What am I to do now, should I just end it??!!

Well okay here is the thing back about six years ago(yes i know six years trust me i'm over it) I was physically and mentally abused ,and was almost raped, but i was sexually molested( I was about 9 or 10.) This happenened while i was in a relationship with a boy i thought i could trust who was a year older than me. Well i got over it, grew up as normally as possible. I also just recentially told my mom that this happened. Anyway i dated two more times and started feeling comfortable and safe again( right now i'm in the second relationship it's doing great.) Well one day i'm at home and the phone rings i pick it up...it happenes to be him. I asked who it was and he told me i was like what do you want. I don't want you in my life i just want you to go away. Basically he told me he was watching me, and that any chance he had he would slit my F***ing throat. I told him to never call my house again. Well i thought it was over....two days later he called i pick up the phone and hes like don't try to hide from me i can find you... i will get you i can promise you that. I told him that i have like 50 people backing me up and he said yeah right no one would ever care for you your just a sl**, a nobody. Then i hung up..he called back ten minutes later saying he was gonna get me and all this crap. I told him the next time he called i would call the cops on him. Basically wat i'm askin for is guidance. About 3 weeks ago i started to go to church for guidance now i feel like why should i live theres no point in it. In anyones opinion wat should i do??!!?? I really need help!!

This is happening just recently, you say? Six years after the fact?

First of all- notify the authorities. What he's doing to you is clear harassment, and you need to be aware of your own safety (and the safety of others he may be messing with.) If he happens to call again, try to either record the call, or have someone else listen with you, just to get some backup proof. Do you think he actually has access to you, or is it just a bluff?

After you've talked to police (Which you should do) they'll probably tell you to change your number. Hopefully, that's the only connection he has to you, and that could make it stop. In the meantime, check out your myspace, facebook, etc. and make sure there's no specific information about you that could possibly lead him to track you down. That means descriptions or times of activities, phone number, address, etc.

Second - and most important - do not for a second think that this is your fault, or that you deserve it. Nobody deserves this treatment. This guy is obviously messed up, and he's doing what he can to mess with you, but you don't have to let him. Reach out to those you can - family, friends, strangers, whatever - and keep reminding yourself that you do NOT deserve to be made a victim.

Yes it is

I've already tried the authorities they have said they can do nothing for me since we have yet to trace the call. I am also aware that this is harrassiment and i know it is no bluff. wat i am lucky for is the fact that i'v got a very close friend that lives very close to me and could be here in seconds if i needed him to be here. Thanks you for your advice i will try to do as much of it as i can. Righ now i'm trying to get the authorities to do something but usually there answer is they can't...so that's y i blame myself, y i think i deserve this because all i hear from almost everyone one is theres nothing they can do. Again thanks for your advice i really appreciate it.

Do you know how to trace the calls? Or do they? Sorry, I don't know a lot about these situations. Would caller ID make a difference?

If you're feeling particularly unsafe, maybe your friend could even spend the night sometimes.

So, yes. I know you must feel helpless, since you're not really seeing any action taken, but again, this isn't your fault. Their inability to take action at this point does not mean that you deserve anything but good treatment.

I'll be sending thoughts your way

Yeah i am thinking of you too
please dont give up with the police
coz if something does happen they would come anyway and couldve done something before ya know?
pm me anytime u need to talk
stay well and safe

xx

Thanks guys i really appreciate it. All of your aadvice and sympathy. I'm trying to not give up on anyone, but somtimes it seems really hard not to just give up!

Thanks guys this really helps a lot. i appreciate everything your doing to try to help me.