**Told me he liked me but he's gay!?

Alright if you read my other post then you should know whats going on but to sum it up. My best guy friend told me that he liked me and yet i have a bf and blah blah blah i was confused blah blah blah. But now i'm even more confused because for a minute i felt like i mite like him too because we spend so much time together now since we are the leads in the musical and everything and idk i guess i like to be around him but now i am hearing a lot of things about him. People talking about how im just a cover up because he is really gay but he hasnt cum out of him closet and stuff and it really kindof made me mad because he is my friend and i dont like when people talk about him like that. But i thought about it and he does act kindof girly sometimes and i have never seen him with a girl...but everytime i say something about him liking me he turns bright red and changes the subject because he doesnt know how to talk to girls like that ...he's virgin...which is fine. I came out and asked him yesterday if he was gay and if he would tell me if he was and he said he wasnt gay and everything but for some reason i didnt believe him and i really dont know why! I just found out from a reliable resource that he likes someone but that its not me and that its not a gurl...and i really just dont know what to do...i think he is mad at me now for even bringing it up and i just dont want to mess up our friendship...what do i do i need help!

How long have the two of you been friends? Where did you find out he likes someone else but not you or another girl? Have you talked to your b/f about this? And if you have what does he think of the guy?

Those are just a few questions that can help me to help you.

Peace, Joe

We have been friends since 7th grade and we are seniors now...i found out from the guy that he likes because he told this guy he liked him and me and this guy talk all the time so i tell him what roberto says to me and he tells me what he says to him and he is lying to us both....yea i talked to my bf about this and he fully believes that he is gay and he is not worried about him at all...

Ok, so you've been friends for 5 years. And you know he is lying to you as well as your resourse about what is going on.

I just have one question for you, if you have a b/f then why are you having doubts and thinking you might like this other guy? How long have you been with your b/f?

Anyways, you are friends with this guy that is appearently gay, you are both in a play together, etc. Well if he is a friend, then keep him a friend, if he confonts you about going out with you then take it from there, but at the moment, don't draw conclusions.

Confront him about how you truly feel and that he can talk to you about it if he wants to and that it won't change your friendship, he'll still be your friend.

Hope I was some what of a help. If you have any more questions or concerns please feel free to ask or even PM me if you want.

Peace, Joe

It's his business if he's gay, if he is he will come out in his own time, if he is not ready you prying will most likely just push him away from you. If anything I would go and say "I'm sorry I asked you that, but I was curious because everyone is saying. I just want to say that if you do ever need anyone to talk to I am here and it will go no further than my ears." And end it there, if he wants to share anything with you he will.

He just basically asked me out yesterday after practice...I told him that he is confused as to what he wants and that he needs to just worry about that as of now...but his best friend kristen keeps telling me that "he wants you so bad!" I have been with my bf a long time. its gonna be a year next month and yes i love him and i really dont kno why i am having doubts. i think its just because i dont want to mess up our friendship and have it be akward or anything and i just love being around him and everything....

Why should you be worried? Just because you say no to him doesn't mean your friendship should change. Plus you have a b/f and I'm sure your friend that you claim to be gay knows you have a b/f

Now what kind of friend is that? I personally know I wouldn't want to be friends with someone that knows you have a b/f and still trys to get with you.

I don't care how much he says he likes you or you friend Kristen says how he wants you so bad. If it was I who liked a girl who had a b/f I would just leave it at that...I would never try and ask her out nor try and break the current relationship up. True friends just don't do that.

Ok, sorry for my little rant. But that's the way I feel about this situation.

Everything should stay the same if he truly cares for you.

Peace, Joe

Maybe he loves you, but he's not in love with you. There's two types of loves: I love you as a friend and then true love. Just don't get them mixed up or u will regret it.

I dated a guy who was gay...and lets just say that ended up BAD!
He had mixed feelings about me...and his boyfriend he said he loved us BOTH and it just ended up hurting everyone....^ is right..."there are 2 types of loves: i love you as a friend and then true love"...DONT MIX THEM UP OR ELSE YOU"LL BE HURT AND REGRET IT!