My friend?

Hmmmm...
Alright, that's fine.
Well.. depends on when she's actually thinking about running away. If it's sometime soon, then you should hurry up with it. But if it isn't that close to happening then it'll be okay.

I mean, either way, this guy will be brought to justice. But it's better to lower the chances of her getting harmed in the process. I doubt they have some grand master plan for all of this, so I doubt they'll get far if she actually runs away. But every second counts. This guy sounds crazy. If he got mad and hurt her.. I think everyone would feel bad.

Yeah your right...
I mean she was always there for me when things got tough and I thik I should be there now and try and help do whatever I think is best for her.

&& yes I think he is way pasted crazy maybe insane.
She said that yesterday she went on cam with him and he made his mother take a look at her..
.
and she claimed he might come for her birthday....or just anywhere in the summer.
man i really dont want anything to happen to her.

Okay...
Yeah, case closed for me. He is friggin still living with his mom? Then how the hell is he going to support not only himself, but her too? Gah! This is absolutely sadly. Truly is.

And I agree. If her parents don't do anything about it. Tell the cops. Tell them about how stupid they are all being and give them reasons to support him being insane. Like... her saying yes to marrying him because of being afraid that he'll get mad at her. That's just stupid. The only thing you should be afraid of in a relationship is just breaking up.. not the person themself.

I dont knnow I really dont know..

and you are really right truly right.
thank you :) really it meant alot :)

i odnt know she said that he claims he has alot of money in his UK bank. :S

but seriosly thank you your help meant alot to me :)

Pffftttt...
I think it's all lies. Just worthless hope given to a poor girl to make her feel better about going through with this.
And if that was really the case... I doubt he'd still be living with his parents.

But I'm glad at least her best friend is smart enough to know what's up. I think you're her angel =)

Thank you. way my parents grew me up.

No problem.
Oh.. here's a thread a lot like this.
Here is the link. You should definitely look at it.

http://www.poems-and-quotes.com/discussion/topic.html?topic_id=106443

Okay thanks.

I think here, that you are afraid to tell her parents as you really love your friend and dont want to cause her distress. My advice would to be to tell a teacher you trust in school who you can confide in. That way you wont have to deal with her parents directly and the school should sort it out.

Just an idea though

Alex xxx

I would but you see I just switched schools and I dont really no any teachers, only freinds.
but the only teacher that I am good with he's retiring and he's been really bz.

but idk illl figure sumthin out thanks.

*sigh* nows hes mad at her, and shes sad *sigh*
i hope she can figure out she's doing something wrong now or just forget it all cuz its not worth it

See..
This isn't a healthy relationship for her to be in. At all. It sounds like this guy is bi-polar or something.

Remember what we told you you should do...
I've given you all the advice I can. And that goes for other people here. Now it's your turn to step up and take charge.

I went throu all this for nothing

he fought with her, got mad at her,he used her, broke her heart he sent her a email saying its over .........

soory to sya this but hopefully its for good...

thats one thing off my mind.

*sigh*

thank you all and sorry if i wasted ur time or anything like that.

You didn't waste anyone's time.
You were just doing what's right. It's fine.
Just remember all of this if they do get back together... because it is very well possible.

Why is it that the guy seems to be the 'villian' in this relationship? Sure he is 12 years older than her but havent you heard the expression of Love is blind? Everyone diserves a chance no matter who they are.

Hmm...a petifle desevees a chance.?

and if you relly did love someone no matter how young.....I dont think you would force them to runway and leave there own life behind....this gurl had stil has potential to do things...but this young man is holding her back.

he should be out there meeting real people around his age...straighten his act up. going to work bettring his education. not ruinung this liittle girls one. She misses classes just to talk to him. really.
maybe he deseves a chance. but with someone his OWN age. not just a little girl to fool around with,

but seriously here if she does end up getitn back wth him...im not doing anything about it. final.

but either way thank you you guys.

Her mom found out about her phone calls to him now.

&& she said "one day im going get a plane ticket and send you to that one called bf, &&you can live with him forever"

I dont see why her mother wud say that...

but then again when her mom said taht she said shes scared now.

If her mom doesn't get her the ticket, how is she going to live with him forever?

What is she scared of anyway.

Her mom said she will buy her the ticket nd send her away. and idk i think her mom was just mad at her or sumthin.
that wsa her reason for also wanting to runn awy because she calls her house "helL"

what she's scred of. I odnt know maybe she relised that the boys using her.scared of levaing her family I dont know. I kinnda got dragged out of that convo buy my friend.

