Will someone please give adive??

I have been dating this guy for the past 3 years i have a ring on my finger and it getting pretty serious. he has cheated on me once when he got a lil drunk. well the other day he called me and i started crying life has been rough well he told me he would call me back in a minute about 20 minutes later i text him and asked him what he was doing he told me he was crying and i asked him why and he said because he was losing me so i called him and the tears were just streaming down my face, he was hanging out with 4 friends and he was not crying and he just told me that we will talk about whats wrong with you tomorrow i lobe you bye and hung up the phone. i don't know what i should do. and if that did not make sense just let me know

He sounds like a sack of crap, no offense. he cheated on you, and NOW can't be honest about the fact that he wants to hang out with his friends.
so he is needlessly lying because he couldn't be a MAN and face things how they are. normally it's not a bad thing, he wants to hang out with his friends, you know? but he lied to you when you were crying and needed him, and he is nothing but a little boy who hasn't grown up.
If I were you, i'd dump him.

Holy hostility harry potter. I think you two just need to sit down and talk, we all make mistakes and we all get crushes on other people even when were in serious relationships. No it wasn't right of him to cheat on you, but he seems pretty upset with the slightest idea he's losing you. I vote for trying to work things out if thats what you want, 3 years is a long time to just throw away.

I broke up with my girlfriend cause she was all flirty and grabbing my friends asses when she was drunk... then she banged some dude, and I still took her back because she was what was most important to me, despite how mad I was I looked past it. Its your call, you guys really need to talk though or no it won't work... even if your mad or whatever talking is the only way.

Eggh, i didn't see the 3 years or ring on your finger bit. but still, if this is how he treats you, is it worth a second chance?

Lol Amanda its good to talk to you, I think we would be good buddies if we bought those giant boxing gloves and went at it :D... but ugh yeah your right, if he just hung up he needs a kick in the balls. I'm not saying anyones right really I'm just saying if they both still care regardless they should fight for that.

I think you need to really think about your happiness and sadness
are you more happy with him or without him
if you really truely love him go to him and say this is important if you care about me& us you need to talk to me
then tell him everything you feel

Hey,
something happened to me a few months ago.. me and my bf were getting distant and well we sat down and talked bout it.. and its all good now..

I understand why your feeling confused because i cant understand why he said he were crying when he werent n were hanging wiht mates... i agree with others love is worth fighting for IF its for right person hun.. you have to talk to him because at least then youll know whats whats because i know it can go either way..

1. youll stay togehter
2. youll split up

i know you will want it to wortk but you gotta sit down and talk if he does love you and think anything off you at all then he will take some time to spk to you..
i dont think you should say looko its either me or your mates because that WILL NOT work at all... yes your should come first but you gotta understand friends are very important and they are always there and if you both foget them n when you need them they will say naff off to you etc...

i think yo two need to sit down and talk and spend quality time together..
gd luck and tel him how you feel.. if he really refuses to talk i know it aint as good but then write it all down in a letter and personally hand it to him and tell him coz he woodnt talk to you then read this..

take care

I am not going to make him choose between me and his friends but he lied to me about it. and the friends he was with called me a couple weeks and said he was with another girl when he really wasn't so he was just trying to split us apart. should i feel different about that or still the same

You know the first thing I do when my girlfriend of three years calls me upset?

I may be busy, i may be with friends.. But I walk into another room and I tell her everything is going to be okay. And if I cant calm her down and it's a serious matter, I eventually cry with her. I let her cry, scream, correct her when she puts herself down, swear or anything else. And I tell her I love her and that everything will be okay in time. Even if she messed up, I tell her she did.. but then I tell her she can fix it and not to be sorry, to be right.

That is the way it should be done, in my opinion.

DJ, he lied about the fear of losing her. It was an excuse. Something like that if you really love someone.. You need to be consoled and helped with it. You need the comfort of the person you're with.

That is great advice thank you! but i don't even know what to say to him when everyone is saying sit down and talk with him we always get interrupted when we try to sit and talk

I also told him that i will give him till Sunday to sit and talk with me if not then i am not gonna fight anymore and i am going to give up. was that wrong of me?

..no.

it was perfectly right of you. if he's going to waste your time there's no point giving it to him.

Prophecies in Kodak, my favorite dude on here! this guy is always right, I'd hate to be up against him in a game of pin the tale on the donkey... he just knows whats up, whats good and whos who. I make it a point to write down everything he says down... ok I am being sarcastic, but he seriously is my favorite dude on here. Knowledgeable guy.

Umm, yeah sorry to spam your thread with my wanting to sex prophecies in a totally heterosexual way, but you were definitely in the right to tell him he needs to make up his mind by saturday. really does seem as though hes playing games.

and Amanda lol! You would totally punch me in the face bare fisted, but I'd knock you out even with those monster boxing gloves on before you got a chance :D cause I float like a butterfly and sting like a sting ray!

Someone's gay for Ian.

"and we all get crushes on other people even when were in serious relationships."

first off THATS NOT TRUE. anyone worth you time will not get 'crushes' on other people!

and if you can forgive him then good for you. he's obviously important to you. sit him down and talk to him. like a LONG serious talk about everything, especially how you feel. it'll help.