Pregnant

Hi my names leah im pregnant 16 years old , had a bf of 3 years n cheated on me with my sister now im stuck.... any advice

Ok my post has been DELETED! & now i have a violation! but basically all i said was your boyfriend is a bum hole. you need to ask yourself if you are ready to have a kid? n forget the bf n think about the pregnancy.

Yer well iv always wanted a kid n i really wanna have it but i cant really do it by myself.... i still love my ex but yer he just thinks everything a joke

Leah: You mustn't rely on your ex... you along with your parents must make a decision as to what to whether to keep and provide for the baby...

Forget about your ex... and move on with your life...

Well i dont think hes ready for a kid. and what he did with your sister is unforgivable. forget him, move on and become strong for you baby. your baby needs you now! good luck with everything.

You say that you've always wanted a baby? You're sixteen, how long is always? Don't take this in a way that seems like I'm some adult preaching at you, but honestly hon, I know most teen girls start to think about how nice it'd be to raise a family in the future, but is this really how you envisioned it? Having a baby with a man who cheats on you with your own sister? Girl, don't even honor him by calling him YOUR boyfriend. You're better that, every girl is. Get him out of you and your baby's life, you should spend this time figuring out how you're going to support yourself now, and heading to the mall with your friends to go pick out some cute baby stuff! That's what a pregnant woman should be doing, I know you're scared to make this alone, but you have to think of the baby and yourself. Do you want a man who cheats on you in your life forever, do you want your baby to grow up thinking cheatings okay? No, if that baby is a boy, do some lucky girl a favor and raise him like a man, and a real man wouldn't cheat. If it's a girl? Teach her how a man is supposed to treat a woman, and that NO ONE should have to stand for cheating. Good luck.

Yeah well since i was like ten iv wanted a baby lol.i adore them my friend had a baby at 16 shes now 17 and she got a commision house but has a bf who supports her and i cant support myself cause i wont be able to work, iv thought about nearly everything but its really hard thanks for all your great advice it helped alot xx leah

First of all your boyfriend should'nt have been fooling around with your sister. That is just wrong. But like everyone above has been saying you can't rely on your ex simply because he doesn't seem to want a child and is to immature. You need to let him go and concentrate on being healthy and having a positive support system.

Secondly I am not saying that having a baby at your age is wrong but have you thought about how hard it is going to be having a child and still do the things that you do now? it won't be possible. a baby is a lot of hard work and you are still young yourself. On the other hand if you always wanted a baby and are content and know the resposabilities that come with having a child then enjoy. they truley are a blessing.

Thirdly if you don't have a support system there should be places that you can go to that will help you with your situation such as family services which should help you with daycare and parent classes.

Yea all that is true. i have let my ex go but the thing is that 6 months ago he would of been over the world that i was pregnant cuz iv taken a test before and when it came out negative he was really upset cause he wanted a kid he had names ready and everything. after my sister we got back together cuz i loved him ( i regret that now bytheway) then cause he felt bad for cheating he got really depressed and started smoking pot every now and again and the past 2 months he smokes it every single night , a day wont go past where he doesnt smoke it. iv smoked it a few times but i didnt relise it would change him but it has he just doesnt care about anything anymore. and my dads side of the familys very religeous and is against abortion im not really against it especially with different situations. i do know that its know to kill it though cause mine has a heart beat its 7 weeks old

I'm not going to preach at you or anything but, if you need help. I'll be here.

I know how hard it is because I've had a friend that almost went through that and her bf left.

Yer if i had the dad or just someone id be fine the only thing im worried about is money everything else doesnt matter to me like what everyone else thinks of how young i am n stuff. but yeah i need money to live...

My best friend has a baby. shes always stressed out she cant go out cuz she has to take care of her daughter shes always depressed. you too young to know what to take care of another like i dont mean it any rong way im 16 too and i say it myself... do your parents know? will they support you? babies are expensive and ur gonna lose ur life because a baby demands too much... are u gonna drop out of school? theres so mny things you have to ask urself and theres always adoption good luck and if u need to talk u can always come to me take care

Whoha, Brigitte said it all! Raise your baby to be a gentleman if it's a boy, the world needs more of them, and you can't raise him or her properly unless you get rid of the cheater. Please don't look at abortions, if anything adoption is a possible choice

Do you's get money when you have a baby?
Here, if you have a baby you get a baby bonus, from the government. Which is a couple of thousand dollars.
Anyway I think you should keep the baby. Whats stopping you from working? You can work while your pregnant then take maternal leave.

