Embarassed to be committed!??? advice? =/

Ok so i've known this guy for 3 months now and we barely made out about two weeks ago. he then told me after we first kissed he was mine and i was his. buttttttt i feel different. when his friends call...he'll say hes with his "friend Mya" [[me]]...yet he calls us a couple. hes 22 and im 17 i'll be 18 soon so dont freak lol. hes also leavin to Alaska next month and says he wants me to wait for him...which i will cause i like him that much.

so what do you think his deal is? why wouldnt he tell his friends were a couple? he told ALL his friends about me...so whats the big deal!? =/

advice please <3

My last boyfriend was like that! The entire school and all of our friends knew that we were "together" but he would never refer to me as his girlfriend or anything like that. after awhile i talked to him about it and he was afraid of commitment and it went way back to family issues and such.

the exact reasons may be different with you're guy but maybe it's because he doesn't want something official because he's leaving i don't know

but you should ask him about it! let him give you the truth so you're mind doesn't wander to much about it and come up with things that arent true!

hope i could help
-Lisa

Myaaa, dear. Is this one of the guys you told me about? Or no? Anyhow, the reason could be a long range of things. The only way you'll know for sure is if you ask him why he's doing that.

Yeahhh hun this IS about the guy i was telling you about. =/

i do need to talk to him. i just dont know how to come about asking it...

Well, can't say I didn't warn ya? 'Cause Tasteless has a point.

Hes leaving for 5 months and states hes coming back for ME. i dont know what to believe really. No fling here either. im still a virgin and i told him how i felt about losing it. im open :D.

i dont know...decisions, decisions, DECISIONS =/

Really!? u think!!?
hmmm
it hurts...a lot =/

I guess that wouldnt be too big of an age gap. But for me, personally, I would be saying your just a friend because your 4 years younger. To me thats a gap and I wouldnt be exactly proud of. And second off, he could just be trying to get the benefits without the commitments, if you catch what I mean. And finally, I wouldnt wait around for him when hes moving away. What kinda crap is that? Maybe if he acted more like a couple with you around his friends. Pieces.

Wow that opened my eyes =/. i dont love him really i dont. but what i did do is stop talking to all my guy friends because i didnt want conflicts with him and them. its almost like i know how hes acting but i try not to care. or feel AS attached as i think i mite get if "we" continue ya know?

hm =/

Mya, dear. The fact that there would be conflict says something. But honestly, if a guy isn't going to admit to his own friends that you're his girlfriend -- something's majorly wrong with the picture. If even a part of you realizes that you know how he's acting, but try not to care -- that means that there iS something faulty about this -- about him. Leave before he leaves you, honey. Or at LEAST ask him what the heck is up.

Thanx hun :].

thats the weird part though. i dont even feel like were a couple, and i dont know if its because he doesnt put that label out there to his friends and whatnot or maybe im just not into him like that and feel like hes not boyfriend material. im not "with" him really to hide from sorrow...i just know that when he leaves i'll be bummed...and that tells me something obviously =/.

A lot of times, I've "gone out" with guys -- dated them -- but never actually liked them, even if I tried or thought I did. I just liked the idea of a boyfriend, or someone that could take that place. When I broke up with them, or we split or we just went our seperate ways, I was sad. I missed it -- but I didn't miss THEM, really. I just thought I did -- so sometimes, what you think is the big picture, isn't the whole image, if that makes sense.

That makes perfect sense hun. thats how i feel. but when i was single i felt happier, but not. like the thought of him wanting me and now actually BEING with me...it just feels weird i guess. i dont know. maybe im hormonal [[sp?]] lmfao :D

Lol My ex, told everyone I was his friend, and then people would say to me, He doesn't have a girlfriend well he didn't tell me that !!!!