Torn between my love and best friend.

So no one gets confused, we'll call my best friend "Bunny" and my boyfriend "Wolfy." (His last name is Wolf, so it fits!)

Back in January, I moved from the school that I'd been going to since kindergarden, and I came to live with my dad. I have friends here, and I have a boyfriend who's been my friend for almost ten years.

I keep having dreams that Bunny is always mad at me, but when I was going to school with him, he asked me to every dance, but I'm not a "school dance," person, so I would always say no...

I'm really nervous because this Sunday, Wolfy is going with me to see my friends at my old school, and Wolfy thinks that Bunny wants me... I'm scared, because Wolfy is the type of person that he'll beat up anyone that likes me as anything more than a friend... I don't have any "more than friends" feelings for Bunny, but I don't want him and Wolfy to hate eachother, because it's always, "choose one and drop the other," and I love them both dearly... Wolfy as my soulmate, and Bunny as my brother.

Are these dreams my brain's way of warning me? X_X

Bunny knows about Wolfy, and vice verse, and they've talked on the phone before, but it was before Wolfy started thinking that Bunny likes me.

Me and Bunny have never dated, but I did think about it after he asked me out, and before I was with Wolfy. I told myself that it would be too awkward, because we're best friends, and that's as much as I can bring myself to be with him, even if Wolfy and I broke up...

I've asked Wolfy to be on his best behavior, and not hurt Bunny or yell at him, and he just says, "I'll be nice to him as long as he keeps his distance."

But, Bunny is a really huggy person. He loves giving and getting hugs. He's a really easy person to get along with, and he loves everyone, but it's Wolfy that I'm nervous about.

What can I do to make sure that the two don't fight? I can't just keep them seperated, because I need to spend time with Bunny, and Wolfy doesn't like me being around guys alone PERIOD.

Honestly? Sounds like your boyfriend has some control issues that can end up getting out of hand. You should be allowed to hang out with whoever you wish, whether they be male or female. If you are trustworthy, it shouldn't matter at all. I would never give up my friend for my boyfriend and if he ever laid a hand on him out of stupid jealousy he wouldn't be my boyfriend much longer.

^ I totally agree.

Hunni.... jealousy like that is not good. If your boyfriend feels this way when you come in contact with another human being, things will not end up well. Some day he could end up seriously hurting someone for no reason. Then he'd have to spend time in jail.

You have to sit him down and really talk to him. If he trusts you, if he loves you, he won't go over-board with things. You know better than to do anything with another guy. Especially with your own friend that you have no romantic feelings for whatsoever. He has to know how important your friendships are and how much this means to you.

If you let this go on, not only will it make yourselves miserable, but everyone else around you. It'll totally destroy your friendships because the people you've known and loved for so long would be too afraid to talk to you while you have a maniac boyfriend. You know?

Anyways... I hope you talk this advice and really think things through. Good luck to not only you, but your friend, and your boyfriend.

He says that he trusts me, he's just scared because his other girlfriends cheated on him. I keep telling him that they weren't in love with him, and I would never do that to him... My old friends ARE scared of him, because one's a vegetarian, and he talks about hunting, and she got scared and told everyone about it. All of my friends are kinda on edge about meeting him, and he's not helping at all, because he wants to go, dressed in a shirt with bullet holes and blood on it. X_X I asked him not to, because Sunday is my vegetarian friend's piano recital, and he says that I can't tell him how to dress. "I'm not telling you how to dress, I'm asking you not to dress like that at a piano recital. D="

Kayla: o_o; Your post actually made me nervous. He's told me before that if anyone hurts me, he'll kill them, and he's not scared of jail (he went to juvie, but I don't know what for).

But, I'll try to talk to them seperately first, then get them to talk and get along. Or at least PRETEND to. X_X

Exactly.. with that attitude, that's where he's going to end up. He needs to figure out quick that he's not the only one that matters. You love your friends dearly as well. It's also not your fault that his ex-girlfriends decided to cheat on him. That's their fault and you had nothing to do with it. So he shouldn't put the blame on you. That's exactly what my ex-boyfriend Ray did to me and look where we're at now... not together, not talking. And his attitude got so bad that his dad sent him off to bootcamp.

I wouldn't be with a guy willing to snap my best friend in half though. It's not right. He should stop acting this way. At least calm himself down a little and try to get along with these people that you care a lot about.