I need help...

I started to talk to this amazing girl about a month and a half ago.

We haven't met yet, but we are probably going to meet next week when she gets back from vacation.

Me and her share the same values and we have nearly everything in common.

I told her about 2 weeks ago that I loved her, but I really had to think hard and listen to my heart for awhile before I said it. I truly did mean it, and she I love you too.

Yesterday I sent her a really long message telling her how I felt about her, and she told me as she was reading it she started to tear up with a smile on her face.

I just want some people's opinions on whether I should of said I love you to her because I really did mean it when I said it, but I'm confused because I wrote an article about love and I said that love is a building process.

I would like to know if it's ok for love to develope within a month. Also I would like to know if her smiling and tearing up (which she said were good tears) is a good reaction.

Ok thanks that makes me feel a lot better because I was alittle bit confused. I've never felt this way about any girl, and I hope it works out between us. I really love her so much.

I think that love at first sight does exist..it's not wrong to love someone that quickly...and believe me the smile and tearing up thing is a Great reaction!!.it is sooo sweet!!!!...aww.
Aly

Sweetness

Sweetness?...that's an awsum word!....lol.....

If you love her, then there's nothing wrong with telling her. Love IS a building process- that doesn't mean that you don't love her now. It just means with time you will come to feel an even deeper love towards her (seems impossible, eh?). It's true though.

So yeah I'm kinda in trouble again. Everyone knows what facebook is. Well me and her had a bunch of messages between one another and I was on her top friends. I look at it today and all the messages are deleted and I'm not on her top friends anymore. I called her and she answered and I said "hey whats wrong" she said "nothing" and I told her about facebook and said I know something is up. She said she would fix it and put me back on her top friends. I said I dont care about that I want to know whats wrong cuz I know something is up. She said nothing so I was like ok bye and as she was saying bye I hung up. So I really need someones opinion on what I should do. I'm really scared right now cuz I want me and her to work.

..geez that's a tough one cos you've already confronted her about it. i'd say leave it for a while and see if she wants to open up, obviously it must be something to do with YOU because she's pinpointed taking only you out of her top friends and deleting YOUR mesages.. i'd say write another message in which she can't just say "nothing" to and ask if you've done something wrong. maybe she's upset, but who knows why. i certainly don't lol.

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This is really beautiful! And you know what? I think you will be fine. If you can fall in love with the actual person before you meet them, I think this is better. It's so hard to fall in love with someone for real today because of all the barriers that we put up that we think will help us when we are looking for love.

Congrats on this! I hope it's everything it can be!

Well I hope both of you are right. A friend of mine thinks I should send her a message saying: jasmine i care alot about you and i want to make sure you're okay, if theres something you want to talk about, then you know im here for you. i want you to feel comfortable talking to me about anything. so whats really on your mind?

Do you think I should send her a message saying that?

So I just had a friend tell me that she could be playing the "hard to get game" and she said that she thinks Jasmine deleted me off her friends and deleted our messages cuz she wants more attention from me, and she thinks that I should play the "hard to get game" as well and not talk to Jasmine for awhile, and make her come back to me. But if she doesnt come back to me then she said if its not meant to be its not meant to be. So I want ur guys' opinion on this one tell me if you would do this or not or just tell me what you would do in this situation. Oh and I'm 16 and she is 15 so if that helps then sweet. Also forgot to say that there is another guy named Prestan who she has known ever since she was 2. Her friend Nathan told my friend Noah that she is under a lot of stress and he said she talks about me but she talks about Prestan more. So I'm really confused whether she is just talking about him a lot because she loves him like a brother, and she talks about me a lot cuz she loves me like more then a friend way. I just don't know what to do anymore please help me.

Also forgot to ask whether if her being 15 has anything to do with it? Like are girls at her age confused a lot and like to play games. And this Prestan dude is 17 and a Junior about to become a Senior so do you guys think I have a better chance or no. Cuz from my point of view and a lot of other people's point of views. If you've known someone since ur early childhood you shouldn't date them because they are more like ur brother/sister. Help me please my head, my body, and my heart ache so bad right now.

He sounds like a friend if she's known him that long, but the fact that she has known him that long can also mean that she may like him also, then again she can be talking about him as a friend. best thing is to ask her about this whole mess and get it over with. If she loves you, she won't be thinking about anyone else "that way", and if you trust her; don't doubt her.

ps. i doubt one years age difference is going to make a difference on anything really.

Ok one of my friends kelsey texted her tryin to figure out whats goin on. But after that im gonna talk to her and figure out if she really loves me if she really does want to meet me and that shes not playin me as a joke or any of that bullcrap so idk im kinda lost and hurt and confused so i guess ill figure it out sometime today i guess

I think you're on the right track with the actions you're taking, I just want to add another thought in there.

It could be that she thinks things are moving too fast. Since you feel so much for her, etc., it probably feels like you've known each other forever, right? But in reality, it's only been... what... two months, did you say? Even that? She could possibly be having a little freak out because you just met each other, and now you're exchanging words of love... I don't doubt that you feel very strong and powerful emotions for her, but maybe try to take it a bit slower. Meet her, if you can. See how this goes. It sounds like she likes you, but she is maybe nervous about the progression of things so far. Does that make sense?

