. Everytime you need it more and more.

Depression:An illness, or a distinct feeling. Mostly occuring after a tragic event in ones life, death, lost relationship, etc.

So why do you shut up?

I actually have read that poem already, rated and commented. I encourage every one to read it. Its very well written and true.

Rachelx

Rach - i'm a cutter, and i'm not seeking attention, and i'm not proud of it, i just wanted to say thanks - i'm sick of seeing people acting like they know exactly what's going on in our heads. Thanks =)

No problem, I just hope I got the point through. Its not a game, it isn't fun, and nobody's proud. And they are only making it worse for other people.
Rachelx

I guess some people would cut for attention, that could be a reason, but they give other cutters a bad name. I, for one, do not cut for attention... and i don't mean to sound stuck up but i don't post on those boards either, 'cause i'm definitely not proud of it... i'm not going against what you said, just adding to it.

take care,
xx, PorteR

I personally have seen nothing that would make it seem like a competetition. Maybe you have, but if your a cutter, do you really want to see all those discussion boards up saying that your looking for attention? Some people might not actually be cutters, but most are. And most don't want to see that. And the attention cutters and a few others inspired this, because how do you know whats going on in that person's head? You don't. You shouldn't judge somebody and thier feelings if you don't know them. Its not right, and its unjust.

It may be true people cut for that, but my point is, not everyone does. So it's not fair to say, attention ALL CUTTERS, or something like that.
Rachelx

I know, it isn't, that's why i don't even dignify them with a response.

I agree...I just personally have not seen that. I mean, in the future if and when I do, I'll certainly say something. And I'm pretty sure most of those people probably don't cut.

I did before, but a friend really wanted me to stop. So I decided to stop. I haven't done it for 4 weeks or so now.

Why do you ask?

i have never cut, but i also understand where people would need to cut, i do get depressed and i dont like how some depressed people or cutters do it just for attention. but i have found that most cutters, that i know atleast are really sensitive and listen well and they are the nicest people i know

Alot of cutters are nice people. They just have it rough. People who do it for attention are just insensitive to the fact that there are people out there that really do cut because they are in pain. Its sad you know, that people are really that oblivious to why people cut.

Not neccessarily. See thats a hard question to answer. It all depends on the scenerio. If he/she needs someone to notice, and somebody to care. Then, yes its attention seeking, but not the same type as if you getting on your computer and saying, 'OH LOOK! I DO 3 STRAIGHT UP AND DOWN, HOW MANY DO YOU DO?' Then that's just flat out careless, and attention seeking.

No, your not seeking attention. Your just makin special efforts to cover them up. If it put somebody in discomfort then I mean what can you say, 'Sorry your lifes not worth cutting over, but mine is?' People just need to learn that cutting isn't a game. Its not fun, and nobodies proud. Let me rephrase. Nobody who does it because the only escape is a knife or scissors is really going proud. Cutting's an addiction. Its hard to let go, but sometimes you have release it somehow.

I know exactly what you mean. I just really hope that things go better for you. I hate the fact people cut, I hate the fact I used to. I understand why you do it, I understand why I did it. I just don't like it. They won't hire you though? Is that legal? I'm thinking not...

Well, it easily solved. Longed sleeve shirts, there is ways to avoid it. You could try working at Hot Topic, I don't know if that a national store. Its insane down here.

I am surprised Jacki hasn't come here and thrashed you all.She did it to other ppl who defend cutters

Oh, lol. Its night there. Got it, its morning here! Well goodnight, and hope things go better!

Im glad someones finally raised this topic! I myself am sick of listening to people on thiz site sayin people who cut themselves or say they are depressed are attention seekers! Actually depression runs in my family so kt and lisa marie SHUT UP ALREADY!

In my response, I guess I didn't think that out. But it is in fact, everyone has a judgement about cutters. Despite anything you say. It was about TIME somebody came on her and stood up for cutters because people get onto these boards and completely bring them down, all the time. Just because a few morons decided it was okay to get on and fake cutting, doesn't mean you have to make the rest of them suffer. I'm holding my opinion, and I doubt it will change just because I said something you don't like. I didn't like the people got on the boards and did that. I don't feel I have done anything hipocritical because I have not got on these boards and done any of the things read above. So your saying its okay for somebody to bring somebody else down just because they need to vent. Sometimes I wonder if people really think out why cutters cut. Maybe instead of sitting here, bringing people down, those people could be out doing something productive. Like helping. As I said, I will not change. It's not my fault you don't like what I have to say. Im perfectly okay with what you said, it just doesn't change my opinion, and I don't agree with you.
Rachelx

i don't understand why it has to be talked about so much, i mean yeah most of the poems on the website are about depression and the different ways people deal, mainly beacuse a HUGE percentage of poets on here are teenagers, and while everyone has problems and always will, it just seeems so much harder for us, so we try to do things about it, and i think its awesome if a person can go on one of the discussion boards and ask for help or be helped, but when people just waste time talking about "judging cutters/depressed people" and "how many cuts" etc. they are just being stupid.. Yeah people have it tough these days, EVERYONE DOES !! but if you seriously can't handle reading about their misery then read another section of the poems! I dont know how much sense that made to others, but im just gonna shut up now.. im done.. I wish all of you the best, and i hope you can find other ways to vent then self harm! please take care!
~lots love

Okay, Im sorry I missed the part where I directly pointed my finger at you. I never said I was the only one. I'm sorry your getting worked up about this. Im not one to dwell, lets just call at truce at let this go. Frankly, im quit tired of this. Are you not?

hey Rachel your very right about that whole judging thing i myself am i cutter im was also a pill popper as well and at 13 thats not a great thing ..im not in therapy or anything cuz mom thinks she has it under control her method: ignore it...but oh well uhhh yeah anyways i gtg bye

The reason is because they think there are other ways to solve our problems, they judge us because they think we are crazy maybe we are maybe we aren't.We just have different way's of solving are problems.I'm a cutter and a burner and a pill popper because my life has went down the drain and i'm happy when I feel pain.

omFg you are so right everyone quit judging us we are who we are sorry were not all smiles and shit but that aint who we were born to be!

Grow up, everyone here! Really, I honestly don't believe anyone here is old enough to think rationally. Actually, there is scientific proof of slowed brain growth involving reasoning and logic in teens. It's the last part of your brain to finish developing, so listen to your mom until you're twenty. I know I listen to her.

Yay!

Rachel i soooooooooo agree with you.. i get so pissed off at those who judge what they dont know....

depression is only a symptom of what your body is trying to tell you .... Homopathy is the best way to go on med... the fckin doc. dont know sht... really i have been on 50 anti-depressants and i swear they only made me worse .... now im on none..and i dont really feel like om going out of my mind anymore...

Observation:

If cutters don't like judement, why do they freely judge others?

Not all cutters judge others....I dont......I cut end of.........Its up to other people what they think of me I dont really care

FZA, it's an observational response to a thread titled:

"Why does everyone have to judge cutters and depressed people."

You've answered my question perfectly, thank you.

I think people who judge self harmers, mostly just don't fully understand/havn't been there themselves.
Others are just bitter because of what they've been through.
And others just seem to be bored and don't really give a toss how their words affect others.

I guess FZA is right in some respects, we do all seem to judge each other in some degree...

xxxx