Subconscience Insecurities?

Me and my significant other have been together for a very long time. I would trust this guy with my life under any circumstances. Despite the odds I have these reoccurring dreams that consist of him cheating on me with other women, sometimes even in my own living room. I really have considered all of the possibilities such as, a guilty conscience for one reason or another, insecurities, I've even considered the idea that perhaps maybe he truly is cheating...though I highly doubt it.

I don't know, I guess I'm just asking for opinions/ideas/or possible explanations.

.Kayla.

Before you let your mind wonder too much and you drive yourself crazy over just a dream, why not just approach him about it. You say you two have been together for a very long time, then you should be able to either get the honest answer or know if he's lying to you. Don't worry yourself over something when you don't even have any facts. Dreams are dreams.

But constantly? I mean, I understand if it were only one dream then of course I wouldn't think anything of it. For some reason I fear that this is some psychological thing, but I'm no psychologist.

You can keep wondering and drive yourself crazy or you can ask him. Just make sure you word it carefully. You don't want to accuse him before hand.

I think perhaps you were thinking about how awful it would be if he did so. I highly doubt he is cheating on you and plus, you would know. I think you just keep thinking about it so you keep dreaming about it.

I know it is hard but try to stop worrying about it... and i think that is your answer, take your mind off the subject

I know this sounds weird but normally when you are having dreams about ur special person cheating it means that you might be or that you want too.

maybe re-evaluate if u are in the relationship for the right reasons.

it might just be subconscious though, everyone has dreams like that because nobody wants that to happen in real life so i think having dreams liek that helps brace us for the harsh reality of cheaters and liars.

My opinion;;

i think our biggest fear is put into our dreams. [i.e you boyfriend cheating.]

your proably scared he'd cheat on you therefore you dream about the fear your having

[if that makes any sense]

Ok, let's go back to phsychology class, shall we?

Dreams are sometimes used as ways to deal with fearful situations that we are afraid of happening in real life. When we dream it is our bodies' way of working through a problem we have or a fear and preparing us so that we can better deal with it if it happens in our conscience life.

Alfred Adler (1870 -1937) believed that dreams were an important vehicle to mastering control over our waking lives. They were problem solving devices. Dreams need to be brought to conscious light and interpreted so that we can better understand and solve our problems.

Carl Gustav Jung (1875-1960) - Dreams were a way of communicating and acquainting ourselves with the unconscious. Dreams were not attempts to conceal our true feelings from the waking mind, but rather they were a window to our unconscious. They served to guide the waking self to achieve wholeness. Dreams offered a solution to a problem we are facing in our waking life.

I don't necessarily agree with that all the time but it is a theory out there.

So I take it you are afraid of your bf cheating on you so you dream about it to get rid of that fear, to relive the anxiety you have about it. It's your bodies way of dealing with it. I wouldn't worry all that much about it though.