How?

  • broken reflection
    16 years ago

    My b/f wants me to accept myself for who I am, but in spite of all my morals and beliefs, the standard of "beautiful" for me is still the girl on the front of 'Vogue'(only an eg.) magazine. I try to accept myself, but there's always the nagging voice at the back of my head saying "you're ugly, you're too fat there, you're too thin there" etc.

    I just, sigh, it's easier said than done, especially for a teen girl.

  • Noir
    16 years ago

    Trust me when I say it takes make up and airbrushing for many models to look as they do in covers or on catwalks... I've been there...

    I don't think you should be comparing yourself to other people's standards... because quite frankly, you'd look freakishly ugly or plastic if you did...

    Everyone has a part of them they hate and vice-versa... accept your flaws... and by the way, most of these models you see as beautiful are average if not below without their make-up

  • Jaime
    16 years ago

    It's all mind over matter.

    For most of my teenage years I HATED myself. I didn't like how I looked, I wished I was thinner, I hated the way I talked and the way I acted. All I could think about was what's wrong with me.

    I think you'll eventually accept that you're not going to look like that girl on the magazine (because face it- none of us do). Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself what you like about yourself. And learn to forgive yourself for your flaws and love yourself for your better qualities (easier said than done). You have a boyfriend who thinks you're beautiful, start trying to see what he sees.

    Eventually, I got over it. And now I love myself. There are still bad days, but I'm much happier than I was before. I have no doubt that within a few years you'll feel much better about yourself too.

  • Jessica
    16 years ago

    Ah, I have the same problem. But you see, the thing is, you don't have to impress ANYONE. Not even yourself. And if your boyfriend loves the way you look, take it as a little bonus :)
    Looks in society mean everything, but if you are better and truly intelligent, looks will mean jack squat :)

  • The Herald
    16 years ago

    Us guys are dumb, trying to make yourself believe what he wants to please him and yourself wont get anyone happy, you have to like yourself, because YOU DO!, not because someone else wants you to

  • The Herald
    16 years ago

    Double post...ugh

  • TwistedAngel xx
    16 years ago

    Yeah i agree, just be who u r now coz i mean he already loves you as you are know.
    But everyone is beautiful. But sometimes we dont believe it. hey even i think im ugly sometimes too.
    keep cool

    xx

  • HumanAngel
    16 years ago

    I know how you feel - I think everyone does.

    Firstly what you need to remember are that 'cover models' are always airbrushed which means their imperfections are covered over, their faces 'adjusted' to (for example) enhance high cheek bones. Just youtube photoshopped models and many videos come up showing this process - it's scary.

    Secondly, you have a wonderful boyfriend to love you as you are but I know how hard it is to believe that yourself.

    I still believe the same as you just not as much - this is because I know my boyfriend loves me as I am. All I can suggest is maybe talk to your boyfriend about how you are feeling and have a heart to heart

  • Shellaine shelli
    16 years ago

    I also understand exactly how you feel.
    I spent a lot of time in hospital with anorexia and bulimia
    because I felt that I was not good enough
    But the previous comment is so true.
    99% of the pictures that you see of models and celebs
    have been photoshopped.
    And another thing is that we are all made he way that
    we are meant to be.
    I have mainly got guy friends and they all told me that they much prefer dating a curvy girl who has confidence and promotes her inner beauty which shines through her outer beauty as opposed to a skinny girl with low if not no self esteem.
    No matter what you see in magazines beauty is only skin deep.
    and you are beautiful for who you are so don't change for anyone because I can assure you its not worth the pain it causes