I think her mom was just mad at her. I don't think she would have the heart to send her away, she's her daughter afterall.

And I think your friend shouldn't call her house hell, I mean if she tried to talk to her family, things might had been better. If she tries to get you out of the conversation, try again the next day. She is still young, I guess it's just a matter of time before she wakes up and find out everything was wrong.

Take care.

They are back together *sighh*
she said when he comes to visit her which is soon that they would pay her ex (another cyber love) a visit. ask him why he lied. and sum stuipidness like that. && yeah i think her mom was just mad at her.
but seriously i dont htink im dgoing to say naything to her, she got mad at me today for be concerned why she was looking down and skipped like 4 periods today. she lied and said she was going Moga;s but Moga;s shut down 3 months ago.

Oh my gosh this is unbeliveable

in 7th grade we watched a video about peple lieke that
a girl ran off with some guys she met on the internet and then he totally used her
raped her, beat her, then left out in the street for dead when he was done with "fun"

didn't she watch a video like that
i mean how naive can you be

to just want to alope with someone you have never truely met

i mean sure might think she knows him, but she doesnt know how he will treat her

for all he know she could just end up using her
and have some buddies
come by to join him in his "fun"

what is her problem

i think you are good friend for really trying to get this threw her head

i know i would help a friend if that happened but...god she is really naive

Yea i know. and no we never watched a movie like that only "sex has a price tag" (faith school version) yeah i told her he might do all that she said that she doesnt care.

"one day im going get a plane ticket and send you to that one called bf, &&you can live with him forever"

I dont see why her mother wud say that.

^^
thats perfect though... her mom needs to say that...a child acts differently when their parents agree, often times the child might do something just because everyone else disagrees. If her mom tells her that its fine and that she would not care.... perhaps that could be just the right thing.

Though on the other hand, it could go terribly wrong... and we all know why...

anyway keep us updated and guys keep the adivse coming.... good stuff

As I've said MANY times before, hun.. you really need to help her out here. Don't just give up because she's being stupid (again) and got mad at you for worrying. Of course you're going to worry!

It sounds like you're deadly afraid to confront her parents, so.. I say you talk to the a teacher or an adult at school you really trust. They will either confront her parents about it or go to the police. Either way, they'll figure out a way to get through your friends head. You can even tell them not to give out your name. Keep you unknown.

She's putting too much faith into that internet guy. I don't understand why she has to do all these and hurt her parents. Perhaps she needs to go through all those "pain" before understanding what you're trying to do. But of course, you wouldn't let those things happen to her. So now, you just have to get ways to stop her. Asking an adult or going to the police will help. ^^

How could she think something like this is real

i don't get it

She's just young and naive.
What really needs to happen is someone needs to show this girl what could happen if this guy followed through with it. Maybe tell her it's not HER fault, it's HIS.

A 28 year old man living with his mom is bad enough, but when on top of that, he wants to marry a 15 year old..that's just plain wrong! He's obviously uneducated because you can't get married when you're 15, you'd need your parents to sign I guess. I don't even know if they'd consider it, her being that young and all.

She must be really gullible because no one knows if they're going to "die from drugs in 4 years". It's just plain dumb, no offense. This guy is just like..the super-creeper or something, seriously. He must be a pedophile. You really need to tell her mom how ridiculous this is getting and maybe she'll take the computer or phone away from her. When he starts influencing her everyday life and it's interactions (classes, friendships, etc), then the relationship is not healthy. She really needs to talk to a professional if she thinks this is serious and in her best interest.

Try to talk to her again, but don't put the blame on her. That might make her feel cornered or something. Try cornering the man like the pedophile he is. Eew, he's probably some hairy, fat 75-year-old sitting at his computer in a greasy towel. Sheesh, this is disturbing.

Yes, she has been skipping classes cooming to first and leaving after that. her social life is going down the drain. she is making me tense i feel like hurting eveyrone in my site.
my friends and I are going to see a teacher guidance coluler tom to se what could happen and what we could do.

&& yu prob read it already or not but the guy is ocming SOON. they want to met up with her ex internet bf and beat him up and ask him all this stupidness. *sigh*

this is not ruining her life alone but my friends and mine. my best guy friend wouldnt talk to me because he thinks this is all bs and she just wants attention. i no u might say odnt listen to him but sumtimes i feel that he's right. but on the other hand it takes it as a joke way to far.

