Is it worth it?

I dated this one boy, Chris, for a week shy of ten months. About two weeks ago he broke up with me and we both took it pretty hard. I'd stay up til the very early a.ms listening to music and he'd spend his time at one point driving around before jumping a fence at the public pool and waiting there til one in the morning. He'd literally be crying when I tried calling him on the phone and kept saying how he was miserable.

Well we just started seeing each other again trying to make it work as friends. I know he still likes me, he's told me, and today he was teasin me while we were playing raquetball about how the ball kept going straight under the racket when I swung. He would try to hold my hand or take it once or twice and then we went back to his house and watched some funny video clips online sharing a chair, poking fun at each other.

I would always say I would never go back out with an ex because simply they were an ex. But I'm wondering if it's enough to just change my mind. I still like him, he was one of the first guys to respect.

Anybody have advice or stories about redating an ex?

Honestly, it could be lingering feelings that are left after the break-up, but the thought that comes to mind when I read this is: Why did you two break up in the first place? If you guys are both taking it so hard ... What was his reason? Because I just don't see the sense in the way you two are now -- but maybe the explaination will clear that up?

A guy I dated -- the only guy I dated that I actually liked -- after we broke-up, and even now, two years later, we're still poking fun at each other, hugging and such things that "only couples would do." It's just the way it is most of the time -- and most of the time, it's nothing quite big. You're just used to being together that way.

Redating an ex though, if your feelings are strong -- it should end up working out, but the fact of the matter is that you guys broke up in the first place. Depending on the reason, it might work, it might not. It all depends on the effort you both put into it. It's different for everyone -- and since I don't know you two personally, I can't quite answer the question.

I think I'm rambling, but just, for now ... Don't overthink it too much. Your feelings and your relationship will take its course however it may choose -- once the "future" arrives and brings something huge along with it, deal with it then instead of worrying or thinking about it too much during the present.

We broke up because it was hard for him to see me: I constantly had family troubles which made me have to cancel plans just as he was coming over or was really upset at times when he saw me. He said that I didn't make any choices FOR ME because I was too busy trying to fix the things that was wrong in my life instead of doing things such as getting a job, which I've been trying really hard at lately, and getting my permit, which i never did becuse my mom was over protective until I turned 18 so I have been studying like crazy. At least that was what his reasons were.

-blinks. But if you don't fix the things that are wrong with your life -- how could you possibly be at rest so that you can HANDLE things like getting and keeping a job? I can understand his reason, and yet at the same time I can't fully comprehend. But I still say for now, just leave it -- and if you two end up getting back together -- it could work, because you two still feel for each other, quite strongly. But he has to accept that you have to deal with things in your life that way you're going to deal with them -- if he can't* handle it, you'll both just end up like you are now.

Thanks for the advice : )