on-off-on-off...long period...hurt...then back on??

OKay-if you really want the whole concept go read some of my older poems...most of them are about brian...but here's the basic story...

okay so i went out with him...for about 2 weeks, then kinda was pushed by my best friend to cheat on him with this guy i had liked for a while-so i did, broke up with brian the next day-and didnt tell him about chris (the other guy) for about 3 months. well i started liking brian again so i told him about the cheating thing, he forgave me, and we kinda started seeing more of each other and i fell in love with him, but prob was he had a girl friend. so he cheated on her for a few months with me and she knew it was goin on and wanted to kill me but he just kept tellin her it had stopped-and then it would start again and he would "stop" well then we were gona have sex but due to some difficulties we didn't (stuff that was my fault, embarrasing kinda) and then maybe i was just going overboard but it seemed to me like he stopped talking to me as much after i had kinda turned him down to have sex. so i told his girlfriend everything...mean words were said...and i cried so many nights. he told me he had been stringing me along just to pay me back and the last thing i heard from him for months was "payback's a bitch ain't it". so then many months later like 5 or 6 i was feeling like a smart ass and decided to send him and IM and just see what he would say. well it amazed me but he actually talked to me and everything was okay-well even though i had been hurt i still had always loved him and still do. well now tonite-after talking to him again for about a month...he starts asking me if i miss him and if i still like him and all this stuff...and i know that he must still like me. i've heard from a mutual friend that he does again and has been talkin bout me. well he just told me that he still loves me-and i love him too...but i don't know what to do.

any advice encouraged...thnx!!
--Sierra Rae

Sierra Rae, I dunno.

I mean, by the sounds of it, this guys sounds like a total player. I've sort of been in the same situation and (though we didn't "do it"), after things got really serious with us, he was gone.

It hurt me more than anything has ever hurt me in my entire life and I know I don't know you, I don't want that to happen to you.

Think about it really carefully. Don't let him treat you the way my ex treated me.

ya sry i didnt get back 2 ya guys-thnx for posting!

No he doesn't have a girlfriend right now...hasn't since he broke up with Racheal (the other girl) and ya I've told him that I still love him but I don't know what level that's on...like I can't get over him but im kinda cautious...and he's told me that he loves me and has all along. And stupid me I believe him...I know he does but he just isn't great at showing it.

He is kinda a player...but just a little interesting bit of info. when i went out with him (the 1st time...before the whole scandel) we went out for about a month and he didn't cheat on me, he quit smoking and drinking...and all this stuff...i know he really did love me. and he sais he's loved me all along.

but im bein careful for now...i guess i'll just take it a day at a time. Well thnx again!!

theres plenty fish in the sea !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! belive me i went tthrough the same thing ! "i love him"
but all he wanted was sex! not say brain does ! just sayin good luck

if you REALY do love each other and this isn't some 'dreaming-of what-could-be' thing then it'll work out. My bf and I had this trouble for the longest time and it got worse once he moved...but we've loved each other forever and it's all worked out now.
good luck with it all and I hope it works out!!!
-XoXo-
Samantha

you may think you want to go back out with him
i can pretty much relate

i still love her
and i would go back to her in a heart beat if she wanted me

love is love

love is death

you cant control neither of them

im not going to tell you what to do
because i hate people telling me what to do when it comes to my relationship with her

do what your heart tells you
not what your friends say

last time i checkd
my friends wernt close to what my heart feels

your friends may care for you

but "when love is on the heart
nothing is on the mind"
i just quoted myself
sorry

i really think you should do what your heart tells you to do

Well thank you. Ya-I think I can tell by some of the things he's doing that it's true this time. He actually offered to come by and talk to my parents-and he wanted to make sure that they knew within the next week cuz he didn't wana do any secret stuff. and we already cleared up everything in the past. I think it's real this time-and I'm so excited!!! Okay well thnx guys!!!

How complicated life is at times.

I hope you two work out nicely, keep your mind open just like your heart. Guys are mostly assholes and have hidden agendas, I know cause my guy friends are like that, despite how I am.

I'm too sugary.

Make sure to settle things, and communication is important. If there are secrets then your house of cards will tumble.