Funny how things work :)

I was reading my old discussion topics, and one of them was about a guy that I really wanted to date, but he said he had family troubles, so he couldn't date me.

Now looking back at it over a year later, we dated for five months and I ended up dumping him.

I consider it entirely amazing that us girls can completely fall for a guy and have our disposition change so completely.

Have you ever wanted someone so bad and found out they weren't worth your time?

Omg, I really do know what you mean. I've been through it. Gah!

I really wanted to be with this guy named Ray. But we had a lot of problems in our relationship. He skipped school a lot before we dated so he failed his senior year. He used to party a lot and always got drunk. So when I became his girfriend I tried my hardest to help turn his life around. I even got him to go back to school and actually stay there.

Everyone besides me though could see how unhappy I was. I really wanted to be with him, because he was sweet to me when we were alone, but was a totally different person infront of other people. His family, his friends, etc. We argued a lot too. We finally ended up breaking up because we got into a HUGE arguement one day. I had asked if he still wanted to be with me and he exploded. Then he took it out on his dad so his dad sent him off to boot camp so we had no way of getting in contact with one another.

I met someone else though. A guy so amazing and that no matter what, I just can't let him go. So I'm happy it didn't work between us. Looking back on things I can see all of the flaws in our relationship and why it just wouldn't work anyways. He definitely wasn't worth my time. I can see that now.

Exactly! When you take a step back and look at the whole picture, you realize some people should have never used up your time.

Funny isnt it. In School this year we were suppose to write a thesis statement about anything. I was completely dumbfounded about the whole thing. I was then thinking about an ex I once had and how stupid the whole thing was. I loved her ( or so i thought ) and i was blinded by everything. I then gained my thesis... "Those who are deeply in love are often blinded by the bad things the person really poses". Earned me a 100 on that paper.

My ex later found out and gave me crap for it.... but i was still happy...

Yeah kinda makes you think the person your with now really doesn't mean shit at all :D lol, just like the person you were with then really didn't either, although we would never admit it now just like we wouldn't admit it then... but when you look back, and that person isn't what you selfishly perceived them to be you think less of them. However if you had never been with them at all, I bet you would still be attracted. Really makes you wonder if something as intangible as love even exists at all or if its just a term we use to make ourselves feel content based on what we think of a person at the time. Our current partners only suffice until we get bored, or find something better but until then we think the world of them lol... then a few months down the road were like wtf was I thinking?... We're all in love with the idea of love, but lack the will or devotion to actually be. Just a thought.

I only have one thing to say -

You learn from your mistakes

:D

And man are some people mistakes in the end, hah.

Lol nice DJ i really like wat u said :)

Ya i kinda kno wat u mean. like me and this guy were off and on for a year and half...but it seemed to me i was the only one fighting to keep us together but then i met this guy(now my bf) and im so much happier. but like i ended with this guy that ended up loving me but i didnt think he was worth my time ne more.

Haha Thanks its definitely a cynics point of view, but it really pisses me off how everyone is so quick to place the blame on other people, we all think so highly of ourselves that if something didn't work out as planned we immediately assume the other person was at fault or a mistake. Maybe we are the mistakes. They say when you blame others you give up your power to change, its as though we're all confident we are flawless and so we refuse to grow. We all readily look around for change that needs to take place, yet we seldom look within. The biggest problem with relationships is when they come to an end we say it wasn't meant to be, or the other person wasn't worth it and we move on thinking ourselves better then they are. We turn ourselves into these arrogant emotionless machines, each flawless by our own design and we throw something as beautiful as love away without a care. Then we expect it to come our way again because we are so sure we deserve it. Sad world. Love is something that needs to be fought for at all costs.

Agree