He got her pregnant

Hey well i've been on and off with a guy for two years and i love him more then i could ever explain. we've been on and off because he can't handle commitment and everything is perfect except this. anyway just after christmas we had an argument and i said i needed a break from him ( which lasted a week). during this time he got drunk and had a one night stand with this girl he knows. i found out a few weeks back she's pregnant by him! he said he wants the baby but he dosnt want her,and she is contimplating an abortion. he wants us to try again and said he will give me the commitment as this made him realise how much he loves me. i'm devestated as i always thought it would be me that had his first child. my friends and family are not keen on him anyway and don't want me to be with him but i still love him and want to be with him, i'm just not sure i could if he had a baby. am i being selfish what should i do?
Any advice would be appreciated please :)

No, you are not being selfish...is he worth it?
First you have to forget what everyone thinks because if they are holdong you back one day you will regret it... Now do you really want to be with him? Is he worth it? I was in a similar situation but i ended it with him because the love i had in him faded when i found out that he had gotten this other girl pregnant. I broke up with him because i couldnt handle the fact that he was going to have a kid... so it was over... follow your heart... getting what you want in life is not being selfish you just have to be careful how you obtain that....

If you really loved each other you BOTH would accept each other for what you are and have to offer.

I agree if you both love each other and accept each other with what you each have then work it out...

Good luck!

I do still love him but i just feel i obviuosly didn't mean that much to him or he wouldn't have slept with some else right? so i guess i have lost a little love for him. also i don't know if i could trust him again. i'm so confused becuase he's all i've ever wanted and i can't imagine my life without him in it. i think i could except that he's got a child but i could'nt except the mother being part of his life and i think thats whats holding me back!

You do have a point....
So its up to you, and yes, the mom has to be a part of his life... you might not have to see her but she is going to be there...

^^I have to agree with the above poster.

If you do decide to stay, you can't take it out on the child and you cannot refuse the mother being in his life either because whther you like it or not she will be there if they have a child together. So as someone else said, I guess you have to decide if it is really worth it.

Yeah I agree too.
sorry cant say much else but they said it for me.
find someone else.
and hope you find love.
gd love.

xx

All i can say is do what you feel is best for you and your family. Usually when your family doesnt like a guy its out of instinct and they feel that all he will do is hurt you...and he hurt you so they were right...maybe you can do better but only time can tell...

Thanx everyone for your advice i've decided that i'm gunna move on and find somebody who treats me with more respect :) x

That is a great choice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

I dont think so
he obviously cares for you and its not all his fault shes pregnant
at least he wants the baby unlike most men who would just get lost i think you should be with him
and didnt you say he was drunk
everyone does stupid things when they are drunk