Yer here in australia we get $8,000 dollars in 3 payments after the babys born.i dropped out of school last year and i have a fulltime job. and i do actually have a nother bf who knows about the pregnancy and he says whatever the choice i make it wont change anything between us.iv started going to counsilling at the hospital so they can help me with wat desision i make.ill let yous know when iv made it :) thankx for all your help xx leah

WELL...
FIRST OF ALL YOU DONT NEED THE BABY'S DAD TO RAISE YOUR BABY! HE BACKED OUT AND HE WILL REGRET BECAUSE HE WILL BE MISSING OUT... THAT IS HIS BAD...
FOCUS ON YOURSELF AND HOW CUTE YOUR BABY IS GOING TO BE AND HOW YOU ARE GOING TO RAISE IT...I HAD ALOT OF FRIENDS WHO WERE YOUNG AND HAD BABIES... IM NOT ONE OF THEM BUT ALOT TOLD ME ABOUT THEIR EXPERIENCES AND SOME OF THEM NEVER HAD THE BABYS DAD TO HELP THEM...THEY MADE IT...AND HAVE MADE IT SO FAR...
DONT LET NO ONE TELL YOU...YOU CANT HAVE THIS BABY...BE STRONG AND HOLD ON... NOT ONLY BECAUSE OF YOU BUT BECAUSE OF YOUR BABY....
GOOD LUCK!! YOU DONT NEED THAT DUDE!
AND AS FOR YOUR SISTER...SHAME ON HER!! FOR EVEN THINKING OF MESSING WITH YOUR BF....
ANYTHIN U NEED IM HERE FOR ADVICE!!! =]

Im pregnant and my bf cant marry me, why coz his married to another woman... but i dont care, ill just focus my self with my baby and make sure she will be healthy..
dont stress out ur self, that would affect the baby and u dont want to add more hassle to the existing injury

Well i want to have it but the thing is if i do my mum said i have to fine my own place to live i cant hang round and bum off her for the rest of my life loL so thats a problem too...

Yeah I agree
but seriously gd luck with whatever u decide

xx

Dont keep the child it will break you in more than 1 way

You should have your child...... erm.. also my mum had my eldest sis at a very young age and she coped accept i don't live with my mother i live with my dad its a good enviroment.... don't worry about what others think. think of yourself. you will have a good child and you will be a good mam xxx

Im 6weeks pregnant, and my bf doesnt believe that its his baby.. =(

Because we slept for 2 nights only and he says that he widraw it. his the only man i slept with for the past 5 yrs//
i feel bad about him denying the baby but i just dont wanna think of that right now... im really really sad and felt alone, but i have no choice but to stay strong

Hie thanks, i surely appreciate that comment. your so nice, thank u again

I have one thing to say. Think it over long and hard!

My mom had me at a young age too, she partyed and everything but so? All I care was she had the HEART to not do abortion!.

Please if you do decide not to keep the baby, DON'T do abortion. Please?

But I do hope you decide to keep the baby.

Double Post. Sorry.

Really the decision is yours but if i was in your situation I would probably get an abortion im so sorry to say this but if you dont have enough money to support it and your age you have your whole life ahead of you and besides the baby isnt born yet so it wont be classed as murder. I know it does hurt very emotionaly as my friend just recently got had one but it is not your fault just remember that you are doing whats best for you and the baby physically and financially. I hope this helps

Cheers

Im keeping the baby, i cant do abortion though i admit i helped some friends before who wants to abort their baby.
i just hope that i can keep my job for good in that way i can sustain all my needs and so as the baby needs.

Stronger & Better i know what u mean bout abortion but she can also think of having the baby and putting it up for adoption if she cant support her cuz then at least a child has a life and abortion may not be murder but its a sin ur killing an unborn child and the bad part is its legal it may seem like a good idea abortion but really it isnt

Okay, well you need to decided weather you'll keep the baby/adopt it away/give it to your parents/keep it. Sort that out. If you keep it, and your on your own you'll need to sort out some sort of income and how to finance for the baby's needs (finace corse? sounds lame i know). Have you told your parents? and if you plan to live at home are you willing to live with your sister? would you have been staying with your boyfriend? possiblities of getting public housing? or even fostering it to close relatives/ friends till you finish school/get together life and carrea.
Theres so much you must concider. The boyfriend (DICK) must be dealt with after your baby, if your really early on in the pregnecy then you may be able to spend a little while on sorting out shit with the dickhead/ finace from him/ taking him to court about the baby. AND your sister. you shoud sort out the shit with her. I'm not gonna say "familly's closer than boys" or some such shit. if you find that she has deemed herself worthy of your forgivness if she has done stuff with dickhead. Although if it really is out of control i'd suggest keeping her out of your life for a while.
ALSO teen pregnecy couciling? it may be a good idea if the pregnecy is causing pain. And of course because of your long term realtionship. You may feel quite awful, therapy even may help.
It is most important to think of:
1. what will happen to the baby
2. Your mental health
3. your relationships

in that order too.. although the baby and your mental health are pretty even.

I hope things turn out ok