Punished

So it seems i am being punished for what i did 4 months ago...I didn't cheat or anything i just kinda lost my bf's trust...but i earned that back...or so i thought i had...he is talking to all these girls and says that it's nothing...but whenever i talk to a guy i get the 3rd degree...thats not really fair because he can talk to whoever the hell he wants to and it's "nothing"! I don't know what to do...I'm so lost

Yeah, can't you just talk to him and tell him that you don't understand why he can talk to every girl and you can't talk to anyone? Just ask him and tell him how you feel about it If he loves you, he'll understand

Britt's right. You're letting some boy dictate your life. And it's not worth it. You should tell him that he has his girl friends and you have your guy friends. Don't do things just because he wants you to. No one has the right to tell you what to do with your life. Because that's a decision you, alone, should make. And besides, if he really cares about you, then he wouldn't be hypocritical. And he would let you have the friends you have, rather than trying to be the dominant one.

Any particular reason as to why you lost your bf's trust...?

Well it all leads back to a very good friend who happens to be a guy that i shouldn't have trusted...

Really what did this very good friend do to arouse your suspicions...?

Your right...i just don't know how to confront him....

Britt: That's very harsh... I think first we must ask why her bf is acting this way...

There is two sides to every story ya know

My friend decided he liked me after he broke up with his gf...and he tried to get me to break up with my bf...i liked my friend but i love my bf...Well my bf found out, he took it the wrong way...i mean how else would you take that...and i lost his trust...

Britt: I feel you but the boyfriend is not controlling as far as I can tell... All I see based on the information given is a girl insecure in her bf fidelity... she needs to deal with it...

Okay how bout we quit talking about me and my situation like im not even here....My bf is controlling when it comes to guys because he is insecure and i am also insecure because i am afraid he is going to take things to far with a girl then thats it...were over because of a mistake i made 4 months ago

Lol... Sorry kati but you summed it up, your bf is afraid you'll leave him and you vice versa... sit him down and give him the reassurance he craves and he'll do the same...

Sometimes men get jealous and revert to possessive behaviour... its quite funny...

Britt: Lol... devils advocate is the only tactic I know...lol

I will try that....thanks...both of you thanks for the advice..

"a person is only jealous and distrustful when the mirror reflects the same within themselves....ahhhhhh"

sometimes that is not the case. I became jealous after my boyfriend did more than talk to other girls and I never did anything to him.
now I might be like that but that doesnt mean I am being dishonest or going behind HIS back.