**Almost a year

Alright so me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year now (in april) and we are happy together...well i know he makes me happy and i put all my effort into making him happy, but we are always laughing and having fun and just really good, and he knows i love him but he doesnt love me...:( And i know i may sound dumb right now but you have no idea how it feels to tell someone that you love them and put your heart and soul in their hands and have them just hand it right back to you...we've talked about it before and he told me that he cares about me and he has love for me but he's not in love with me because this is his first serious relationship and he's not completly sure what love is...i told him i love him 6 or 7 months into our relationship and i have been dying to hear it said back to me...but i still havent and i just want to know what im supposed to do....can i do anything?

I'm sorry to say this hun but you really cant do anything all you can do is wait until he figures out that he loves you or that this is truly wat he wants and im sure here soon he will tell you that i mean you have been together for a year now something good will happen soon ok hun...jus keep wit it and be strong like you have been

I understand what you both are saying i just feel like im losing him and im just not ready to except it right now i mean i just dont know what i would do without him....i cant go through a day without talkin to him and i cant go to sleep without him saying good night....i just wish that i made the same impact on him life but it seems like even if i did..he wouldnt tell me...

I just need some more advice...

please???

I kno wat you mean wen you say you have to have him say goodnite and you have to hear his voice or see him before you go to sleep..i kno how you feel lol but i dont kno wat to tell u hun

I can see why that would definitely be rough to have to go through. Everyone wants to hear that they are loved. However, I think he's treating you very respectfully. Unless it seems like you two are getting -worse- together as time goes on, then I'd say that it's just good that he's being honest and open. You'd rather have him tell you the truth than have him tell you he loves you, but have it be a lie, right? So he needs time... that's understandable. Love grows and develops. So give him his time, especially if you think that that's really all that he needs.

Just think of it this way: when he finally does say it back, it will be the most amazing moment.

The same sort of thing happened with me and my boyfriend, he kept telling me that he loved me but I didn't say it back because I knew I wouldn't mean it. Then, after months of my ongoing replies of a smile or a kiss along with an "I know you do," I finally said it back; "I love you too." And the look on his face was incredible, it was the most magical moment ever. And it sounds so soppy and cliche and oversaid. But it really was. So keep on holding out, it's better that he's not lying to you and, when he finally does say it back, you'll be so happy you'll want to burst.

Good luck =)

Em xXx

First off, I want to say Congrats to you. :) I remember you used to make zillions of posts about your problems with him, and I find it amazing that you've lasted this long.

As for your issue, there's unfortunately nothing you can do. He'll say it when he's ready, so don't push it. It takes some people longer than others. At least he isn't saying it just to say it, and now you know when he DOES tell you that he loves you it will mean a lot.

Yea i understand what you are all saying..but one thing i forgot to mention was that i am shipping off to boot camp for the navy on june 30th and i have no idea what may happen when i leave...he said he wants to be here for me when i get back but im so scared to see what may happen so i dont know i was just thinking that if he loved me by the time i leave i wouldnt have to worry about him not being here for me when i get back...right?

If he didn't love you at least a little bit then he wouldn't really be with you for that long unless he is just using you. Maybe he is just waiting till the perfect time to tell you he loves you.

~His blue eyed angel forever~

Yeah....this is complecated....but this is the true obsticle that will test if he truely loves you or not, he if stays with you then you know that even through the distance he is failtful and stuff, youl be able to tell if things have changed when u talk to him and stuff......its apart of life..you know, im pretty sure you should just stay with him now but dont expect anything u no, maybe tone down how you care for him so he realises how it feels when your not completelllllllly in love with him. mayb it will make his feelings stronger

But what do i do if he isnt here for me?
I'm sorry i think i am really freaking out right now because i really dont know what is going to happen and i hate not knowing whats gonna happen.
I am stressing out about soo much right now you have no idea

Anyone else wanna help???

...please??

Thanks that did help me a little bit.

I think you should be glad he has been honest, he could have just said it because you did, but he really wants to feel like he knows he's in it, he even called your relationship serious. I think you just need to chill and stop freaking out, obviously he cares about you and you care about him. Nothing in life is !00% for sure, sometimes you just have to trust that it will all turn out the way it is supposed to.

You sound so like me, an overthinker.
you cant control everything especially the future so try not to think about it. if you find u r, distract yourself or talk to him about it.
gd luck with ur boot camp thing. personally i think ull b fine
xx

Yea we did kinda talk about it...
but he doesnt like to...so he changed the subject a little bit.
But i do understand what you are all saying and i apprecaite you all for taking the time out to give me advice...

Well i hadn't seen him in two weeks and when i dont see him and we are on bad terms i feel like we drift apart (which is why wen i leave we will hopefully be on good terms ;) ) but yea yesterday i just needed to talk to him for like 5 mins and so i just went over there before i had to pick my cousin up from work and we talked for about 20 minutes and now we are ok and everything...i just cant believe how much i missed him...i could tell he missed me too tho. So yea we are good but i'm still worried about when i leave and everything.