Gah! i cant take it anymore!

So my ex sent me a comment on myspace. And we started talking again... and now im in tears!
I dont know what to do!
She was like... the best girl in the world. I loved her alot.. I think i might still love her... and then i went and turned my back on her. for two and half years we built up that relationship and just destroyed it all and now im literally stuck with some girl who only ever really hurts me... I dont know what to do! Sorry... i just had to vent a little.. I guess i just need to get over my ex... even though she's still the best.. *sigh* i did this to myself.

Even if you can't fix things with your ex, why stay in your current relationship? Obviously it is not working for you.

Theres no way my ex would take me back now. im not a virgin any more because of the girl im with... my ex and i actually wanted to wait becuase we valued it but the girl im with now gave it away to some other guy before me... oh well... i just needed to vent. thanks for reading guys.

"im not a virgin any more because of the girl im with"

You're actually not a virgin anymore because you chose not to wait any longer, own your choices.

It sounds like you had a good head on your shoulders and now you have made some questionable choices, you may not be able to get the ex back, but you can find someone who not only respects you, but also herself. You don't seem happy, so it can't be healthy.

Well i dont mean because of her like its her fault. i "because of her" as in she's who i had sex with first. i know its my fault. and accept all blame and resposibility. and i know my ex wont take me back either. i accpeted that a long time ago.. im just kind of like "gah i was such a stupid jackass"

Knowing better now doesn't rewind time. and my ex was really that rare once-in a life-time oppertunity. and i just kind of messed it all up. but i know its my fault so whatever.

Im sorry

I really am
you can PM me if you want to vent some more

After my current girlfriend I really don't want to meet anyone else... I know every teen says that and I know I said it after my ex but now its for way diffrent reasons than why I didn't want to date after my ex.

Incase she looks at my poetry...

Read "Crying by Candle Light" and "My Mask of Love"

My personal advice would be to talk to her about it. If you think your ex really influenced your values about sex, etc, then explain that to your ex girlfriend. If she is an understanding person, she'll at least listen to you. If you don't talk to her about it, then you'll wonder what could have happened if you did. Obviously your relationship is civil if you talked to her on MySpace.

She might have the same feelings for you. I know for a while after my ex and I broke up, I always wanted to message him but it was really awkward. I still sort of wonder what would have happened if him and I were still together now.

PS.
Even if your ex doesn't want to get back together, my advice would be to dump your current girlfriend. There's no use being with someone that destroys your values and hurts you.

I'd break up with her but she is sometimes really emotional and she says she likes me alot but she always changes her mind... I just dont want to hurt her.

That's really just a cop out. You don't stay in crappy relationships to spare anyones feelings, you both end up more hurt and angry in the end.

Well i could get her to dislike me first though then i could break up with her... but that would be mean. i just dont know what to do. i mean. if i wait till she actually likes me i could end up actually liking her and then if i break up with her now i ruined another oppertunity for a great relationship. or it could just get worse and worse and end up hurting more. you never know.

But if you don't break up with her
you don't...there is no way possible you could back with your ex

You're using your girlfriend.

You don't want to be alone, so you'll put up with her until you can get something better- like your ex girlfriend back. I think it's awful that you could treat a person like that. You really should break up with her. The poor girl would rather be alone than be your number 2 I'm sure.

I wouldn't try to get back with the ex either. You sound like you would be better off alone for a little while, until you sort out some of your own issues. Good luck.

Okay first.. Im not using anyone. I'm not afraid to be alone. thats stupid. second i dont want to get back with my ex. i mean sure sometimes i wish i could and i regret breaking up with her but that doesn't mean i want to get back with her. third my ex and i are still getting to be just friends finally so there's no love/hate now. fourth the current girl im with... well you people really don't know her at all. Also i've been used before, i know it sucks and i know what it feels like. there is no way id ever "use" anyone. im not tring to get back with my ex, im not going to try to. but trying to make things better and right with my current girlfriend would be a good thing. i dont completely dispise my current girlfriend and it will take alot of work to patch things but if she understand and we're both honest our relationship could only grow stronger. dont you think?

Alright, honestly, these posts make no sense at all.

Your girlfriend doesn't seem like the only one that changes her mind a lot. It's you too. Maybe that's the problem.. you both can never make up your minds.

You talk about how you feel like you may still love your ex, that no one could ever compare to her, and then you praise your girlfriend. It's confusing. You seriously need to take a break from dating or something. Sounds like you honestly don't know what you want. I'm not trying to be mean, it's just the truth. That's really how I feel after reading everything.

I do praise my ex alot its just that i realise that her and i cant go back to being together. so i wont even try. and alot of stuffs happened in the last three days since this thred started

"the current girl im with... well you people really don't know her at all."

You're right, we only know what you tell us. Which is, so far, that she hurts you and she's not as good as your ex. To put it bluntly- you don't know what you want. And I really believe you are using your girlfriend- that's how it's coming across. You don't need a relationship right now. From experience, I can tell you that you need to be alone to work on yourself before getting into a relationship.

How would you feel if your girlfriend went on about how great her ex-boyfriend is, and you will never be as good as him? I'm sure it wouldn't be a nice feeling.

In a way you are using your girlfriend

why stay with someone you are not truly happy with...give her a chance and let her go...

and tell the girl you want what you feel

My gf did go on and on about how great her ex-boyfriend was. thats why i never mention or hint towards my ex-girlfriend to my current girlfriend.

