Adopted

I have this new cousin..he was just adopted a week ago...
He was in foster care for so long, He was beat so bad they took him away and now my aunt adopted him...
The point is the kid is seriously out of it...he is only 6 && he has just the cutest face but he is kinda strange.
He prefers to play alone && once people are around him he just zones out and if you aks him a question he just kinda stares at you until my aunt [[adopted him]] makes him talk back...
I think he should see a phyciatrist..he is only 6 && I think if he isnt helped now he will never have a normal child hood

Anny suggestions???

I think maybe he's feeling a bit scared, because its a new environment, and everything. He is only six, and having six years of the life he's had, has probably left scars for life. I think he should talk to someone, but maybe let him just ease into this new lifestyle for a while and see how it turns out.

Thanks for the advice..Ill talk to my aunt about it

I think that eventually he will need some sord of therapy... but he is only six and still trying to adapt to a new life... because i would think being adopted changes your life... give him time but just watch out for him..

He was bashed!!!!! im pretty sure you wouldnt wona talk when u were bashed so badly by people. his only 6, he probably thinks people are gona bash him again (or random people) he hardly sees are gona take him away....
poor guy, just let him settle in and a pysc? LOL, his 6, i dont think that would work.

Yea...that is what i think that he is too young to be seeing a therapist... but i guess it would also be a good idea if you asked the school, how children react if they are put in therapy this young or should there be a good age when he can be put in therapy.

Im adopted i dont think i was like that
but i do think that he should see sumbody
especially if hes that young
you don want it to get worse
im so sorry

Children often find their own ways
of dealing with situations.
He has clearly been through a lot and
may feel slightly threatened by his new surroundings and environment
as he is probably unsure of who to trust due to his painful past.
You need to make him aware that he is now in
a home where he is loved and cared for
and help him to understand no one is going to hurt him.
If there is no improvement then
it might be a good idea to take him to talk to some one professional.
as this may help him in terms of dealing and understanding the situation

I adopted a child when she was two,Can you imagine being among strangers,that you have no idea what they are like?Patience,love,lots and lots of love! Don't try to rush him,let him progress at his own pace,He probably does need therapy,who wouldn't? He will grow to trust in time.Take good care of the little guy!

My boyfriend was in foster care for 5 years and was beaten the whole time. he got put in at 10 yrs old so he remembers all of it. Its going to take a while for him to warm up to people but he'll come around. He's scared and he probably just needs a friend. even though he doesnt talk maybe go and play in the sand or swing on the swings with him. He'll find comfort if you just hang out with him and then he will eventually start to trust you and start talking.

best wishes

What i would do is jus talk to him like he's a normal kid and jus get him to understand these new people love him.
It will take lots of time, but hey, it's worth the wait.
He might one day need some therapy, or something like that or he jus might need a friend/family member to talk to when he's older.
It will all work out soon enuff! =]]
He'll be playing all the time wit tonsa ppl, and acting like a sweet lil kid. =]]
Hope I could help. =]]

To tell you the truth- noone can ever heal that scar apart from him and you need to give him time to heal that wound. If not he will always blame you . (I had a friend who was in that situation).

Imagine you're six years old. You've been through the system and back again, over and over. The adults move you on like you're a package, talking around you and using phrases and terms you cant understand. You never know where you'll be next or how long you'll be in one place. You meet new people all the time. Sometimes you spend months in a home with people who hurt or ignore, neglect you. Then it seems like forever until you are taken away, then you'rep laced in a home where the people are nice, but you dont know why they are nice. You're scared of going near them incase its trick or in case you begin to care back only to be moved on again. You get adopted, but you know even adoption doesn't always mean forever, adoptive parents can send you back too. YOu want to be normal and make your new parents love you so that they're nice to you and you dont have to be scared of being hurt or sent back again, but no matter how perfect your new parents are you cant just forget the first six years of your life, all the bad things and all the good things. YOu cant forget the foster kids you met, the ones who were nasty, but more so the ones who were nice who you'll probably never see again. You cant just suddenly start hugging strangers because they've given you a home and you cant shut off who you are or where you came from. And you dont want to forget your biological parents just because you've got new parents.

Imagine you've lived that for the last six years, the only years of your life...how would you feel?

People arn't chameleons...they cant just adapt to their surroundings at will. Trust, confidence and love take a lot of years to build. No matter what age you are.

If you adopt a kid you've got to be prepared for the fact that child might never love you, and htat doesn't make the kid bad or sick...and it doesn't mean they dont want to love you.

Adoption is a complicated thing because kids, whatever their backgorund, are complicated little thingsand they learn very quickly from whatever is around them, but un-learning that isn't easy.

Well, I think that all orphan children act the same, they live with a new family,but yet they feel that they will take along time to get used to this new life.It is a huge turn in this young boy's life because he knows he is different from other people, so he loves to bealone because he thinks that he is misunderstood by others and unfelt by people.

Try to get closer to him to spend time in talking and playing with and make him feel that he is your real brother and I am sure he will change.He just needs a person who can feel and understand him.