A little guide to love

Ok, I have found that a lot of posts on this forum are about trying to understand relationships and common cases of cheating and mostly about people who have fallen in love for the first time. So my plan is to try help out those who are unsure in any way about to try to understand a bit better maybe helping with problems too. This thread is purely on personal basis as I have dealt with most things I think sharing will help other people understand things in a more clear light. Well that is my aim.

There are many questions you ask yourself when you fall in love? Am I doing things right? Am I being a good partner? How do I do things? And generally this leads to a lot of diversion in relationships.

Falling in love for the first time often turns out to be hard and really challenging. As most people are still finding themselves, when they fall in love it is hard to determine signals and signs from partners as most are in puberty and still have yet themselves to find never mind another person in their lives.

We (especially girls) tend to worry a lot also about cheating. Now although it is common people tend to smother their partners in fear of losing them to another person. It becomes common to read their text messages and maybe even call the girls/boys on their mobile phones. Usually leading to more confrontation and sometimes the cause of a brake in the trust. When you get fall for someone you have to trust your partners. Let go and they don’t come back? Not worth it, they would have cheated anyway. Let go, trust and they come back then you know it is worth fighting for.
Another problem with relationships is rumours. He said she said becomes a really strong issue in relationships hearsay becomes the main topic in the couple’s conversation. What you must understand is there are people out there to get and destroy you. Especially if you found something special before they have. Usually it is jealousy that leads to people making accusations about you or your partner but it can be down to all kinds of means, even just boredom. Again the trust issue comes in to play. It is down to you if you choose to believe what people say as it could well be true.

The point I am trying to make is that each relationship is totally different but rely on the one thing TRUST. If you do not trust your partner 100% then it is not a good idea to get yourself in deeper as you are set for heartache. There is no right and wrong way to progress relationships; they are about being you, which means listening to other people’s bias opinions should be left aside whilst your own views come first. Love is a natural and amazing part of life. Not everybody will find ‘the one’ first time round. But that does not mean give up after your first love. Putting doubts and thoughts into your own head is only going to disable you from being who you are.

I hope that has helped a few people, even it has helped just the one person it will be worth spending all this time on =)

Please note that this is just my view. You are welcome to post your own opinions and thoughts and contradict me in any way.

Alex xxx

Hey Alex...um thanks for that it was very helpful and very true. I have experenced rumors and cheating first hand, and yes it is very difficult. Trust and honestly in my opinion are the two most important things in a realtionship. Without them, what's the point? You'll most likely end up getting hurt or your heart broken!

This is really good.
Thanks for the effort!

CHRISTIANNA

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