Falling apart...what did I do wrong?

  • JAZMIN
    16 years ago

    Ive been with my current bf for 2 months and we were doing great until about a week ago when he started acting weird with me...he has been having alot of problems at home and i understand him... but i want to be there for him but he pushes me away... then finally two night ago we were talking and he was telling me that he has all these problems and he doesnt know what to do...
    so out of nowhere i asked... do you still want to be with me...and he said that he didnt know because of all the problems he was having at home...i felt hurt because I fell in love with him...
    I want to know why he is pushing me away if we were doing so good.... I am giving his space to think but I told him that if he needed me that I would be there for him... he hasnt called in the past two days...only a few txt messages last nite and thats it...
    I am so afraid of losing him because I havent felt this good and so in love in a long long time!!

  • Normal is the Watchword
    16 years ago

    Listen to your favorite songs, get a job or if your working get extra hours if you can or work harder, go for some long walks or go to a shelter and see if you can help work with the pets, read the book you wanted to but never got around to, or go to the movies and laugh harder than you ever have. Learn to fall in love with yourself while you give him his space.

  • Jaime
    16 years ago

    Sometimes people need space when they are having problems. You need to accept that, and stop taking it so personally that he doesn't want to call you when he's upset. You are only adding relationship issues to his list of problems, and that's the last way you're going to get him to come talk to you.

  • JAZMIN
    16 years ago

    Yea...that is what alot of people have been telling me...and i am giving him space.... he hasnt called me the last 3 days and has only text me twice... and he did it and not me... so i guess i am giving his space... how do i give him space but let him know that i am still for here for him?

  • BrokenREALiTy
    16 years ago

    You do exactly what you're doing right now, only if he texts you, it's good to respond -- but without the overworrying and all that clingy stuff. You were there for him; he shoved you away, and giving him space right now is letting him know you're being there for him. So chill and stop overthinking things.

  • JAZMIN
    16 years ago

    Ok...ok... i guess i am doing the right thing then...

  • JAZMIN
    16 years ago

    Sometimes i think...what did i do wrong? but i dont think i did... i was always there for him and i did nothing but love him.... but knowing how i am...i know that i will fall apart..and im just thinking... what am i going to do if we fall apart... i just feel like my heart is breaking into a million pieces once more.... i hate this.... :(