The older bf

Well i have an older bf he is 23 and i dunno what to do, i cant tell my best mate again cause she will hit cieling i told her that i broke up with him because like erm... she wasn't happy about it...... what should i do. x

Everyone says that.... that makse me sad no one understands that i love him and that he dosn't want me for sex i won't do it he knows i will not have sex cause i have said so he knows what i have been through with the abuse and he wudn't put me through that again.... im 16 soon but not for 9 and a half months... what can i do wait for him till im 16 cause i cant..... my parents wil kill me if they find out my dad mainly as i dnt live with my mam.... hes not a looser.

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do you not find it worrying as to why he likes a child? his brain isn't in order and you need to break it off AND tell your parents. you are in full knowledge they won't be able to trust you again if you aren't truthful now. it's not fair on them and they will have difficulty believing in you if you aren't honest.

Yeah right....... my dad will trust me forever i have done too much.... my dad wud hate me yeah most probally but like i said nobody understands.... hes the only one that gets me, look forget it cause like theres no point in having feelings on life cause like nobody understands you at all my dad won't understand the reason why i like to have an older bf is cause they understand me, what should i do break it off compleatly cause everyone will hate him. thats the only reason why i would break up with him. But hey if i have to i will.

And btw it is not against the law, its only against the law if you are having SEX but were not!!!!!!!!!

Aww huni i know exactly how you feel. when i was 15 i meta guy who was 30 and we dated for a year whilst i didnt have sex with him untill i reached 16, it was still a very destructive realationship. i thought i loved him and i was exaclty like you i wouldnt listen to everyone telling me to give him up and i ended up losing my friends and family becuase of this! when i turned 16 i realised he was only interested in sex and he turned voilent towards me and controlling i reached breaking point and i was frightened to go to the people that i needed the most my friends and family becuase i'd alienated them all. luckily for me they were forgiving and helped me through the bad times. i met a real nice guy my own age after that and whilst were not together now he will always be my true love as he treated me with respect and loved me for me. as i've got older i've realised that the people who gave me a hard time over my older bf were the ones who cared the most and i'm grateful that i had them there. i hope you think about what your doing and make the right choice to end this and meet some whos around your age bracket it will be worth it in the end. good luck xxx

Ok man.... this is why i wanna die....... noone understands that i can't live without him and i need him ok. if i loose him i dunno what id do.

Ok....... im not going against my family if my dad told me o stop then id have to but i aint said owt to dem..... but hey looks like i might aswell wait till im olda to have a guy den.

The only reason your dad hasn't told you to stop is because you haven't told him!

seriously. if he isn't looking for a relationship with someone his age then what do you think he has in mind. you're just a kid. he should know better.

Well i should know what ive been through he knows exactly whats happend to me and all go to my poems "my childhood lost" ull understand y i dnt think i am a child man i dnt feel like one

Just because you think you're mature.. doesn't mean you are. i mean heck you may be, but not in this situation. and also. your body isn't mature.

what do you think he wants you for? a serious loving relationship? you're FIFTEEN.. he's twenty three years old. you're a teenage child.. and he is an adult who should know better.

Sweety the worst thing you can do is date a man at the age of 15. He's 23 and he will say anything just to try and make you stay. im sure its not him you like its the age. You are nothing more than a game to him. I'm sorry to say this but what exactly does a 23 year old man want from a 15 year old child? You are just something easy to him. your 15 and vunerable ant thats what most men dating underage girls go for. The vunerable one. and if you "love" him or might think just rember he can find someone his own age that can give him something you can't. Just becareful. And I also as a 16 year old girl dated a 24 yer old man. I'm telling you from experience you don't love him you love his age. and i seen your poem its about getting raped at 10 guess what? i was raped at 7... your not the only one but i repeat VUNERABLE. i been in your shoes. and im sure your bf knows about this and guess wat? hes gna take advantage of it. if your dnt rlate to these other people listen to the fact that i was raped at 7 and dated a 24 year old at 16 same age difference as you if u dnt want to discuss this here message me my names alisha and im 23...

Just look at what you're putting yourself into my dear. It's for none of us to judge..but I'm sure you have a head on your shoulders. And you've already been molested in the past. It's quite clear that he has some power over you just by his age (and probably his body size as well). Don't put yourself in the type of situation where you're vunerable again. I'm pretty sure you don't want to go down that road again. I'm not saying this guy will hurt you...but we live in a crazy world so you never know. What's love to you, might not be love to him. Just consider it please.

--Viola

Yeah thts kinda disgusting....
thats really old, 17 should be thr MAX age for ur age...... you need someone who has not as much expierence like you....

Every 15 year old on the planet thinks they are mature for they're age. You're not, and someday when you do mature, you'll realize it. For the time being, however, just appreciate the fact that you have a friend who is looking out for you. She's right. You shouldn't be with him. There's something wrong with him and I'm truly disgusted that he's been able to manipulate you into thinking you love him.

Wow 8 years difference!...think when you were 9 he was 17 *ummm, can't you see the problem now*

as for the whole "where not having sex" sorry to be blunt and sterotypical but i have never come across a 23 year old guy who doesn't think about and want sex all the time. it is irresponsible of him to be with a minor and before long you will feel pressured to forfill certain things. all i can say is there is a reason these age groups don't usually mix..they are in different stages of their lives, open to different worlds. he is able to drink, drive, go to clubs, vote and many other things. he is an adult. you are a child, in school who should be hanging out with friends, watching movies and enjoying life...there is plenty of time for older relationships later.

Thanks to all of your help me and him are over i relised what is the point in it, cause its all about the age in peoples eyes if he was not 8 years older it would be ok, so we decided to forget it. he said to me "i don't want you to loose your family" i know that sounds like he is trying to keep me, but we have just called it off he told me also if i was 5 years younger it would be ok, all of this but he is not so there is no point, we are still mates and all, but just going to forget about relationship, he told me there is someone out there my age, and i said there is someone out there your age. so end of case.

And thank you to all the people that knocked some sence into me!!! xxxx

Im soo sooooooooo happy now were apart thanks to all u guys xxxxx

Your more then welcome and best of luck in the future xox

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Yeha i did think that an all but hey its ok...... but i still don't think age is a issue and all im not like that if you love someone you should work your hardest to be with the one you love its like my bro he is 19 he likes a 33 year old women and same with another mate he is 22 he is with someone that is 40 almost 41 so i don't ever find age a big deal, but hey im wid someone my own age we are getting to know each other and stuff so that is really cool. hes in my age gap aswell hes 16...... but thanks alot anyways for the advice.

Thanks ppl xxxxxxxx

Well im 14 and i was going out with a 21 year old man well this wasnt puppy love or a lil game...no!!..it was true love..but my freakin parents got in between...i didnt love him be-cuz he was 21 i loved him because he was unique...age is just a number...sometimes old guys love to go out with us the young one's but he was different it wasnt only about sex or spitin game it was beyond that he really loved me...so yea just follow ur heart..and dont listen to wat ppl tell u...u can take there advice but the only one who knows what they want is u...so yea...if he shows u that he loves u stay with him...

Look he 23 ur 15 you should think of collage n sutff n he in love with you cause if I was 23 I will find someone my age or other guy find with hot body so he love you