I really need help. idk what im doing :S

Okay well here it goes...i have a boyfriend right now but we're in a long distance relationship...we dated for about 2 1/2 months. and now we have almost 2 months of being in a relationship and a few days ago he finally told me he loved me and gave me this amazing speech that it even made me cry. and of course i love with so much as well he is just amazing.

and well about a week ago a friend of mine whos in the army came back from training and after 4 mths of not seeing or speeking to him we started catching up again. out of nowhere we just kept talking and talking and we text each other a lot through out the day. and i think im starting to like him. he confessed to me that he had liked me since the day he left and his feelings grew even more these days. he keeps telling me that he wants to be with me and would it be wrong if he tried to win over my heart. he knows i have a bf but he says he still wants me.

i told him that somehow i also started having some feelings for him and i really like talking to him and when we're together i just want to be there with him. i enjoy being with him a lot. but i feel so guilty and so confused. why am i feeling this way when im so happy with my bf and i love him so much. i really do love him and i dont know why i have these other feelings for another guy.

the other guy says it might just be some kind of phase and it might go away after he returns to training on like june 3. he keeps saying its wrong for him to feel that way towards me since i have a bf. and i know its wrong too but i still keep talking to him.

i dont know what to do. i dont know what to think nemore...should i stop talking to my friend when he leaves and just continue with my relationship with my bf?? or what should i do? plz tell me what you think. am i a horrible person or what

1`. It is not wrong for him to have feelings for you just because you have a boyfriend. It's called being unrequited.
2`. Either you don't love your boyfriend like you think you do, or your little friend is right: It's just a phase. I think it's just a phase -- it's the excitement. Because you hadn't seen him in so long, you're mistaking the adrenaline rush you get from being with him for something more. It's all infatuation -- and infatuation doesn't last. But you think it's something more, hence the guilt. Don't let this momentary attraction destroy what you have with your boyfriend.
-- Unless, it is actually that you don't love your boyfriend as much as you think you do. Who knows? I'm not you, but this is a decision you have to make for yourself. Two months isn't very long, so it could just be that beginning kind of burst of emotion that's being translated into love.
3`. You do not stop talking to your friend just because you're lost. He knows how he feelss -- and your boyfriend knows for sure what he wants. They're both sure. You aren't. So it's all in your hands. But what you need to know, is that you do not cut off contact with your friend just because of this.
-- You're with someone. But then in comes your friend and it's confusing you. Which is why you tell your friend to back off with all this winning you over talk until YOU get your head all cleared up. There's a reason you guys are only friends and you're dating THAT guy.

You're not a horrible person. You haven't actually ACTED on these emotions. Everyone experiences this sooner or later. It's normal. How you handle it is the important thing. But we can't tell you what to do because it's not our life.

Yes i understand two months seems little but we dated for over 2 mths. and having so many things in common we completely fell for each other. just talking every single day helped us get close to each other.

i really do love my bf so much he is an amazing guy that im so lucky to have met. and i guess all of this is really just a phase. my friend will be leaving soon for 4-6 mths and maybe everything will just go back to normal. i feel guilty becuz my bf doesnt know this guy exists he doesnt know that i talk to him and text him every day. and i feel bad for hiding that from him. i dont want to lose my bf over something that possibly will never happen. and NO WAY have i acted on these emotions. i have not done anything with this guy at all. i swear

I saw my friend today...and last night when we talked he kept saying that he was crazy for me and if we saw each other again all he wanted to do was kiss me. he wouldnt care if i had a bf.

well i saw him today and everything was good we were just talking then he started leaning in. i just stood there and i let him kiss me. we made out for a lil bit i guess i let lust take over me.and now i know im a horrible person for doing this to my bf. :( i cant believe i did this. i love my bf i really really do. plz some advice???

The fact that you let him kiss you, and then started making out just says that you aren't completely one hundred percent in it -- and when you're in a long distance relationship, you need that. Have you told your boyfriend? Are you PLANNiNG on telling him? Because for one, he deserves to know.

In this situation, I suggest you take a break. I was once the other person -- the one that the guy cheated on his girlfriend with, and trust me, it all just ends badly. For all three of you. Unless you step up, take responsibility and make a decision.

But right now, I feel like you're lost. So your head isn't completely clear, but you HAVE to sort this out, or the guilt will eat away at you, and this will never resolve itself -- the longer it takes for you to finally figure out what you really what, the harder it's gonna hit both of these guys that you're involved with.

So what's it gonna be?
Are you gonna continue down this confusing road?
Because while you're still with your boyfriend, and making out with some other guy -- you're cheating on him, and all the guilt and horrible feelings will cloud your judgement and you'll never figure out who or what you truly want.

Taking a break from your boyfriend is what I would do, but I'm not you. And I don't really get emotionally attached to anybody in that way. It's your life. You decide.

I was also one the other girl that the guy cheated with and i wasnt too proud of that either. but in a way it didnt bother me cuz i didnt like the girl, so oh well.

but i kinda wasnt planning on telling me bf what happened. i really dont want him to break up with me and i dont want to lose him. he's amazing and i hate that i did this to him. however my friend is leaving on tues. and it'll be months before i see him again. maybe even a year. so i was thinking that i'll just forget about what happened with him since its not gonna happen again. and he told me again today that he was going to continue to win over my heart unless i told him not to. i guess i should just wait for him to leave and see what happens right???

"i really dont want him to break up with me and i dont want to lose him. he's amazing and i hate that i did this to him."
`You should've thought of that BEFORE you made out with this guy.

Personally, if I switched places with you right now, I would tell him. Because continuing on like nothing happened would make me feel like the rest of the relationship from here on out would be based on a lie in which I withheld. If he ever found out, it'd all crash down harder on you. But like I said, it's your life. You view things differently than I do. You do what you want with it. And since you don't want to tell him, then yes, you could just let him leave and see how the world decides to run your life.

To me, though, not telling him because YOU don't want to lose him is selfish. Excuse my honest opinion, but he's the one that gets to decide whether you deserve him or not. I'm not saying you don't, because I don't know you. But I am saying that in my view, it's selfish. But that's my opinion.

But again, it's your life--so it's all on you what you decide to do.

I love my bf and i think theres just a lil bit of lust between my friend and me. i like him too but for other reasons. and i dont get how i can like him and love my bf at the same time.

my bf lives 4 hrs. away i live in laredo, tx and he lives in austin....we've been talking about possible moving in together in a yr or so....and well my family has a problem with the fact that he's not in college and i am...but that doesnt really matter to me. im crazy for my bf i wouldnt want to lose him, thats why im comtemplating whether or not to tell him what i did..

.my friend is leaving for training in the army and i dont know when he's coming back. so it's like i'll just be able to forget what happened and we'll just return to having a friendship....and i'll renew my faithfulness to my bf........does that sound good?