Death of a family member

My great aunt died of cancer Monday Night. We got the call from her husband on Tuesday Night telling us that she passed away. It struck so hard. Everything just fell. She was only 61, she still had years to go. I ended up calling all seven of my aunts and uncles. I didn't realize how cruel people can be, to even their family. My aunt and my mom were the ones that bursted out bawling. My other aunt started crying a little, I could hear her. But everyone else just was like okay, whyd you call me for? Well it felt like that. I know they didn't know her well, I didn't know her well but she made me feel like part of the family when others don't even make an effort.

I wanted to ask you all what you thought of these two questions I'm about to ask.

1. Chapters. Do you think life has chapters? Can a life be a book and then the chapter suddenly stop without an end?

2. Don't you feel guilt when someone in your family dies?

My opinion:

1. Yes. There can be chapters in a life, but sometimes there is no sudden end but yet there can be. Almost like a book leaving you hanging right when there becomes a part that hooks you.

2. Yes. I feel guilty right now. Valentines Day just passed and I didn't even have the heart to get a Valentines day card and send it to her. Nor did I call up just to ask how she and the family was doing every month if not then. I didn't send her letters, I didn't comfort her through the pain. By that I mean I didn't act as if I knew her. I didn't call, send letters, or anything like that. I feel so dang bad. I wish I could take it all back and do those things. I caught myself thinking about sending her a letter, but I can't because, she's not on earth anymore. Shes a spirit. And it's just it's getting hard with all the things I could've done and didn't stuck in my head.

Yes i agree...there can be a chapters in life, when 1 person passed away, its called a chapter of his/her life though its not on earth but in other world like hell or heaven! life is not a book coz life is no ending.. well yah u die but in the other world u still alive and starting a new chapter of life!

2nd question? i was felt guilty when my bro passed away last 2006 coz i felt its all my fault why he die! when i saw him in the hospital i felt so down and i felt im dying when i saw him hardly fighting his death. more when i saw his tears.. and i realize that my bro still wants to live.

as u know my bro died when he was only 23 he got a 9 months old baby that time and his wife is only 19.. so that was really hard and its not so easy to accept. but one thing i realize that theres a reasons why it happens!

now, im already moving on but there are times i was thinking about him coz i really miss him so much!

My great uncle died a year ago or less or more...i knew him..i liked him he would show me cool mind trick games..and one day i get home.parents are like pack a weeks worth of clothes your great uncle died and like that we were on the plane to new york...(jewish religion-buried before sun down the next day...something weird like that...) but through out the whole day i was at the funeral i never felt any sadness for him..i could see that his kids and grand kids did...but its true...alot of people dont rele show emotion for relatives.. but i think theres something wrong with me but i think that you should feel soem remorse...something...not nothing...

and life only has chapters if you like to think about things like that. i kinda see "chapters" but i dont call them that...there just a time period-ignorance time- and so on...but if you like to think in chapters thats how you think, everyone will look at that differently..

1) i think life can be in chapters for some, whereas others its just a long continious story. i dont think the chapters really end suddenly themselves but the book can and often will. i hope when my book ends its a long and interesting one, but not one too long that it bores. the death of somebody close doesnt have to be the abrupt ending to a chapter of our lives, i think the moving on part is the gradual ending instead.

2) no not really. ive never lost anybody that close to me though. my grandad and a few extended family members so ive been pretty lucky. well i did feel a bit bad when my grandad died. he was in hosipital a couple weeks n i only went to see him once. know one knew he was gonna die, he'd had a stroke n was getting better. then the night after his release from hospital he died from bleeding in the brain. i felt a bit bad for not seeing him. but people die its life and one day we will die too.

Well yesterday, I felt so sad for my great aunt but a happy sad. Happy yet sad that she is in a better place, sad because she had to leave us.

It's just like I wasn't suppose to cry, she wanted me happy. She wanted me to smile cuz thats all i could do. And at youth group, I did a prayer for her family down in Flordia for her and yes I did cry but I felt burdens being lifted.

Saad, death is something hard...i know, its really hard actually, espesially when you are close to the person. and, its ok if you cry, sometimes its good to let your emotions out, just never feel guilty, it was her time to die.i konw what you mean by feeling guilty though, like how you couldnt do anything about it, but like when its time, its time. yo know? well, i hope you feel better!

Thanks a lot everyone!