Falling for another

I love my b/f to death (or at least want to believe I do) and we've been together for almost 7 months, but lately I've been very deppressed and don't know where our relationship is going to go. I can't even look at my b/f without feeling really sad. That is because I think I'm starting to fall for another guy. He's an Korean exchange student (everyone I know calls him Korean Mykee (pronounced Mikey) because his name is Mykee) who is living with a nice couple in my neighborhood. He is 18 and is in 12th grade at our city highschool. I'm 19 and in college so I don't get to see him much, but since he lives kind of close to where I live we see each other sometimes after we both get home from our schools. We've gotten to talking a little bit recently. (He's only been here for 2 months and is supposed to be only staying for the rest of the school year which for us ends in mid June, but he says he really likes it here and is thinking about starting college next uear in the USA) He is really cute and the last few times we've talked I think he was kind of flirting with me. I've never told him I have a b/f. The subject did come up once and I just changed the subject. He did end up telling me he just broke up with his g/f a few weeks before he came. I'm really deppressed over the situation and don't know what to do because I have a wonderful b/f now who loves me and treats me really well, but I wonder what could become of things between me and Mykee (if he goes back to Korea in a few months I'd feel really bad because there's a chance he won't come back and I'd be devastated if we were going out). My b/f keeps asking me what is wrong and I just keep telling him that I am fine. Every time I see Mykee my feelings seem to become stronger and I don't think it is just a crush, I think I am really starting to fall for him, (and I don't really want to). He is really cute and funny and nice and helpflu.l (The other day he offered to help me carry some of my books to my house because I was carrying way more than I could hold and the other day it was snowing really badly and he was going around the neighborhood shoveling snow for people in the neighborhood, when he came to my house he shoveled and wouldn't accept any money like he was asking for from everyone else). My b/f hasn't met him and I don't think he even knows anything about him because I've never said anything and he lives at the other end of our town than I and Mykee do. But lately I've been so deppressed I can hardly eat or sleep and it has been really hard to stay focused at school. I feel like total crap for having feelings for another guy but as much as I try to pretend like I don't have these feelings every day they just become stronger and people are starting to get suspicious. I just want these feelings to end and I've been having horrible daydreams and nightmares about some lengths that I'm thinking about going to get rid of these feelings). I just don't know what to do.

You don't want to fall for him, but you avoid telling him you have a bf and you avoid telling your bf about what's going on. It's not fair to leave your bf hanging on and wondering what's up, it is his relationship too and if it means that much to you, you should want to be open and honest about what's happening. When you start spinning that web you are sure to get caught up in it.

Yeah be honest with your boyf
dont keep covering it up
he will find out and dump you anyway unless u try and work it out first
gd luk
xx

Yeah i deff. want to try to work it out...but I'm just afraid that my b/f will dump me because although I do think Mykee is flirting with me and likes me...what if I'm wrong...Then I'd be all alone and miserable again and I don't want that, but I don't want to just come right out and ask him where he stands because I'm afraid he may take it the wrong way if he is not interested. Also I really do believe I love my b/f or I would not have been worried about telling him for fear of hurting his feelings...So I am torn about what to do.

"what if I'm wrong...Then I'd be all alone"

This seems more like your worry and all I can say is that is the chance you take, what would you do if the shoe was on the other foot and your bf was doing what you are?

^ I'd just hope he'd not go through with anything if it were only a feeling for someone and he didn't know them real well. And also as long as I didn't know (and again he didn't do anything) I say no harm done.

To be honest i think you need to break up with your boyfriend regardless of what you're feeling, it's not fair to be stringing him along like this. If you had any love left for him at all, you'd let him go. It's unfair for him to be an unwitting pawn in this situation, you would be devaststed if it was you.
Break up with him and then you're free to decide what you want to do, if you can have other feelings for someone when your supposed to be in love with him, there's nothing stopping it happening again, do the right thing and don't hold onto him just because you're scared of being alone. You know it's not right and he needs to know. If it was me and Marcus in this situation, i would want him to tell me so we could work it out or go our seperate ways. And vice versa. I couldn't stay if i knew i had feelings for someone else, it's cruel and unfair on him.
Good luck
*Gem*

^Yeah you're right...I'm going to go talk to my b/f later today and try to work things out.

Follow your heart....you do have a bf, but if you want mykee, go for it, just end it correctly with bf. Just follow your heart...

Please do. You have to put yourself first by all means, but not at the cost at hurting others more than you have too
Good luck m'dear

You're deliberately not telling somebody you are in a relationship because you want him to think you are available to him. And you're deliberately not telling your boyfriend about your new friend Mykee because you know that you're kind of guilty. Do you realize how deceptive you're being?

Break up with your boyfriend; at least have a little respect for him. What you choose to do about this other guy is your business.

I told my b/f last night about the whole thing and we mutually ended the relationshp. All he said was that he wanted me to do what was best for me and if it wasn't him he wanted me to find the one that was. After we hung up I cried myself to sleep realizing how much he actualy cares for me and how stupid I must be to throw it all away not even knowing if the other guy will be right for me. I kind of think I made a bad decision...but I think I'll give it some time and see where things go.

Good on you.
I hope things work out and u r happy..
all the best

xx

Good luck.

xXx

I havn't heard from my ex since, but I did see Mykee yesterday. I tried to avoid him but he came up to me and started talking to me. I think he was still flirting with me, but I just wasn't interested. I mean I do like him as a person, but I just didn't feel interested in him in the same way I think he was interested in me. And all I could think about the whole time was my ex and how much I missed him. I guess my heart is telling me what to do...Or is it? I don't now anymore. Do you think I just wanted Mykee when I was going out with my ex because I couldn't have him and it was just thrilling to want something that was forbidden or do you think I really liked him and I'm just upset and confused now and when I get over my ex I'll still really like Mykee? I don't knoow but I'm leaning more towards the "I want my ex back because he was the best thing that ever happened to me and I just needed this experience to see it!" If I still feel the same way in a few days I'll try to talk to my ex and see where things are, but I don't know right now.

I talked with my b/f yesterday, we decided to give it one more chnace. I appologized (sp?) for everything that has happened recently and he hesitantly forgave me saying how much he missed me and still loved me. Also I have heard from my friends how Mykee has been flirting with a lot of other girls at his school and that they all turned him down and so he was trying to go for me because he didn't know I had a b/f. I think I'm going to try even harder to keep my distance from him for a while because he doesn't seem as innocent as I once thought and I have someone way better than thet who would never do something like that to me.

Sometimes it takes something big like this for you to realise how much a person means to you. It's great that your boyfriend is going to give you another chance.

Good luck =)

Em xXx

I don't like this Mike kid. He sounds like... you're going to get screwed. Just my opinion...

And as for you bf, I agree with Gem. Don't toy with his emotions, its not right.

Me and my b/f are doing great now...I havn't talked to Mykee since...I guess he wasn't all he was cracked up to be..(if that made any sense)... Also my b/f asked me to come over today to hang out, so I think we're doing ok.

I still think you should tell him how close you came to ending it, something is clearly wrong and it's not fair to keep him in the dark even if you did pick him he has a right to know

We talked about the whole thing last night on the phone and he told me he'd be devastated if I ever chose another for real but he'd let me because he wants whatever I think is best for myself...Then he told me how much he cared for me and he told me that he wants to get married to me in the long run, but that he wants to wait to really discuss it untill later on (like when I am finished with college and stuff like that).

Well thats great everything worked out
i think the mykee thing was just sometimes we need excitement or things feel boring but u look at other guys instead of trying to revamp what ya got if u no wat i mean?
neway gad ur happy
and gd luck with it all

xx