Do I move on or not?

So I need some really great advice. I was with this guy for a lil over a year. The first 7 months of our relationship was perfect. We never fought, it was great! But after that we hit a little bump in the road. We did overcome it but it was hard, it started us having diagreements on issues. We broke up four months ago. We were very serious togehter, and I really thought everything was going great and then out of no where he broke it off. We didnt talk that much for the first month after. But now we are doing pretty good, we have even come to agreements and talked about what went wrong. We have truly worked everything out. But he is with someone else, has been for about two months now. My problems is that he tells her he loves her but he tells me he only thinks he does, he says things to me all the time bout when we were together. I am still in love with him. N I truly believe he still loves me to. And no matter how well we are getting along, besides the fact that we are stilllllll hooking up, he will say to me "I jsut cant go back to you". I have tried to understand why he would say this and why he is with a girl that is more like a sister to him when we have true love but I cant wrap my head around it. I dont know what to do, I WISH i could move on but I am afraid if I do I will miss out on our last chance to be together. Do I let him go? Not be friends at all? How else am I suppose to get over him. There are so many more details so please feel free to ask if you need to know anything else in order to help me. I am just so lost and confused on what to do.

I'm going to work this one through by comparison to my own life, I hope it just makes sense! I had a similar issue as yours, I dated this one man, and we were in love for almost a year. We broke up over complicated issues, and about 11 months later I was with a new guy and quite in love with him. That's when I started talking to my ex again, he started calling me and letting all his bottled up feelings of love come out. I got sooo confused at that point; I had truly thought we were over. That's when my heart split into two different sides, it seemed like the old me wanted to go back to my ex, but the new happier me screamed "NO, this is perfect right where you are!" Eventually, my ex realized that he was hurting me and my new relationship by throwing all of his love onto me, and he backed off for awhile. In that time, with him not all over me, I could step aside and re-evaluate my love life, and I truly realized that I was in love with my current boyfriend and not my ex. What I'm trying to say is, maybe your ex needs some space to re-evaluate his love life. Step back for awhile and let him try and see who he can really see himself with in the future. He knows you still love him, he just needs space to decide.

God, its so hard, i mean i love this guy more than anything. i know that i should move on but i am so afraid that if i do back off his feelings will die for me completley because i wont be around to remind him of them... its hard but thanks so much for the advice its good to hear it from someone other than fam, and friends who tell me the same thing over and over.. anyone else want to add feel free to!!! thanks, im a new member to this website but i really am liking it, i think it will help, and i can tlak about things without being judged!! thanks

He is with someone else. He loves you so much that he is only willing to talk or hook up, but then returns home to his gf? You should stop questioning why he is doing all these things and start asking yourself why you are allowing someone to obviously use you. We can come to love many people but that doesn't mean we are meant to be with them.

I think he's just using you. He knows that you still have feelings and will continue to hook up with him if he wants to, so he's taking it.

That aside- you need to leave him alone. He's with somebody else now and you need to respect that. It's going to be hard to get used to, and it will take time. The time it will take to move on will be shorter if you stop messing around with him and bringing your hopes back up. Plus, have a little decency. How would you like it if your boyfriend was still hooking up with his ex? Seriously.

I know he isnt using me cuz we have only hooked up a couple of times other than that we just chill n talk.. hes never started any of the stuff we do.. I think he is just confused and afriad to leave his g/f because he gets things from her and such.. He has promised me that when we have hooked up he did it not to use me but because its different with me and we have such a powerful history.. he hooks up with his g/f .. and if he wanted sex n such from someone else as well, he wouldnt be doing it with me, he was with me for a long time, we have done everything, and he is the type of guy who can get it from any of his friends, he wouldnt chose me if thats all it was about, deep down there are all our feelings for each other still there..i truly believe this and if i didnt i wouldnt be putting myself in this situation. i have been cheated on and i didnt like it but this to me is honestly different idk

Yeah m,y ex-bf said the same thing, he is still and always will be my ex lol I am not sure why you came looking for help, when obviously you like the situation you are putting yourself in.

^^exactly

If you truly believe that he isn't using you then you're going to continue to allow yourself to be walked all over. And I feel bad for his new girlfriend because she deserves better. Just because you two have a history doesn't make it okay for him to cheat, where is the logic in that?

If you've been in that situation, like you said, then you should know. The answer to your question is move on, it's as simple as that.

Yeah think about the girl he has know
hope u can move on

xx