The Other Women

Ok... so I think the problem is stated enough in the topic...
I'm in love with a guy who only sees me as the good time on the side. I've tried to leave him and not look back but everytime I dont... I basically go insane. Not only am in love with him, but he's my best friend. So everytime I try to give up on him. He comes back and makes me feel good. I just wish I could mean something besides the other women.... I just want to be with him. I think sometimes he wants the same thing, but other times he's not sure what he wants.

Should I try to leave and not look back, or should I try to keep it going??

I need to be ok with the choice and I just dont know if I can only be friends.... But I dont think I can be just friends with benifits... And the relationship is hard to do... because that would mean he would have to tell the girl he is engaged to that he was cheating... its so complicated

Lol you are the other woman, he is engaged and using you, not something a friend would do. Maybe you should stop giving it up and see what happens. Self respect is all I can say. There is a serious lack of it sometimes.

Hallelujah Amanda lol Nicely said.

Karma can be nasty, never do anything you wouldn't want done to you. If he was really a "friend" he wouldn't drag you in to ruin his relationship and you wouldn't allow him to either.

Ok...
I just like to say... I do think of the girl he is engaged too. Number two... Everyone worries about that girls feelings... Yeah, it does suck, nobody knows what I go through. Yes, I made a mistake, yes, I give women a bad name. However no body think about how the other women feels in this kind of thing. She is made out to be the bad guy. When in all truth she has just as many feelings as the women who he is engaged too....

Sorry if I made anyone made...

Emma

You're letting him use you. If he wanted you, he would be with you. So stay away from him; remember that you're not just hurting yourself here. Someone mentionned self-respect up there^. Get some, and don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of so easily.

And personally, I don't think you should even talk to his fiance. Leave well enough alone. Enough damage has been caused by you here. But that's just an opinion on it.

God all i feel is sorry for his fiance. why would you want somebody who cheats with you and lies to his girlfriend, when as soon as he "maybe" broke it off with her, he'd do the same to you?

"no body think about how the other women feels in this kind of thing."

That's because when you knowingly enter someone else's relationship, how it makes you feel doesn't matter.

I guess i dont get the problem.... its so dumb to even ask something of this. The answer is not in between whats right and whats wrong. The right and the wrong are blarely stated without anyone even haveing to tell you. I mean seriously come one.

Your thinking everyone should be about you. Well theres other people i hate to break it to you.

You know whats right and whats wrong you just dont like the outcome

Ew dont give him what he wants. if he's doing it with you what do you think he'll do if youre ever together?

if they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you!