Problems among the pieces

I usually don\'t like posting my problems for others to analyse but I\'ve reached a point where I need as much help as I can get.
I lost my boyfriend to a car accident in december. All I know is that the last time I was with him was the last time I remember everything making sense. I\'ve been lost and a complete mess since then.
It seems so obvious to everyone that I would stay single for a long time after such a traumatic event but... here\'s my situation: I went from having someone who loved me more than life itself someone to be intimate with to... nothing.
So I\'ve started hanging out with this guy, Matt every day after school (well, everyday I\'m not working) we\'re really intimate, I even slept with him the same day I first kissed him (something I made my boyfriend wait several months for). Now he wants to be boyfriend and girlfriend and I don\'t want that... like, I don\'t get those butterflies when I think of him, I don\'t find him partictularily attractive, he\'s just really cuddly and always available when I need someone to be with.
My mom says that what I\'m doing is wrong, but it doesn\'t feel wrong. It just seems really simple and uncomplicated.
To me, he\'s not relationship material for the simple fact that he doesn\'t come close to what my boyfriend was. All I want is my Tony back, Matt just helps me not feel so lonely all the time...

To be honest you gotta break it to this guy exactly how've you told me right here. To lead a guy on like this is just horrible in my opinion. There have been certain situations (not exacltly but similar to yours) where myself and friends of mine have experienced this from, Tony's, position. None of us benefitted from it.

Tell him its just that your here for me and to make me feel comfortable. You can't lead him on the way you are, because from what it sounds like it, you havent told him to his face you dont consider him boyfriend material.

The other thing is I'm very sorry about your boyfriend. It is a horrible pain to lose someone so very close to you. Although, you should move on. Grieve, mourn, and rejoice about the times you had, but don't dwell. Maybe the reason you dont have those feelings for this guy is because you've damped the wood so much he can hardly start the fire.

Well... I've told him I'm not girlfriend material!
I'm kinda hooked on him at this point though.