Ideas on abusive relationships...

What do you think would be considered an abusive relationship? Meaning on the mentally abusive aspect of it.

OH dear god, you want to talk about being mentally abused. MUAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHHA

Im your perfect subject seriously.You can run all your test on me. My ex cheated on me with my ex bestfriend and he wanted alot of pain to befall me, im not sure for what reasons. I was rather a very humble and optimistic person. But my ex who i loved would make fun of me everyday, kick my back pack down to the ground and whenever i was near she would throw a great insult. She always loved saying how pathetic i was. How ugly i as and weak. She wrote me notes saying how i always screwed up. I actually still love her to this day and its been two years. She than also spread some rumors around my groups of friends. She loved pointing out all my flaws and I was trying to help her because my exbestfriend was just using her. It hurt so much and my mind, oh my mind it changed so much, i was absolutely going up and down for a year after our relationship. I really think it totally transformed my mind. I think darkly now, I also like intellectual topics and philosphies. I actually believe im much wiser now and far stronger than before. For what doesnt kill you can only make you stronger.

There are many types of mental abuse. Whether it's with manipulation or name calling. I seem to find myself in those types of relationships all the time. Name-calling and mind games are just as bad as physical abuse. The bad part is these days its become extremly common in relationships. No one should ever have to settle for any type of abuse. No matter how much they love that person.

Ah! That's what it is... Mind games. My boyfriend is contantly playing those mind games and being kind of shady.

There are so many forms of mental abuse. It may not seem like anything bad. Your other half calling you fat, or something all the time, could be considered mentally abusive.

It ranges from many things -- to simple name calling to extreme continuous harassment in both romantic relationships, friendships, and family.

Supposedly, I was an example of someone "mentally abused." Throughout the past four years, everyone has found the need to thrash my sense of self. It started in sixth grade because of a guy I liked-- I had a large group of eighth grade guys (all his friends) who would continuously, basically stalk me through the halls, poking fun at me and throwing all my feelings in my face. Half of my friends, which was practically the whole sixth grade, decided that they were better than me and told me to go die because of rumors that one of my other exes started. Half of another middle school wanted to kill me; they harassed me online, at night with continuous phone calls and voice mails, and they even started going through my friends to get to me.
Seventh grade, half my school hated me, along with the ninth grade class of a high school because three of my ex-boyfriends decided they were pansies and couldn't live without getting revenge on me for dumping them. Eighth grade, the ninth and tenth grade class hated my guts, and spread lies. Over thirty people at EACH of seven different high schools in my city had heard of me--and trust me, I did NOT appreciate random people on the street continuously coming up to me and calling me names and screaming at me for doing this and that, when I didn't know what the heck they were talking about. I entered high school this year and got dirty glares and stares every corner I turned because my most recent ex, twisted everything I said and made me look like I crushed his heart and soul. It was sickening, and even now, I can't walk through Chinatown or Downtown without running into SOMEONE who wants to kick my face in, but my old violent track keeps them at bay.

Mentally abusive relationship is hard to define under one category...

Well..what I have witness about being mentally abuse...let me share.

When.. My parents hold a strict discipline at home. They kind of created a lot of fears inside me. They raised me so I think I was never good enough in anything I did. I did great at school but everytime I showed them my exam papers..I got no support back. My mom was always comparing me to my sisters... I felt I was the ugliest person in this world.
I love my parents...because they brought me in this world...and I respect them in many reasons.. But I think they were doing this mental abusing to me.. Just like one of my big sis.

Another example.. My primary school...dear God...I really don't understand what I had done to deserve the kids were so cruel to me. They said so many bad things about me...Like I am so ugly and unattractive... I heard this crap 6 long years...

More examples...lol... My ex...whom I told all the bad memories I had been through... Start mocking at me... Abused me...in mentally.. He drove me nearly suiciding myself...

Well...this is what I have been through.

I still recieve a lot of mentally abusing from my big sister's side because I converted to islam..

What I do now is trying to keep these people who are abusing me mentally very far from me for my own sake.

"i would rather be hit and get my ass kicked then be mentally abused bc pain on the outside goes away"

The abuse on the outside seeps into your inside as well...physical abuse is as well mental abuse...

I have been thru it, and either way it's not something I take lightly. I'm just stating a fact on my side, I wouldn't prefer either.

I prefer also not to be a statistic, I honestly prefer to be completely honest an say one is the same as the other. That again is my opinion and in the right I'm intitled to it.

To me, when I was hit, I was hit and when I was downgraded, I was downgraded...at no point did I ever once feel that I'd like one over the other.

How long isn't important, you could be abused one day and still, it's painful. As if it did matter, I was raped from age 5-10 after that it was alot of mental and physical abuse until I was 14. I've only had one abusive boyfriend and I left him after he hit me once...again I choose happiness over the normailty from my childhood.

I'm 24 now and have changed alot over my years. I don't hate the person for doing it, I don't forgive it either.

I never meant to insult you as being a statistic, sorry if you felt I did.

I was in an abusive relationship with my last boyfriend, it wasnt so much physically abusive as extremely verbally abusive. It was probably one of the worst things that ever happened to me. I remember doing almost everything i could do to forget the hurtful things he was saying.
he didnt only insult me and treat me like crap but he insulted my mom and made her cry and my family and friends.
and then he would sit there and tell me how much he loves me and im like....how can u say such a lie. If someone truly loves someone then they could never even think of hurting the other one.

Abusive relationships are a very ugly side of the thing that we call reality, but its definitely not something that we call love.

I have bounced back though and realized that not all guys are the same, do not hold it against all guys just because you had one bad experience, that is one good thing i realized out of this terrible situation i endured.