Yeah it does thank you and I guess I should hold back the I love you for awhile and let her call me instead of me calling her... or is that the wrong thing to do? And I'll try getting us to meet but I dont know... I'm so confused and hurt right now I just dont know what to think.

Ya know what i have to decided to post the message i sent her about how i felt about her and at the end i did say her full name but i took that out cuz like i said ya never know who looks at this stuff. but you can laugh cry or comment on this i dont mind lol :)...

The message said:

My life has been a wreck ever since 7th grade.
I got mono at the end of 7th grade and got the nickname "mono".
I didn't get to play football or basketball in 8th grade.
I lost some really good friends.
My relationships haven't gone the way I wanted them to.
My grades have declined since 2nd semester of 8th grade.
My parents have made my stress level increase.
I have taken things out on the people who love me most.
My freshmen year was good just I was still sick from the mono.
Even today I am still sick from mono.
The first semester of my sophomore year things started to get better.
But still my life wasn't fully normal again.
The 2nd semester of my sophomore year I met an odd kid.
He rode my bus and he was in some of my classes.
He was a freshmen.
The day before the greatest day of my life I had an odd dream.
I was falling and just before I hit the ground someone caught me.
It was the most beautiful girl I have ever seen in my life.
She had the prettiest voice ever.
Me and this girl walked for miles talking but at first I could understand what was being said but as we walked farther off I couldn't understand anymore.
I woke up and it was 7 in the morning.
I got on the bus and I was thinking all day about what I wanted in a girl.
When school was out I got on the bus and this kid that just came to our school was on the same bus as I.
He was talking on the phone.
I said who are you talking to?
He said a really hot girl.
I said give me the phone.
I started to talk to her and I asked this kid who this chicks name was because she sounded so much like the girl in my dream.
This kid, Kyle, said her name was Jasmine.
I talked to her for about 10 minutes and I was acting like a jackass and she told me she liked italians and football players.
I gave the phone back to Kyle because I had to get off the bus.
As I was walking down the driveway I had a flashback to my dream that night.
Then for some reason my heart felt like it was getting soft as if something good had just came into my life.
It was a weird feeling.
A good feeling.
I got Jasmine's number from Kyle the next day.
I called her but no answer so I sent a text message.
That weekend Jasmine texted me back.
We started to talk and for once in my life I felt weird I didn't know what it was that I was feeling.
We talked and talked and talked.
We finally started to like one another.
We talked for the first time on the phone a week after that.
Her voice was so amazing and beautiful.
I loved how some of her words were so southern.
Within 2 weeks I fell in love.
She was so sick from mono which made me remember when I was sick as well.
I tried to send her flowers for a surprise but my father wouldn't do it.
I wish to God I had sent those because I wanted her to know how much I really loved her.
For once in my life, since 7th grade, everything was good again.
I found someone that really loves me.
Someone that has the same values as me.
Someone who likes the same things I do.
Someone I want to love forever.
Me and Jasmine have had our ups and downs.
We haven't met yet, but if we are meant to meet then we will.
I think me and her not meeting yet has been a good thing.
I also think that it is a bad thing as well but more of a good thing.
The reason I think it is good is because I can get to know her very good and get to love her more then I have ever loved before so when we do meet and we look deeply into each others eyes I can lean forward and kiss her and she will be able to hear through the kiss "I love you".
You make my life the best it has ever been.
I love you Jasmine

Everything in this message is true even the dream which i think was really weird lol. but if that helps in helpin me out then sweet. she said it made her cry and smile so idk.

Of course you can fall inlove with in one month. I fell in love in one week. Just because you said it's a building proces doesnt mean your going back on your word. One month was your process. Every ones heartis different.

I hope this helps. And Good luck.

Age means nothing. I fell in love with my boyfriend and I was 14 going on 15, and he was 16. I was a freshman and he was a Jr. He and I loved eachother more than anything.

Well everyone this is all great advice and I thank you lots for it, but I think we have established the fact that things are moving to fast. So I'm gonna leave her alone for awhile see if she comes back to me. If she doesn't then I just got to know that it wasn't meant to be. I thank all of you so very much and I will post a new thread named "How Thing Weant" when me and her figure out what we are going to do. It might take awhile but I'm sure you all can handle that lol. Thank you :).

I think that maybe u have feelings of infatuatin for her, that could possibly blossom into love but i dont know if u can love someone without actually meeting them because people tend to be different when they arent in person, u dig?

hope this helps

Yes that helps and just to let you all know me and her are just fine now. We have decided to just be friends for now, and see where it goes from there. Which we both think that it will turn into a relationship, but if it doesn't then I know then that its not meant to be. I am finally going to meet her Wednesday and there is no question we don't care if her grandma says no because we know that we need to hang out. Thank you all for the help I really appreciate it.