...My freind?...My ex?

My freind...wow he is amazing, He makes me happy all the time. I love being around him. Just the way he touches me & smiles at me, just takes all the pain ive felt away...We dated once...I broke up with him because..well I still loved me ex deeply...But now He wants to be with me.I keep pushing him away though, When we hang out & he grabs me & holds me..i think of my ex doing that to me the night we broke up..&& i end up getting mad at my friend && he just leaves....I mean I love being with him...but Im just scared right now...He just doesnt understand...I just got over a heartbreak...I cant go through it again..Im not ready

My Ex..WoW, My first Love.
He made my days the best Ive ever had..so many months, so many promises, so many memories...Its been a few months since we have been apart...but sometimes..I still cry...We havnt talked...I think he has moved on..so I want to forget too...its just hard..Ive given him soo much...

Im torn inbetween the two....Should I just be with my friend, the one who will always be there
Or Take my ex back..after all the pain he put me through?

"take your ex back"

you said he hasn't gotten in contact with you and has moved on? how on earth is the getting back together going to happen? i'd say, neither. your friend isn't going to be some toy for you to pick up and play with whenever you wish to do so, and if he is, don't treat him like a doormat.
even if he's acting like one, there's nothing nice about being manipulative and selfish. using people when you are happy to use them is plain mean.

you are stringing him along when you have quite clearly stated you are not ready yet.
if you are not ready, why are you questioning dating at all? and if your ex-boyfriend has hurt you, why do you want to be with him? you are not obligated to BE with ANYONE. if you need 'time to heal' (if you do, why are you contemplating relationships i wonder?..) then you shouldn't act as though you are ready for the taking.

He's your ex for a reason. Enough said about him.

Your friend on the other hand? You need to tell him to back the heck off, because you're just gonna hurt him, AND yourself. If you're not ready, you're not ready.

So instead of trying to pick Friend Boy or Ex Boy. Pick yourself. You're the one in the middle. You're the one that you need to accept and love first. You need time to heal, no? So HEAL instead of chasing after your own tail; running in circles is going to get you nowhere.

You need to allow your heart time to heal. Ur friend seems like a great person and all but ask him to just give u some space and time.

about ur ex i know how much u miss and still love him because i am in the same place as u. i miss my ex terribly and i still love him, he was the first person i ever loved and we were together over a year. Now i can't just cry a river, build a bridge and get over it, and i don't expect u to either. Go ahead and cry, but don't think that u need to choose between these two. Let your heart heal and then see where u are with your friend, but i honestly don't think u should get back with your ex, unless you know in your heart, that that is what is right.

Best wishes,
Meghan

"You need to allow your heart time to heal"

I definetely agree, you're still hurt from ex, i don't think getting into a new relationship will help you get over him. It's like using your friend as a rebound, even if you don't mean it that way. I think you just need time to yourself and to sort out your feelings and to let your heart heal. Try explaining that to your friend and if he truly cares about you he will understand..