Honesty

Why do people often mistake honesty for hostility? I'm not trying to be mean, I just prefer to tell the harsh truth rather than some sugarcoated version.
I'm tired of hearing people tell me what they think I want to hear so I don't do it to anyone else. I don't spare people the truth just so I won't hurt their feelings.
What do you think about this?

I agree totally

I do that, but it's only because the truth is hard to say, sometimes it's doesn't only hurt the person you are confessing to it hurts you too. That's why I do that but it really is frustrating to deal with, and I'm trying to be more honest instead of telling people what I think they wanna hear... nowadays it's effecting my morals cuz I'm breaking promises I've made to myself, last time I tottally broke down in front of my whole class cuz I'm so sick and tired of doing what they want me to do.

So do i!

I agree honesty is important as long as you say it in a tactful way

for example someone asks you what you think of their dress (it's really really hideously ugly) you could reply with

a) Ewww OMG that is the most hideous dress I've ever see in my life and it makes you look fat! ...which might be truthful, however it's not tactful

instead you can say something like

b) you know, i don't think that dress is very flattering on you...sounds much better, is still honest and getting your feeling across

what do you guys think...is that sugarcoated?

Totally agree. why can't people just be upfront about stuff. i am.

EXP: my best friiend once asked me if she looked fat in a prom dress fitting. now the NICE thing to do would've been to tell her no. but i told her straight up she looked like a cow. she wasent offended as i though she'd be she simply tried on the next one. and she looked stunning in that one. now i just saved her from looking horrible at prom.

so honesty may not ALWAYS be like that, but hey it won't kill anyone to be nice every once and a while.

=]

I agree with lll T uh Belle lll,
there are two main ways to approach
being completely honest: in a tactful,
constructive way, and then: in a somewhat
stinging and indignant manner. To me, honesty
is one of the most important things in any relationship,
but you can't just be mean about it all the time. Constructive criticism is meant to be digested and
learned from. And if you're too blunt, most people
will just shun the comment. However, there comes
a time when people need to be smacked upside
the head with honesty in an abrupt, harsh way.

I think you can be honest and refrain from hurting others.put a little thought into your words.I actually think people sometimes use honesty as an excuse to be rude. why is one any better than the other.

The truth will come out in to long run so might as well be honest up front!

"I actually think people sometimes use honesty as an excuse to be rude."

^Hmm, there's a difference between being honest and being rude. That's actually what I'm trying to point out here.

Well honesty they say is the first chapter in the book of success so whatever you want to do or achieve just start it honestly

Yes, i totally agree with you, because sometimes the truth really hurts..

I agree...when I ask someone for their opinion I expect to hear what they really think.