Is hiding your self a bad thing.

I hide my life from my parents and I think I do it because my parents were leaving me aside and I got used to it and now that they want me to talk and be with them. I don't know is it right or am I making a mistake. can anyone help?

We are not always going to get along with our parents, sometimes we feel like they understand nothing and sometimes they just don't want to understand, but they are our parents and hopefully they have our best interests at heart. It is okay to keep some things to and for ourselves, but don't cut them out completely, you could find when you're my age you long for that closer relationship you could never bring yourself to have.

Yes.

that yes isn't in response to 'can anyone help', it's directed at 'is hiding yourself a bad thing.'

"pushing you aside" was probably a -mistake- and now they are trying to correct it. if you hold everything back you will bottle emotions and never be able to tell anyone how you feel. if you want to let things out, tell them, that is what they are there for. if they are showing interest it means they realise they didn't enough in the past.

Well i tell my mom everything....i mean evvvverything like things most ppl would never be able to tell their parents but thats jsut how me and her relationship is....but me and my dad arnt near that close i dont tell him much and i dont think thats a bad thing u have a right to keep to urself.

Well it's not that i don't want them in my life it's just that i got comfortable to the way they ignore me. now i just not comfortable now.

Well i kept alot of my life away from my parents and i kept it for so long i ran away from my problems (literally) but when i got brought home, i had to tell my parents alot of stuff like my problems and i think that brought me just a bit more closer to my step mom. but it pulled me away from my dad for a while. and that really sucked b-cuz im really close to him. so I think you should find little things to talk to ur parents about!! and if they dont listen.. u can PM me!!!

Sometimes it is, if you don't show your real self ever, than you lose your real self and you might be at risk of emotional illness... If you do hide yourself don't hide it from everyone, you need at least one person to know the real you.

We do not always get along with our parents and they do not always show us that they care. I know what it is like when your parents seem to "ugnore" you or not care too mich. And when they wanted to to talk about stuff I did not want to talk back to them. We talk, but I do not tell them the personal stuff or stuff about what my freiends and I do. My mom has quiet an idea and she brought it up. In time they wiull learn that there really isn't much they can do about it.

Hiding yourself is natural. You do it to protect yourself and avoid being hurt.

Your parents are making an effort for you to open yourself up to them but as you are doubting whether or not to, try explaining that you want to keep yourself to yourself but you will talk to them if and when you need to.

That way, they know that you can come to them but want to keep your privacy

Yeah. i think hiding my self is a great thing because whenever i show my self infront of people i think that they just don't want to see me and wish to get away from their faces.

" if you hold everything back you will bottle emotions and never be able to tell anyone how you feel."

^Excatly. If you don't talk to anyone about how you feel for a really long time you kinda forget how..you become shut down and it gets really hard to open up again. Sop I say you should try to keep your communication lines open before it gets too late.
Hiding yourself can be a bad thing, depends on who you're hiding from.

I dont see any problem with it, whenever i've opened up, ive gotten hurt. My parents put me aside too, its just the way it is, and when they try to pull you back, you can't go back.

I can relate here. My parents never cared for me when I need them to and even though they knew I badly needed their care and loving, they not only neglect my needs but they make it worst for me and now as an adult I have to endure the consequences.

Now, they wanted to talk to me and they like to assume that nothing has happened before and we should just act like we are one big happy family which I think its wrong and totally irresponsible. I can still forgive and forget if they do acknowledge their past mistakes and wanting to change.

But they are not, they just wanna assume things are alright. Well, I think if your parents do admit they were wrong before and wanting to change their ways and make amends, I think you should try giving them a chance. It all depends on the way you think of it. Do you think they are changing? If they are, please give them a chance.

I on the other hand are used to being neglected by them and now even if they want to care for me, I don't think I can take them as they are anymore. My love for them has gone cold and I believe, some things lost are gone forever, they don't exist in the lost and found anymore. They are eternally banished. Better cherish it....