Hey

Hey a posted a message about a guy that I was getting married to, and that kept beating me, cheating on me, and lying to me. Well all of you all said that we should break up basicly and today we finally did..I need to know something, is it supposed to hurt this much?

Well it depends if you really like this guy and knew you to had something real under all the beating and lying. But if it was me I wouldn't think second about doing that, but this is you we are talking about. anyway hope I answered your question in a way.=)

I don't know if "supposed to" is the right term, but yeah. It's going to hurt a ton. I was talking to my friend about a similar situation, and we both agreed that ending a bad relationship is in a lot of ways harder than getting over a good one. Even though he was awful to you, you gave a huge part of yourself to him, and it always hurts to get torn away from yourself. It hurts to accept the idea that they didn't care as much as you wanted them to. It hurts to face the fact that you couldn't MAKE it work out, but please, do remember that this is the right thing. It's not a failure if you're doing something that will be SO much better for you and your health and happiness.

Yes, it will suck like mad for a while. But I swear, it DOES get better. The freedom sets in, and it's simply intoxicating. Best of luck to you.

Letting go of someone you love will always hurt.
It doesn't matter who they are.
What they did.
It WILL hurt.

You just have to learn how to live with it and move on.
It's very good that you did what you did too.. it would have been foolish to stay with someone like that.
Sometimes you just have to forget about the pain and remember what you deserve.

And don't worry, you'll find so much better.

^
I couldn't have said it better myself.
*Squishes Auzy*

Thanks, he messaged me and told me that he wanted to be friends and I told him I don't think I could be friends with someone that hurt me the way he did. He's dating another chick now anywayz he says he's not happy with her cause he wants me back and I told him well u lost me because of what u did and I couldn't take it away so yeah I did push u away from me. Told him I deserve someone that loved me for me and not for what u can get out of them. And he didn't like it to well now he's threatening to call the cops on me when I didn't do anything to him.

Glad to see u did the right thing, u do deserve so much better than him, it will hurt i think it's just part of life no matter what they do to you it just seems to hurt.. only time will heal the pain i guess.

I agree with Auzy.
Stop talking with him. It's obviously just causing more problems and he's going to try to make you feel guilty about yourself.
I mean, you two JUST broke up, right? And he's already with another girl. He's stupid! If he really loved you, period, then he wouldn't have done that. If he really wanted you back he wouldn't be with anyone else or acting like a total bratt/asshole. He is being immature because he isn't getting his way.

Great job. You really did do the right thing here.
Make sure to keep it up and don't let him get in your head. You deserve WAY better.

Thanks. I'm still working on the whole break up situation its getting harder and harder each and everyday.