We're friends....

I have this friends, but he is older... I tolf him I liked him after my mom and I talked about it. Well.. He likes me to. We talked about getting together and the risks and all that. Sometimes when we are talking he makes it sound as if we will get together. We are friends for now but I want more. Should I tell him how I feel???

Didn't you tell him how you feel or was that half?

"I tolf him I liked him..."

but either way yeah tell him how you feel, it's worth a try.

He's not of legal age.. I'll put it that way

Aveena:
I did tell him I liked him. My problem is that I think that right now I want to be more than friends. How do I tell him that??

Lol. He's twenty. And I know him in person. We've been friends for 2 years...

15&20 can't say nothing about that.

back to topic: I guess do whatever you want. just no that you might get hurt, and dont feel bad. and if you guys are buddy buddy close thigs would ALWAYS (most likely) be the same. I say tell him.

So... you were friends when you were 13 and he was 18? That seems a little sketchy. I can't imagine someone who's legally an adult being actual -friends- with a practically pre-pubescent girl. I'm sure it's possible, but it would be difficult for you to be of the same maturity level, so it seems more likely that he thought of you as a little kid. And now that you're 15... you've obviously grown up a bit, and he's probably noticed that. But... ok. I'm 20. If I imagine myself at 15... that's not even the same PERSON, do you know what I'm getting at? The difference between 20 and 25 isn't that much, but you... you still have to go through high school, whereas he's already been out for two years, probably has a real job, possibly has his own place.

In addition, it IS illegal. I just don't see what good interest an adult would have romantically in a child.

Agreed ^^ my friend hs a similar story lol same age everything.
he still called he a "little kid" and said "go home little girl" after she spilt her feelings to him. they still talk but it's awk. I agree with the above post. but also go with what YOU think you want.

Sibyllene, I love you.

It feels great to be among intelligent & mature people.

I definitely agree.

I would agree with Sibyllene.

But you should go with your heart, sometimes things will turn out not the way you think it would.

CHRISTIANNA

My maturity level is higher than most others my age. and to me he has always been like a kid at heart. Oh well. Doesn't matter

Honestly, everybody thinks that they are more mature than most people their age. And virtually nobody is.

I'm on the "don't date him" side. If you do, be really careful. Don't do anything you aren't ready for.

Let things develope in their own way. Don't hurry. You are still young. You have a lot of time to think. And about the feelings...I think feelings come with time...

But if you are planning some love confession, make sure he is not going to break your heart.. Or...I have a better suggestion... Wait until he talks about it. Then you can be more sure that you two have same kind of feelings..

Wait and think... Give your heart time. Think about how you feel exact.

Remember you have been friends. If you are going to be together and break up later your friendship will be gone or ruined.. You can loose something but also...you could get something.

Is it worth to take a risk?

Well.. I don'y know. I guess I will wait and see how things turn out. I htink I might like it more if we're just friends. that way nothing happens to wuin it. thanks everybody. I guess I just needed help relizing the different thinks that could happen

DO NOT WAIT AT ALLL!!!!! please dont.... i was in the same case... i didnt know whether i should tell her or not.. and i did. She is older then I am but shes 18 and im 15. Theres a difference... but not much of one if you think about it. Things worked out between her and I and we are really close. I would tell the other if i were you though.... things could work out well, chances are things wont get bad... if things dont work out. But make sure you think it through very well first

I odn't know. i think I'l keep things going the way they are and just stay friends. If he brings it up again I'll talk to him about and let him know that I don't think I am ready. He and I are close frieds. I don't want that to be ruind. He'd understand. He and I understand each other well..

You should build up the friendship and foundations of a relationship then try because there is nothing worse than losing a friend and a partner at the same time in love.

True. I agree. I really do not want anything to happen to us that would ruin our friendship. so if he brings it up I will tell him that I'm not ready for it. In all actuality, I'm not. He knows me enough to know that I won't do anything. and that's really what a lot of guys think about. I don't want to oput myself in that postion yet.

I say go for whatever your heart wants, but although good can come out of it so could bad...Just think of the consequences of each side. Although my best friend is 18 and her b/f is 29 and they have been going together for a little over 1 yr and they are still doing GREAT!!! But it's not always like that.

True. But your friends is also older and I'm sure more mature about this kind of stuff. Some have told me that we learn from our mistakes. But I don't want this to turn into a mistake that I'll regret or anything like that. I'm sure that when it comes to it I'll go with what I feel is right.

That's a very mature way of looking at it. : ) Good for you!

Good to hear that.

Thanks every body for helping me straighten this up in my head! Lol