Sex before or after merrage?

should ppl wait or do whatever?

i'm in quite a pickle over this myself... on the one hand, the bible says we should... but on the other hand, it's the 21st century. and i don't think having sex before marriage is that big of a deal anymore... i mean, im not saying have sex with anyone you meet, it should be someone you truly love and have been with for more than 5 months.

Well, way back when {lol}, I'd say that I wasn't going to have sex until I got married. Then I met this guy, whom I am still madly, and crazily, in love with.

I'd already been raped when I was younger, and I knew he knew but pretended like I didn't {he's my best friend, that's a guy's, cousin...so yeah}. Well anyways after about a 1 year and some odd months, I was finally out of my good-girl days and had sex with him.

Unfortunately when we weren't 'together' {we never really dated; just off and on} anymore, I was just all lost a confused and I made a lot of stupid mistakes.

The first one was when I met this fine as hell guy at the fair, and after less than 48hrs. I slept with him. Of course after his girlfriend found out, and he denied it, he never talked to me since. In a civil way at least. He did yell at me once. Lol.

The second was basically the same. This guy I knew for about a week, but only saw him once before the time we had sex. I'm not sure how I feel on that one though. He was really cool, nice, sweet, and all though.

Then me and Danny got back together {recently} and this past Saturday I saw him. Just take a wild guess. Although anything I do with Danny I'll never regret because I love him with my whole heart. Lol. Anyways, I'll have to say: take this post how you wish.

Always,
Manda

it depends on the person. id say to wait until your old enough to accept the consequences of your act (pregnancy) if ever there are any. but if you really love the guy and think hes your true love, then go right ahead. so im kind of in between.

we should wait for marrige becuase thats what the bible says!!

before marriage id say, just make sure its the right person! xxx

I say do what u want u never know if ur going to get married or not and u wont know if it was the right decision until u do it.
Lisa

After

personally i think you should wait cuz there are a lot of things you have to risk!! at least when your married, you'll know that your spouse is true and only makes love to you so you have nothing to worry about!! on the other hand..if you know that your ready and able to take all the responsibilities that can come along with it..go ahead!!

a lot of people have different opinions on this I see

I am in a relationship now that is almost certain to lead to marriage later this year. We are committed to abstaining from sex until we are married. This was not a decision primarily based on religious beliefs, fear of pregnancy or STD’s. For me, I believe this is a constructive and realistic approach to the ultimate success of our relationship. It takes a long time for two people to really get to know each other thoroughly. During the remaining time before our marriage, I want our priorities to be in sharing communication, companionship, friendship, fun and romance in ways through which we will continue to develop a better understanding of each other. I want to have every confidence in knowing that we are mutually suited to share our lives together. What I don’t want is to risk the chance that our judgement and vision may become clouded by feelings of hormone-fueled euphoria or emotional bonding resulting from sexual intimacy. Sharing sex does alter a relationship and has a tendency to quickly become the highest priority in the relationship. I look forward to sharing the joy of that kind of physical intimacy after our wedding. But until then I really want to be guided by my head as well as my heart.

This is one of several important things that we discussed thoroughly right at the very beginning of our relationship. We spent nearly three weeks traveling together and so remaining abstinent during all this time hasn’t exactly been easy, especially since both of us have been married before. But all worthwhile goals require disciplined efforts to achieve.

Hey I believe in waiting till your married which is what i'm doing although many poeple think i'm stupid and that they couldn't wait till that long but it's just something i believe in other people think it's very good of me as some poeple couldn't stick to that

i agree people should wait but you cant make some one listen...

People should do whatever the feel comfortable with. I mean some people go through their lives never having had sex where as others can't live without it!

As long as people aren't being abused or having sex at a really young age then there is no harm. I believe that it's their body so they can do what they want with it. As long as they don't go hurting loads of people in the process.

Nici.

You're right. It is a personal choice and it is up to each person to make an informed decision based on an individual viewpoint.

for fucks sake,. u give the most fuckin dumb fuckin neagtive fuckin commets. cant u give fuckin kids fuckin postive fuckin advice. fuck u make me fuckin sick