I Need Some Advice!Please Help Me!

Well,as most of you know,I've been with Ethan for almost two long years now.
It started off great. He was pretty much the perfect boyfriend: sweet, trustworthy, funny, romantic, caring, etc.But now everything has changed. We made a promise to each other a long time ago that if he gave up dipping and drinking then I would give up the bad habits that I had that he didn't like.
Well,I trusted him and pretty much gave up my old life for him trusting that he would do the same. He never even stopped in the first place but he didn't tell me that until 3 months after we made that promise.
When he told me,he promised that he'd stop now and I trusted him again. He never stopped and told me 5 months later that he hadn't ever stopped the second time around.I was upset of course but decided to give him another chance.Well,about 2 months ago he told me that he had never gave it up again.Now keep in mind that I gave up everything for this boy.Now,he's supposivly stopped dipping now for a little over a month but I don't trust him.
Not only do I not trust him with that,I don't trust him with anything because the last time he told me that he had stopped dipping, he also told me that he cheated on me last summer. My heart is crushed.I don't trust him at all.I'm scared that he's gona cheat on me again and I know he's going to wind up dipping and drinking again.But,here's the thing.
I've found myself falling for one of my best friends,Dylan,for the past 3 years. He's been there for me through these past two years that I've been with Ethan,listening to me bitch about him,listening to my problems,even listening to me flat out cry my eyes out over Ethan. He's never lied to me and he's always told me what he thought truthfully.I know deep down that I love Dylan and I really want to be with him but I don't know how to tell Ethan.I mean,even though Ethan's broken my heart numerous times,I don't want to hurt him.I know I can't keep dragging it on but I don't know how I'm going to tell him.
I mean,how do you tell your boyfriend of the past two years that you're in love with another guy?I'm so sick of crying all the time about this. It's killing me and I can't take it anymore.Please,someone help me...

</3Amber

You have to find a way to be honest with him.

Staying with him when you are NOT in love with him will only make things worse and cause alot more anger and resentment between you both.

Tell him the best way you can. I know it is hard, but it has to be done.

~~Sher

Well you're just going to have to think of it like this; he is a liar. he obviously doesn't "love" you enough to stay true to you, because even if 2 years is a long, long time, it can also be filled with pain, lying and cheating, which i'm pretty sure he did and caused a lot of.

so be honest, don't "text" or "write him a letter", neither of those things are responsible and honest, they just show you aren't man enough (or woman enough) to be truthful.
so go up to him, tell him exactly how you feel, and i'm sure he'll get the picture. if not, he isn't worth it, which is how i'd already feel about him, having lied to me for months and had sex with another girl.

mm.
yep.

Unavoidably when a relationship doesn't work out, someone gets hurt. I would hope your happiness was important to someone, especially to you if no one else. You know what it is like to be lied to, it is easier to just get down to it and not play his game. Just be honest and move on.

Okay, I'll try to help you out..
But keep in mind, I'm not trying to be mean or rude.
I'm just telling you the honest truth and what I believe.

Amber, since I've known you, you've fallen in love with what... 7 guys?
Probably not that much, but too many if you're really head over heels in love with Ethan.
Honestly, I have no idea why you are even staying with him.
I mean, he has taken advantage of your trust so many different times. If he was crazy, madly in love with you, he would at least try to stop dipping.. but it seems as if he's not putting any effort into it.
Also, he CHEATED on you, hun. Seriously. That right there is more than enough reason to kick that jerk to the curve.
It is obvious he is just going to keep lying to get you to stay with him.. and it's also obvious that he isn't willing to give up old habits for your relationship.

What I think you should do is break up with him.
You are always finding yourself interested in some other guy while you're with Ethan..
Maybe he isn't treating you the way you deserve to be treated, maybe he isn't giving you enough attention, I don't know. There are tons of possibilities as to why you find yourself thinking of another guy.
Really, you should just stay single for awhile. Experience something new, try to meet new guys.
You should try to find out what you are really looking for in a guy.. because I don't believe that Ethan has it.

Hope I was able to help you out some, Amber.
Take care and hope you keep us updated.