Fighting Parents

My parents have been fighting for a long time now. Ever since July of last year. But only this morning I heard my mom tell my dad that she wasnt happy. She wasn't happy having bill collectors call the house asking for money that we just don't have. I wish I knew how to make her happy. i've been trying by doing little things for her when I get home from track practice. But it seems like nothing is working. She's threatened to divorce my dad but she hasen't done it. Every night it is silent in my house. Nobody talks just because you can feel the tension in the house. I cry every night because i can hear them. I try to drown them out but no matter how loud my mp3 is, they just get louder. I'm trying to open up with my friends but i don't want to bring them down. I've talked to my boyfriend about it but he can't seem to help me either. He just lets me cry and listens. Can anyone give me advice?

I really don't know what to tell you. I know that having parents fight can be really stressful. my parents fought for years, and before that they didn't talk for years and when they did all they did was argue. but you need to realize that it is not your fault and it's not up to you to make either one happy. Just be there for your mom. things will work out. and i'm here if u ever need to talk

I have no advice. . but if you ever wana talk im hear for ya. .

Thanx anyway guys. :(

I know how you feel Dying Inside. My mom is in constant depression. When they fight, it's like my sisters and I don't exist.

I will try to do those things James. But I think that it will not make a difference. She has been in depression for so long. Sometimes I wish they would just divorce.

I've tried helping her with open arms. She never wants to talk about being unhappy.

My parents ARE divorced

u wanna talk about fighting parents?
please
talk to me.
i will understand more then most people

and sweetie...
my parents are divotrced and they still fight
they have been fighting since i was born
divorced when i was 6
they still fight

...and ill be 16 in a month

its gonna happen
and there are worse cases
but please im here for you

:]

Everything they said is true but there is one thing u cant ever do.

dont EVER blame yourself for it.

Thanks you guys. I'm trying to make my mom happy by doing little things and it seems to be working a little. The thing is that I do blame myself sometimes.

When I was really small before I kind of lost my family
my dad was having affairs with numerous women
and was never home,
the times he was home all my parents did was fight
our neighbors use to phone cos were always worried when they heard glass smashing
It hurt me so much to see this,
my dad landed up leaving my mom and I for a woman who worked in a topless bar cos he got her pregnant.
My mom had a long battle with both chrones disease and cancer and my dad battled drugs, alcohol and depression.
You just have to realize that its not your fault.
Parents are often so busy with their own issues that they sometimes become blind to the pain that they cause their children!!
If you ever want some one just to talk to then feel free to pm me

Thanx u guys. i feel so much better.

I don't know if you are still looking for help, but my parents used to fight constantly. And the worst part is, it's my dad and my step mom. You said something about track practice, I would just run. I love to run when something is bothering me. Or to just get away. Another thing I do, is shoot hoops. I don't know if you are into basketball or whatever. But just going outside and focusing on the natural beauty of earth, really helps calm me down. And it doesn't hurt to write while you are out there. [I know I sound corny]

Another thing, I don't know which parent you are closer with. Or if you are close with either. But I would try talking to one of them, or if you are close with both; Sit them down and tell them how you feel. If it's not that easy for you, then write a letter and while they read it go for a run or give them time to think about what you wrote and come back and talk about it. Or you could talk to another family memeber and have them talk to them for you. I know a lot about the fighting situation, but every person is different.

[Edit]
Oh and about making your mommy happy, why don't you suggest you two go for a walk? Or if you have some extra money, take her to get a coffee or something like that. Or pick her a flower. Maybe tell her she looks beautiful in a certain color she wears, you and your mom are probably very similar and if you think of it like, what would make me happy, it would probably make her happy too. Or if she likes cooking, make a dinner with her. Or for her. Just some random ideas. Like I said, I don't know all the details. But I hope it gets better because when my parents fight, it hurts me a lot too.

I am on here everyday and would gladly listen if you need to talk. I hope I helped :]

Amber.

Thanks you guys. I will definitly take your ideas and suggestions. I really appreciate it.