Cant Leave Him.

I am so completely and totally in love with my exboyfriend named graham... he is so amazing and cute and funny and everything i want someone to be. we were together for a very long time, but he broke up with me. i thought we were fine. but i still catch him staring at me and he'll talk about me but avoid me and when i catch him staring, he'll go find other girls to flirt with. he makes me feel horrible and i cant do anything about it because he has a girlfriend now... we were so close, and i after we broke up, he told me that he still wanted to be with me... and that he wants to be best friends with me still. he has been so horrible and mean to me since a couple weeks ago when he started dating erica... but we were so close.. i can feel him wanting to come over to me... i know he hates it... he just hides it all.

i love him and i want to be with him... but he has been so mean that i hate him and never want to see him ever again.. but i feel both ways at the same time. its so hard to control.. if i can... what am i going to do.. i cant leave him... but i want to.. i want him to be gone.. but i am in love with him... how is this going to work...

he's my neighbor... can you tell me ways to forget about him and move on?

It's all in your attitude- it's not that you can't leave him, it's that you won't. And yes, there is a difference.

You know you're better off without him, so spend some time concentrating on yourself. Hang out with your friends, rent movies, go for walks, eat ice cream, write lots, and cry when you need to. It will take time, but you'll do it and you'll be a better person for it. Don't even think about forgetting about him; keep thinking about yourself. There's a time to be selfish, and this is one of them.

Take care, I wish you the best.

Youre so totally right... i want to but i dont want to. i'm way too much in love with him to leave. like now, if i get too far from him and think he's forgetting me, i make myself be closer to him in some way.. just so he notices me... i need ways to forget him and walk away... to keep from wanting him to notice me.

I hate him so much. and one of my friends had to write a story for her final for english and it was all on how our relationship went. it makes me so mad. he's reading it now.. how rude is that. he's talking about it to everyone.! i mean are you serious. are you that much of a jerk to do that?@

Wow!! 4getting him is gonna be hard since he's ur neighbor...as tyme goes by hell realize wat he did was wrong and comeback...by then you will prolly have moved on and then he's gonna be sitting here confused like you ",

Wow!! 4getting him is gonna be hard since he's ur neighbor...as tyme goes by hell realize wat he did was wrong and comeback...by then you will prolly have moved on and then he's gonna be sitting here confused like you ",

Wow he seems like a jerk hun, i know its guna be hard, but u gota move on and find someone who will treat u right. you don't want a guy that is mean and messes with your head. you deserve better

Thanks... i feel alot better and i think i am gonna get through this. thanks

... ohhh man, time doesnt come fast enough. It seems like heartbreak goes on for forever!!!!!

Haha yeah your right.. i have made alot of guy friends now. but all they wanna do is... well have sex. and i dont do that. i dont want to ... why do almost ALL guys want that.?!

Listen most men i'm not saying all but most men are in it for sex no offence but how old is he guys matture (sexually) before the female thats jus the way it is but maybe your x isn't the same way and doesn't want to hurt you but wants to expierment before you both get around my age

Darling my ex told me he never wanted a gf again, and everytime i had a bf he told me he wanted me so i left them for him, then he would leave me, and guess what he has a new gf today, I guess there comes a time when you just have to say goodbye and move on...
But this Erica must have a catch on him, If he loves you he will come to you, and if he doesn't he didn't deserve you in the first place!

Yeah. i mean, they dont even act like they're together... he's always with his friends and she's with hers... they are always leaving each other for their friends. maybe this is just a fling thing. i think he's afraid. i was his longest and most 'active' relationship... we chose not to have sex though. so maybe this is just a fling or something. gosh... i thought i needed him to live.. and sometimes, i think i do. =\

I know how you feel hun, because i am there myself, but things will get better. time will heal your pain, and in the mean time find sum new guy friends, who knows maybe you'll find a new person to love...and live for.

best wishes, Meghan

Time is such a horrible thing at this time in your life. Yet it is the only cure. You must focus your mind on something else. Perhaps show him what he is missing go out with friends and buy yourself a new outfit and hair do and go flaunt your stuff.

Find some new boy mates to hang about with also with your girl friends and just generally enjoy your life...

Wish you all the best

Alex xxx

I dont think it will be easy to forget him, I dont think u should try to forget him. I think you should accept the fact. You should give a little time to yourself and avoid him for a little. Then you should actually probably talk to him. Because seriously those emotions and feelings you have wont go away and simply hiding them will put you in even a worse situation.

I wish you all the best.

You should never forget your love in life. If it is really bothering you then my advice is tell Graham you need to speak to him openly and maturly and when you get it all off your chest you will probably find that even though he was good for you than you could do so much better for yourself.

Goodluck with the outcome.