You know the funny thing is i dont remember asking for advice.... just the need to "vent".... lol =D

"You know the funny thing is i dont remember asking for advice.... just the need to "vent".... lol =D"

It's an open discussion forum, not a blog. If you don't want our opinions, don't post.

I really dont get the problem... break up with your current girlfriend and go after your ex. I know its easier said then done. Well i tell you know, you are only making it difficult for yourself.... It good and all that you dont wanna hurt your current gf's feelings... but you have to realize shes doing it to you everyday you are with her. Realize that and put a stop to it...

And the whole thing "My other girlfriend will not take me back now im not a virgin".... i really dont get where that is a big deal.. i mean yeah its something different.. but should not make a person change that much. I like a girl and shes is not a virgin... my mind is not thinking any different about her. I love her to death...

Explain the situation to your ex and tell her what happened exactly... if you love her you will do that... and if she isnt a complete jerk.. ( not saying she is ) then she will listen to you... and you never know what will happen till you try...

Thats all i got

best of luck

Im not saying you guys can't offer your advice but just because you all offer the same advice doesn't mean its the right advice or that i need to take it. so if you have a problem with me living my own life you can voice your opinions just don't say things like

"How about you just do what you want to do, since you dont want to take our advice?"

follow up by

"Hahahaha it was either going to be me or you that said it :) looks like you beat me to the punch.

Do you not see the frustration advice givers have when people are so all over the place like this. Make up your mind on what you want before you confuse us please and thanks."

because you don't need to be an advice giver.

i respect your opinion and your voices but those posts don't sound like you respect mine. especially when its said by a moderator. i mean there's millions of poems site what makes you think i need to use yours Ms.Moderator? don't you want more poets on here anyway? and all of my poems that are rated are at least 4/5 actually only ones 4/5 the rest are all 5/5. if you ask me i look pretty good for this site. you might want to keep me around. i make YOU look good www.poems-and-quotes.com. my profile proves it so don't tell me otherwise.

Your poems are only 5/5 because pretty much nobody has rated them, so yeah we really dont need you here. =)
and you dont have to be so mean!

I was not being mean. the thing about the internet is that you cant hear my tone. im actually usually never mean or mad. im just saying. that you guys cant really get angry and me for living my own life. and i know you NEED me but im sertainly not harming the site.

And you all make it seem like im wrong.

"its people like you that make me happy i like girls" its comments like that... that's exactly what im talking about.

Sleep well. sweet dreams

Okay okay everybody calm down geeze... No hard feelings here. Really I don't care about those things you guys said. "Stick and stones" ya know? I'm just a little bit upset that you guys got mad when I didn't take your advice. If someone was really really depressed and they went on a forum venting about wanting to kill themselves and people just started advising them to go ahead and kill themselves doesn't mean that suicide is the right decision. I know this is nothing like that but the point is: it's MY life I'm going to live it the way I want.

I Just thought the Poems and Quotes community was more supportive of it's members... Especially the moderators. But I guess not. =/

I totally have to agree with every single poster on here except for the person who created this thread.

I'm sorry but you really just are not making sense. This IS a discussion board. If you didn't want to hear our opinions or see what we have to say about the situation, then just don't post here! It's that simple. If you wanna vent and not get opinions then why don't you go out and buy a journal? That's what they're for. I have one myself for when I don't feel like telling people about my problems.

And really, there are some amazing authors on this site. You're not the only person that does good at poetry writing. There are tons and tons of poems and writers here, losing one will not be a problem. I'm close to getting three platiumn awards, I already have a platiumn favorites, and I don't think you can say that. Yes, we care about all of our members, but bringing that up was totally unnecessary. This forum isn't even about your poetry writing. It's about love and romance, hence the title. So don't try to make it be. None of us feel sorry for you so stop trying to make us.

Also, do not write all of this and then tell us you don't wanna hear our opinions. Don't start crap. This isn't somewhere to argue with people because you have issues and you're mad because we're telling you that you're wrong. And quite frankly do not attack Amanda for not sugar-coating things with you. So what if she's a mod? It's her job to help the members of this site.

You ARE using your girlfriend to make you feel better about losing your ex, case closed. Yes, we don't know her, but we know exactly what you tell us. She sounds like a little brat from what you're saying that only hurts you. You talk about how amazing your ex is. If you wanna be with her so badly, then go for her. Your girlfriend doesn't deserve to have her man talking about how much more amazing his ex is than her behind her back. That is horrible and you're wrong for putting her through it. Sounds like you aren't a good pair. That you don't know what you want. So just go single for awhile. It won't hurt anyone to take some time for yourself to think and set your mind straight. Sounds like you need it.

*sigh* listen people please because im only going to say this once more:

1)i DO respect all of you and your opinions.
2)You guys need to respect my choises.
3)I never asked for advice and im NOT mad that you gave me advice
4)I'M NOT USEING MY CURRENT GF
5)What bad did i say about you guys? I just stated the obvious and quoted, NOT mocked you.
6)I KNOW im not the high-and-mighty of P&Q but im not a bad writer. sure you dont NEED me but i dont NEED you either. see?
7)PLEASE don't get mad at me for voicing MY opinions and expect me not to get mad at you for voicing yours.

Im not trying to start a fight. Im not trying to provoke anyone. You guys can't hear my tone but Im very calm.