Everyone thinks we arent meant to be

My boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year now and yeah we fight but then we make up and every time we do our love seems to get stronger. everyone that doesnt like me keeps going around and saying that we arent meant to be and i just want them to be quiet. what should i do?

Yeah same. my mom even tries to break us up...constantly. best thing to do is ignore them i guess.
and in my eyes arguing is a healthy thing. it gets your feelings out, and its good for a relationship. i should know me and my b/f fight everyday, we even break up sometimes, but we're stronger and closer than any other couple i know.

we also love eachother more than any couple i know. so if it works for you well then F them!

Nothing because there is nothing you can do. You cannot control what other people think and say, instead of being concerned about what everyone else has to say, ignore it and carry on.

My view is noone will always be happy with who you choose to be with, people will say what they say sometimes what they say can actually make a relationship stronger as can argueing.

If you're sure, then just ignore them.

However... consider that these are the people who know you best. Maybe they see something that you can't, because you're shielded by your own infatuation.

Oh.. dont do a thing.. after all.. imagine a life with no one 2 intrude you.. thats boaring!! just let them go.. dont pay attention.. maybe they're just jealous or maybe insecure..

I think they have a reason for thinking the way they do.
Ask them about it, try to understand why.
Maybe they're seeing something that you're not?

But if you two really do fight a lot..
Then I wouldn't stay in that relationship.
Fighting constantly only hurts you.
It stresses you out, and doesn't make a healthy relationship.

Who cares what others think. Your not dating them. And about the fighting. ARGUING is ok, and every couple should argue every now and then. But if you argue a lot Id sit down and find the problem or else things will get worse. Pieces.

Disagreements with most often takes the form of an argument. Because your boyfriend is not your clone, your opinions will sometimes differ. How you negotiate those differences is a whole other matter.

You get into the first stages of a relationship and it's all cute and no fighting and everything is a-okay. You feel like nothing could come between you two. If things stayed just like that, what would we have? After a while, being with such a great-all-over person would get pretty damn annoying, making our little flaws seem huge in comparison. Resentment would more than likely build, intensified by the recognition that there is really nothing to resent except for our partner's perfection.

In my opinion, the grounds for a healthy relationship is room for an open confrontation and constructive criticism. If you two fight constructively and take the effort to make things better, the arguing becomes less frequent, and communication becomes more effective. Your relationship may become a ground for personal growth.

But like I said, he isnt your clone. Your opinions will differ, and that doesnt mean you two arent meant to work it out and try to stay together. Your best bet is to take that to heart and do what you think is best for you and he.

I totally agree... ya see, i was just dumped because all of my ex's friends thought that i was controlling him... when really i was the one being controlled. He listened to what everyone else had said, and with that... i ended up alone. just cuz people didnt like us together. if he listens to you... then your very lucky... if you two ignore everyone else, everything will be fine... its not like you're choosing to be with them all your lives. you'll have new friends and if the friends you have now dont think you two should be together, then they're probably not truely your friends.

when my ex dumped me, i was left with no one... which means that everyone i thought were my friends/ even best friends... were not honestly my friends.

everyone told me to ignore them to.. its hard, but i found that it does work sometimes.. you have to just ignore them.

Ignore them.
thats their problem not yours.
Its your choice and if you are happy nothing else should matter.
good luck.

xx

Just try to ignore it.Basically what they are doing is harrasment. Just tell them to shut up.Everyone has fights in relationships.H*ll I have arguements w/my bf.We have been together fora yr and 8 months.But are fights are about stupid stuff.And my bf likes to start fights.If it weren't for him doing that,we wouldn't fight at all.Some tell them idiots to back off.

I have had this happen. And it is YOUR relationship not theirs. So if you know you are happy then it doesnt matter what anyone thinks! Maybe just tell them that you are the one in the relationship and that you would know better than them.

I definetely agree with the above. your friends are probably just looking out for you but i think you should tell them that you want them to be quiet and to just support you through this relationship and be there for you if it doesn't work out. this was your choice to start it, don't let it be their choice to end it.

I know exactly how you feel (to what you said about fighting then making up). I don't know, however, exactly how you feel about people saying that, "They aren't meant to be." For me & my boyfriend it's the total opposite. No matter who is saying this about you & your boyfriend you should not believe them &, in general, ignore them. Let them talk. What you & your boyfriend believe is what matters. And if it is your friends or family trying to look out for you, that's sweet. But also, I'm sure, annoying after a while. Just tell them that if you ever do need their opinion you'll ask for it.