Question.

There's This Guy, And Me And Him Have Been Dating For Awhile, And Don't Get Me Wrong.
I Like Him, But I'm Not Sure If I Love Him.
We've Been Dating For Almost A Year Now.

But There's This Other Guy, Everyone Thinks Were Dating. And He Always Flirts With Me And I Try My Best Not To Flirt Back Since I'm In A Relationship, But Its Hard.
Whenever My Phone Rings I Hope Its Him, But Then It Turns Out Its My Boyfriend. Then I Become Somewhat Disappointed.
I'd Always Try To Make Plans With Him Before I Would Consider Doing Anything With My Boyfriend.

But The Thing Is He's Never Come Right Out And Said, "I Like You" But It Seems Implied.
But Then Again Who Knows.

I'm Not Trying To Come Off As Some Girl That Wants To Date More Than One Guy At A Time.
Thats Not What I Want.
I Just Want To Know, What You Guys Would Do In My Situation?

Haha.
Sorry, I Don't Know Why I Always Start With Caps.
Its Just Something I Do.
Sorry If Its Annoying..

And Thanks.. But I Don't Like To Hurt People, I've Thought About Breaking Up With Him Countless Times, But Everytime I Think About It.
I Remember How Much It'd Hurt Him.
And Hurting Someone Is Not What I Want To Do.

I Don't Know, I Think What You've Said Is Wonderful Advice.
And I Thank You.
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But what would hurt more you have the courage and the respect to say you are just not feeling him anymore or you dragging it out even longer and leading him on? Your way you will never break up with him because there will always be some measure of hurt. He would get over it and then be free to find someone who would love him. You're reasoning is actually rather selfish.

Well, I'm Sorry To Come Of As Selfish.

I Just Don't Like To Hurt People, And Maybe Staying With Him Is Hurting Him More Than It Would If I Dumped Him.
But At The Same Time, The Idea Of Leaving Him Makes Me Feel Incomplete.
I Don't Know.
I Think I Sound Crazy Here..
But Maybe I'm In Love With The Idea Of The Relationship Rather Than The Relationship Itself..?
:l

It is easy to stay in the safety of something you know, even if it's not what you want, than to venture into new pastures and potentially fail.

Yeah, I Suppose Your Right.

I wasted 6 years of my youth doing that lol Taught me I'd never do that again. I'd rather be happy and fail, than comfortable and stale.

Yeah, I Agree.

Well, you don't choose who you like. tell your boyfriend first, then ask the other boy if he likes you. you should NOT ask the boy if he likes you before you tell your boyfriend, and then use your boyfriend as a second option. that would be mean and unfair on him. it's clear you aren't very "into" him, at least not as much as the other guy.

Sarah said it all really
xx

Stop worrying about how muc you'd hurt him...everyone gets hurt.
worry about your own happiness.
ask your friend if he likes you, if he does, date him.
its worse that your bf is falling in love with you and you want someone else..

I've been in a situation like yours just a while ago..
I wasn't sure about my true feelings for him either..
I didn't want to hurt him, and somewhere, I didn't want to lose him.. But I didn't thought is was fair to him and not fair to myself if I wouldn't tell him about my doubts.. So I discided to have a break, not defenitely apart.. but just not seeing each other for a while, so I could find out what my true feelings for him were..
It helped.. I got things straight..
We finaly broke up defenitely, he wasn't happy with that dicision.. but respected it, and realized it was the right thng to do..
Maybe that could be a possibility for you.. a break, just to get things straight and to find out what it is that you want.

Well. After all your guys' advice i decided to take sometime to think about it.

So here's what I did.
I broke up with my boyfriend, and told him that it wasn't going as well as it was at first.
and that to save alot more heart ache in the end, that we should break it off now.
I told him that i liked him, He's just not the one that i see myself spending my life with.
After some argueing, and some yelling he finallly settled.
and he said, "well. I love you with all my heart, and if this is what you want to do. then far be it from me to stand in the way of your happiness. all i want is you to be happy.. But remember, I'll always be here waiting"
And Then, I didn't think it was right to go right into another relationship.
So currently I'm keeping my options open
But, at the same time focusing on the guy i'm starting to think i really care about.
I hope i made the right decision..?
Thank you, guys. for all your help.
I appericiate it.
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You did do the right thing, and if your boyfriend wants to make you feel guilty about it, then it was definitely the right thing to do. you don't want someone who will later on say "Oh, why didn't you break it off earlier if you weren't into me", with this reaction now.
good job.

Thats so weird dude, i was in this exact same situation a while ago. its actually not the uncommon to like more than one person at a time.
what i did was probably not the best thing ever. lifes to short to stay with someone u dont have fun with u know.i know that sounds corny as hell but its true. just be careful yo because flirting can sometimes be cheating depending on how far u take it, just remember ur bf's feelings u know.

just think it over though before you make any final decisions. and definitely if u do decide to bail on ur bf dont tell him its for another guy, thats the worst possible thing ever.

lol
im sorry if this is not helpful at all, i guess i probably wouldnt have handled the situation any better if i had gotten another chance.

good luck man.

I think Bob is right but not to be cocky and not to be conceeded, but I've been with 100+ girls and about 15 of them were serious relationships. I've seen and done it all and I'm only 16. The lowest rating I ever got on the hotness scale was an 8. I've dated a lot of beautiful girls, I'm a pilot with my dad, I have gone skydiving, bungie jumping, and base jumping, also I have been deep sea diving, and parasailing. I've been to China and Italy, and 90% of the US. Now thats not all of it either so I must ask. Since I have done all those things and been with so many girls I finally found one I would like to spend the rest of my life with. We have nearly everything in common and I really like her and she really likes me. So I will ask this: Is it wrong for someone my age who has done all that, that most 20 year old's would do, is it wrong for me to settle down now? Also this girl has done more then I have.

You did the right thing, it's nice to know that he understood, love / relationships are very complicated and they don't get easier with age, you are very young, you have all the time in the world to sort out feelings and stuff before you settle down.