I don't know how to talk to him.

Or more like I don't know what to say. I've thought about it for a month now, and I still can't figure it out. Most of you probably are gonna read through the first ... five ? And then stop. I don't mind, as long as there's some form of advice you have.

1). I know I'm probably making this seem more complicated than this really is, but I'm a lost cause at the moment.
2). The Background: We had a summer together.
3). The Now: We had sparks flying between us up until after my birthday, when he forgot it was my birthday and coudln't show up because of work. I didn't yell at him; I didn't get mad at him, but now it's just awkward stares -- but we never look at each other at the same time .
4). The last time I looked at him, and he looked at me -- we stared for about 10 seconds until I looked away and he turned around and pretended to make a drink (he works at the cafe I go to).
5). My best friend watches him staring at me when I'm not looking -- and she's full of it with the way we're acting.
6). His co-workers and friends thought I was his girlfriend up until a week or two ago when my best friend told them I wasn't.
7). I've called him a couple times before, but he never stays on long enough for me to TALK to him -- or his best friend picks up instead.
8). He won't look at me and I don't have the guts to confront him right then and there with the vibes he's sending off.
9). My bestie wanted to confront him for me, but I don't want her to because it'll just make it even more weird since I won't be there and she'll probably make me sound like a weak .... (insert inappropiate word here).
10). He's always quiet when I'm around -- he seperated himself from his friends and just leaned against the counter facing me until I left and he finally walked over to my table and sat down.
11). I thought about writing him a note -- but then I thought that'd be odd...or awkward. And I don't even know what to say. If you tell me to "Put down how I feel and the way he's making me feel, blah blah along those lines." I tried. Nothing ever comes out but jibberish.
12). And if you're going to tell me to just forget him -- leave it, because I would've if I could've. If you're going to tell me, it takes time, or he's just a waste of my time -- he doesn't know how to handle these things because he's inexperienced. I was told to be patient by a lot of people because he's a tad bit clueless, but I have to do SOMETHiNG before this silence drives me insane.

I think this all makes me sound like a complete and utter idiot, but any comments, advice, sarcastic remarks even -- any suggestions to assist.

Sorry, it's like a whole page essay -__-

Oh dear christ.

i honestly don't know what to suggest. you've stomped on all of the usual advice.

You really don't have that many options. You either suck it up and talk to him, as hard as it's going to be, or you forget about him. I know you think you can't forget about him, but if you're not even willing to make yourself speak to him then it sounds to me like it won't be that hard to get over him.

Well if your sick of waiting and you dont have time to waste, muster up all ya got and just straight up talk to him, find out how he feels and what he wants to happen. dont let the opportunity go coz u will regret it and if you find out now you can be happy with him or find someone else.
good luck
xx

Danke .

Talk to him, find a time when he'll be alone like at the end of work and just spend some time finding out where you went wrong. Don't let your friend do it and it'll be best if you do it face-to-face instead of with a note. Even if you don't know what to say, just sit with him on your own and see if he says anything first.

Good luck,

Em xXx

Walk up to him say "hey can i order a______, and a conversation with you?"

or throw napkins at him when he isnt looking that say "Hey Talk to me or i'll throw the drink next"

Sorry, Kinda dorky ideas, but i figure they're sorta like ice breakers too.