Bisexual

I have told my parents that i am bisexual
and they do not understand im in love wit a girl in my skool
but my parents cant get it throu their heads
IM BI PUT UP WITH IT
what should i do
im thirteen and my parents think im to young am i??

No your not too young to know your sexual preferances....your parents will eventualy see that there is nothing wrong with it...just give each other time

I dont think you have to go to a stupid doctor or anything like that! you are who you are!! and if your parents dont understand it.. well then they will get over it eventually!!! if you understand yourself ppl will come to understand you also! dont worry things will turn for the best in the end... if your in love then you know what your doing...

^^ I think you're right... however I feel that she's not talking about sex... but love...

I think people here are muddled with labels here... The girl's parents are confused with the whole "coming out"... However I think the girl needs some more time and reflection to truly be comfortable with the label and announce it once she is sure of it...

Yea u have a point and i am not trying to argue but doctors dont allways have the freggin anwser to everything i think mabey she can think about it and mabey she is just curoius.. but how is a stupid doctor gonna know.. huh... how is a doctor or a therypist.. gonna fix her.. NOTHING IS WRONG WITH HER!!! i am not trying to start a arguement but seriously... she may grow out of it.. or not who knows mabey this is who she rly is... i know ppl who were sure that they were gay at like 14 and now they are in their 30's and still are... so who knows but doctors dont do anything...

Their are ppl out their that at 13 or whenever thought that they were gay or whatever.. grew up.. and found out that they rly were.. so who knows.. and her parents will yea.. like you said figure out that what makes their kid happy should make them happy..

yea i know but that doesent mean it works for everyone!!! i have seen therapist after therapist about suside and cutting but nothing has helped what finnaly help in the end was me finding myself and not a single word that they said to me ran through my head in the prosses!!! so yea i hope the best for your daughter but no it dosent help everyone

At my school there are many people that're bi...but i think people that do this make this decision way too quick...you really should take lots of time to think about it, if this is what you really want. and at the age of 13, well that's extremely young, to even know what love is, and how do you know who you love in that way. Definitly take time...lots of time...

I agree with you ^...and i word things wrong sometimes...i meant that they're experimenting with others but then they claim to be bi...they really do, and it's just too fast of a move to make

My best friend is bi and i still love her but im not bi....i don't treat her different

I found out i was bisexual when i was 13, so i dont see how your parents can say its "just a phase." I know not everybody is the same, but if that is how you really feel, then it was good for you to come out to your parents. Honestly, i would have waited a little longer; I didnt come out till i was 15. but if you think youre in love and you think this is the girl youre going to be with for a while, then its right that your parents should know.

I was bi-curious when i was 11 o.O although i never though of it as being bi back then....
I still havent told my parents i dont really share any thing with them actually i dont share much of my personal thoughts and feelings with anybody (trying to change that)

Parents, friends and people around you they will soon come to the idea even if they dont like it, you are you and you really cant change that...

Sarah: I'm sorry but I'll have to disagree with you're thinking. Nowhere did the girl mention about sex. But actually she was mentioning love. I think assumptions are rife when looking at this thread, the girl gave us little information, and we merely filled in the blanks as it were according to our own opinion.

You're right in thinking that any parent would be shocked and blame themselves, at the notion that their daughter deviated from the norm, however, we must take into consideraton, whether being bisexual or gay is a choice, or something we are born with.

Nature and Nurture...something that has been debated for centuries.

I think the poster, may be young, but her feelings may be real, we musn't discount it.

I agree with you!! if she made a choice she made a choice and it may stay that way or change whats the worst that could happen!! if she is talking about love its not like she is going to jump right into sex! and about her parents they will soon see that if their daughter is happy then they should be happy for her also!

You are not to young to know, but that doesn't mean your parents won't still think it is a phase, some of that will be their own denial, but also because for a lot of young people, it is just that, a game, a phase, attention seeking. All the really matters is you do what is right for you, I don't even think it was something you really needed to share with them right now, but kudos for being that brave.

At 13 do you really know what love is? I remember when I was 13 all I could think about was playing with my friends and just having fun, falling in love was the last thing on my mind."

Well, you have to ask the perspective 13 year old on that...Most will say yes, again, we can't really tell who's truly in love, or merely wearing goggle glasses. Again, we can't really say, until we look at the perspective person.

I think nowadays, teenagers are becoming more and more mature for their age, with the advent of technology, the lines of innocence and maturity, are truly blurred.

Wow
i didnt expect that much feedbck
but i read all of it
im pretty sure that i am BI but not as sure about bein in love
I told the girl in skool and she is like takin it well
shes bi also
but ive been thinkin about her nonstop since thursday
im hooked on this feelin an i cant get rid of it
SHe is the person i want to be with
I THINK i love her
wait i DO
thanx to everyone who responded
and keep goin
i guess it is just a weird time to come out like this
and dont worry im not gonna do anythin like SEX

Everyones lesbian/bisexual/gay
Its's just to what extent you are lesbian/bisexual/gay
Be what you want,
Don't let yer parents choose what you are.
There's nothing wrong with being bisexual.

I think it's kind of a fad for young teenagers to be gay or bisexual (I'm not accusing you of simply following a fad, but perhaps that's how your parents are looking at it).

On the other hand, you're at the age where you're trying to discover who you are. And it's perfectly natural to question your sexuality.

In my opinion, you are right in telling your parents that you think you might be bisexual. On the other hand, try to understand their point of view and not be so adamant about it. They're probably just worried that you're rushing into something without really understanding what you're doing. That's what parents do, they worry- so maybe humour them a little.

In the mean time, continue things with this girl, and see how it goes. The only way to really figure out your sexuality is to experiment a little bit, I would think.

Good luck. :)

Thanx people
they do think i am followin a fad but i really dont think i amm
but thats there oppinion

You know what, ive actually been with more girls than guys in my life, and at age 21, i am still not a bi sexual. i am really into guys, but everyonce in a while, i like to do the girl thing. I still find girls attractive n all, but i do not consider myself bi sexual, im still very much bi curious. just give it time sweety and it will all come together.

Thanx guys/girls
im so sure i am although my parents arent
its really hard with them
but thanx for the feed back
i am who i am !!

Don't worry... they'll accept it when time goes by... at least you're safe in the knowledge that this isn't a fad... and you're parents will come around to that...

You should do what your heart says thats all. believe in urself.

I don't think ur too young. You can't stop u feelings. Just tell ur parents "hey i am in love. If you really love me than let me be who i am." i mean it's not like ur a prostitiute and ur sellin ur body. Now THAT would b wrong.>_<

Thank god i am not

Thank god i am not

Gd luck to ya
hope ur parents come around
just show them its not a phase
theyll eventually get over it
or learn to deal with it

xx