That is just ridiculous, honestly. The poster about you is totally right. I agree with them 110%. It is really starting to get serious. Her parents should see the change in her behavior and school work and realize how serious this really is.

Haha, her ex-boyfriend is stupid? HE'S THE ONE THAT'S FLIPPING STUPID! He is a friggin, I don't know how old, grown man that lives with his damn mother. If anyone is stupid here, it's him. He could be put to jail for all of the crap he's doing. Especially if he really does go through with this and try to beat up her ex. That's just childish, I'm sorry. One of the stupidest things I've ever heard in my entire life.

I wish I could knock some damn sense into all of their heads but sadly I can't. Yes, the counselor sounds like a great idea. They'll more than likely contact her parents and sit them all down, along with your friend, and decide what to do about this whole situation. Confront the problem. Possibly the guy too. If they believe things are too serious, they just might track the guy down from his phone calls and snatch him. Which sounds perfect.

So hurry up with it, okay? This is something that just cannot be delayed anymore. It has gotten far enough and needs to be put to an end.

This guy is just a "perfect" part of her imagination here. Some it probably is for attention, seeing as earlier on in here you posted that she commented no one else did pay attention to her. I don't see how her other friends or family can't notice the changes in her that you've been seeing. She really needs some help if she believes this guy is being serious. Think about it -- say you're 15 too. Would you enjoy a 28 year old coming onto you, wanting to get engaged with you, coming out here, ruining your life and wanting to beat up your ex boyfriend to top it all off?

First of all, he could get charged with molestation! SHE'S 15!!!!
She can't get married. And she can't move out. She most likely can't have sex either, and trust me, that's most likely what he's planning.

He's way too over protective of her too, because guys don't usually get so territorial over a girl like that -- especially one that is 12 years younger than they are. This is just so horrible and I have a feeling it's only going to get worse. Where the heck does he say he lives anyway?

Go through with the counselor, NO EXCUSES ALLOWED! If she's actually your friend, you also need to let her know that she's crumbling all of her relationships with other people just to bring her relation with him higher up. That's not right, healthy and I'm sorry -- it just doesn't work that way. Your friend needs some common sense knocked into her..!

If your counselor doesn't do anything (which I really doubt, because this is SERIOUS!), then what I would do is go into the police station, like the post above states. The police are just rubbing their hands to get on a job like this -- it's what they're paid for. So if no one else can do it for you, contact the police and they will help; I promise.

Good luck, and please figure out how your going to stop this, SOON!

^ Yet again, I so totally agree.

Yea I understnad. yeah i'll go throught with the counclelling at shcool tho, but i only have monday cuz its the last day of school.

&&even worse shes immature she's cheating on him now with another guy she met on the internet *sigh*

this is becoming out of hand.

&&it's not only mee noticing the change it's some of our other friends too. it was their idea to see a counceller.

&& the parents don't care that she's not doing well in school, she's supposidly moving during the summer oh well...

but man serouusly i will firgure out somethnng to do
thanks again:)

&&even worse shes immature she's cheating on him now with another guy she met on the internet *sigh*

soo immature *sigh*

Bring her out. Meet some cute guys.

I've tried that...

no one wnts to hang out with her....she's a lil overweight...

like no one has something good to say about her.

i try taking her out...but poeple just laugh...

and then she gets all depressed and shit...&& leaves...

and since this guy andrw rejected her like 3-4 years ago...she never went back to liking "real" guys.

I dont think that now there really is a point in trying...
bcuz in the end it will probally go down the draain...
andrew it right..is alll bs she just wants attnetion

there is no point in trying is there......i have my own problems with my life......but my mind always seems to fall on her...something is going to go wrong?

i cant get her to go out. I cant get her to leave him..I cant get her to see what is rihgt. i cant get her to see a real boy. I cant get her to not cheat and im scared to tell her 'rents. what option is left?

&& she hasa shit load of mood swings!

Don't worry, hun.
Just do this one last thing for her... and if it doesn't work out, then don't bother anymore. If she wants to be stuck in a fantasy world all of her life, not even give going out a try, then you can't really do anything about it.

Alright thanks for all your help really.

I think everyone is saying this for me.

First, it's great that she has a friend worrying about her like you are.

Second, all you can do is explain your fears and persuade her to tell her parents if she hasn't already.

You have highlighted the problems and what ifs - either way, it's not going to be easy for you. Hope everything works out