Grrr....

My parents make me soo freakin mad. i mean, i cant do anything anymore. i graduated friday.. i'm out of school, and i'm 18 and i have a car but... i cant do anything. its starting to get on my nerves, i feel couped up and its stressing me out... >=| ugh. i just wanna go out and have fun. i hate sitting at home; i hate being home. grrrrr.....

Yeah, I mean I just got in at 12:30 a.m. and I'm 16 and I was out with a 22 year old guy. My parents don't really care, but still, I'd want to know where my child was. I guess you sort of have to look at it through their eyes.

I know how you feel, im 26 and have just moved back home, and my mum treats me like im 12. It pisses mr right off.

Yhe only thing i can sugest is to get some of your friends and move out. You'll be with your mates and rent will be cheap.

Good luck with it.

I know how u feel also. Im 22 and live at home with with my baby girl. My mum still treats me like im young. Wants to know who im on the ph to, Where I go, Even wat time im going to be home. It annoys me so much. My suggestion to u is sit down and talk to ur parents. Just say you want a bit of freedom and just as long as they know where u are and contact u they should be cool. If not.....maybe wat 2weak2smile said!

Leave home for some days then call and tell them!

As long as you live at home, you have to abide by their rules. Their house, means Their rules. You don't like it, then move out. I had a 10:00 curfew till i moved out. (18) And i might have hated it, but i had to respect their rules. I live on my own now and STILL keep a 10:00 curfew for myself on the week days because i like having a schedule and getting enough sleep before work. They don't make rules and keep you under their thumb so to speak because they want to be mean. they do it because they care and because they can. Again, their house, their rules.

^ I disagree with this. At 18 you should have freedoms YES! But don't expect to go out all night and not let anyone know where you are. A 10 pm curfew is a bit ridiculous I get that. Your parents are there to keep you safe and out of trouble. They want the best for you and I'm sure they want you to have fun, as long as their mind is at ease with your well being.
You do live under their roof... but do you pay them rent? Do you buy your food? Your laundry soap? Hair products? Cleaning supplies? If yes more power to you! If not then it's NOT A "ROOMATE" THING! I have had roommates and my parents weren't one of them! Anyway, the point is that yes you should have freedom, and CONGRATS Graduate! Just try and be respectful of their wishes, and if those wishes are too much to handle then moving out is the best bet. I can tell you living on your own is hard... and all the stuff you don't pay for now as well as those things that you don't think you need (you need them) they all add up and it is very expensive. Please understand one more thing...THIS IS BRAND NEW! This is a brand new stepping stone in your life as well as your parents. They are transitioning just as you are. Be patient it does get easier. You just graduated and turned 18 pretty much every social door is open to you and that is super scary to a parent. The unknown is always scary. Iam sorry for blabbing on but both parties are correct just be gentle in your actions. Express to your parents what you need from them in an adult manner and the more they will treat you as one. =)

I'm twenty and I've lived alone, with mates, with partners, with parents, with other family, with strangers and in door ways and telling those who care about you where you're going or that you've nipped out or wont be back for a few days etc isn't about being treat like a child...its about appreciating that someone in the world wants to know you're safe and cares about what you're doing and where you're going. Make the most of it. Complain and lement when people stop asking, stop communicating, stop caring.

As for hatng being treat like a kid or whatever in your parents home...seriously...whoever's house you live in (unless it is your own: you pay all the bills, rent, your name on the contract or deed etc) you've to respect their rules...they've put a roof over your head at the very least.

If you dont like it then move out.

Everyone has a choice...make it and deal with it. Dont mean to sound harsh, but that's life.

You ain't a 'room mate' or house mate with your parent(s) unless the bills, rent or mortgage, water rates, TV license, phone line rental etc etc are paid for equally and that is without going in to who cleans what and when, whether food is communal and remember house mates dont buy your clothes or give you pocket money etc.

My mum (when I sometimes visit her and stay with her) is like a room mate because I do all of the above while I stay with her...but on top of that I still respect that if I come in at 3am it will probably wake and desturb her. Even house mates have boundaries.

I hear people, teens, kids and adults moan about finding it hard living in their parent homes and I do empathise, it isn't always easy, but take a look at the teens and kids on the streets and remind yourself that even they made a choice and followed it through...then imagine what their home was like for them to have chosen to live on the streets instead of with their parents or whoever. Imagine what its like facing robbery, rape, being beaten and even being pissed and spat on day and night, cold, lonely and tired everyday...and how kids choose that over living with thier rents. Imagine the homes they've come from.

We all have choices. Make them, learn from them and accept the consequences. That is life...and accepting that, instead of feling hard done by because of a cerfew etc is the difference between BEING a kid who needs telling and an adult who knows.

"^ That's complete bull. When you're 18, sure you have to respect their rules - but think of it as more of a "roommate" thing. Smart parents will treat their daughter/son differently, grown up, they'll give them more responsibilities, etc. They won't treat an adult as though they are a child.. because it doesn't make SENSE.I'm sorry but when you're in your 20's and you still live with your parents, it's kind of moronic to have a 10pm curfew, or not be able to go out at all, etc.."

Turning 18 doesn't mean you just turned 30 over night . You realize that 18 is still just a kid right? sure to the law it's a legal adult, but you can't just automatically assume "okay, you're 18 now. do whatever the hell you want" that's not the way it works. there's a difference between being 18 and being a mature adult who knows what to do.

yea, I know. you're on about how you should be able to go out as long as you want and all of that garbage. but that doesn't stop the right for the parents to not worry whether or not their child is stupid enough to end up somewhere dangerous overnight. yea, 18. when the law states you're an adult now. but all kids are different. you have to set boundaries. there's nothing wrong with parents setting curfews. you can't expect everyone to be so loose. people grow in their own pace.

But the thing is... i tell them where i go and who i hang out with, plus i dont drink. so therefore. why is it so hard to leave for a couple hours maybe 3 nights a week.?! and the house i go to isnt anymore than 5 minutes away. so if i need them i could call or whatever. it frustrates me to the extreme!

First of all, congratulations for your graduation.I am sure that your parents are worried about you,but try to convince them that you are their little girl anymore and now you are matured and self dependent.

I deff agree^^

You know, you can still survive without going out. I haven't left the house since I came home, which was...hmm...a few months ago? And I'm your age and I can't drive. I'm still content as long as I get Internet access and my music and guitar.

Lol yea family can def be really annoying ...but i mean look at the bright side...you have everythign there for you like money and all that.